boyfriend pisses me off. Options

[criime scene x]

[font=Arial][size=1]basically, i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a month. [a year and a month tomorrow] and we really like eachother. and we recently had a break last week and it made us completly miserable. anyways.
we're ok now but sometimes he just annoys me or pisses me off with little things he says or does.
i'm kinda sick of it. but i know that if we were to break up, i'd be miserable.

i dont know what to do.

we've already tried to hang out less.

but thats not working.

[crazi_in_love_08]

what kinds of things does he do to make you mad ?.. im in a similar situarion

[myplasticfriends]

just break up with him and don't even try to be friends. you don't need to be dealing with that. If you can't stand the way is acting talk to him. if he doesn't change drop him and don't talk to him. if you still talk to him after that you will fall for him again and end up going through this situation all over again.

[silver-rain]

Hmm, I kind of understand what you're going through. But what exactly does he say/do that pisses you off? I think you should talk to him about this and see what the real problem is. But, if this is an ongoing problem and you two have talked it over and there is no solution in sight, then you probably should break up.
But you two should first sit down and talk this over and let him know what some things he does or say pisses you off.

[technicolour]

COMMUNICATION

A good relationship is based on this, and frankly, if you aren't going to talk you're going to break up soon.

Maybe he can try not to do those things, but seriously, you two just need to talk.

[criime scene x]

like, i'll say something, and he'll try to make me look stupid.

or.

he'll correct me but if i do it to him, he'll get all weird.

or we'll be playing around, and he starts taking things seriously and than not talk.
also, he brings up my ex a lot. and theres no need for that.

[Flavored Condom]

Dump him. it was gonna end anyways. What'd you expect? get married?

[*My Cinderella.*]

Maybe you guys should try talking things out, what is it about the little things he does that makes you mad? I think communication is best. If you continue to ignore what's bothering you, then it's only gonna make you more unhappy.

or we'll be playing around, and he starts taking things seriously and than not talk.
also, he brings up my ex a lot. and theres no need for that.

I have a similar problem with my boyfriend sometimes. He just stops talking and gets really sarcastic. It makes me wanna strangle him. My advice for you, try to work it out with him (show him that you're serious) and if he's not willing to cooperate...then we'll take it from there.

[insanityislaughi...]

It doesn't seem like much is working for you two. That's a tough situation. Just ask yourself, were you happier before you were going out with him, or are you happier now? Don't keep thinking that it could go back to the way it was before, because that is never going to happen. If he's annoying you, I'd say break it off.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

COMMUNICATION

A good relationship is based on this, and frankly, if you aren't going to talk you're going to break up soon.

Maybe he can try not to do those things, but seriously, you two just need to talk.

Agreed. If he makes you sick of him, and he get's all weird and makes you feel stupid or puts you down, is that somebody you'd really like to stay with longer.

[*xcaitlinx*]

gaahh...are all boys this way? my boyfriend makes sarcastic remarks a lot and when i get pissed about it he says that im too sensitive. as a matter of fact, we got into a fight about that today.

gaahh...are all boys this way? my boyfriend makes sarcastic remarks a lot and when i get pissed about it he says that im too sensitive. as a matter of fact, we got into a fight about that today.

[REBELnDISGUISE]

You sound like one of my friends. Shes always arguing with her boyfriend getting mad at him. But they always kiss and make up in the end. If you really love him, I think you should just work it out and see it through. I'm sure this problem will pass.

[IceCream4U]

To say it bluntly, dump him. You won't like it, but it's probably what your heart is screaming out at you to do. You don't need to be miserable, you didn't do anything, so don't beat yourself up about it. Don't care if he's miserable, because obviously he earns it.

[marzipan]

drop him like a sack of potatoes

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

Well I don't know what you're going through b/c my boyfriend doesn't piss me off, but sometimes he makes me mad, but in a cute way && I forgive him b/c of that babyface he always puts on && I jusst can't stay madd at a face like that. The fights we get into aren't really fights && they aren't that serious.. .. && when I'm away from him I'm completely miserable like right now he's in Cali while I'm stuck in boring ass Ohio.. So anyway what does he do to annoy you? Like does it have anything to do with immaturity b/c if you guys have been together that long then I suggest to him that he start being a little more serious.. && that you guys relationship is a little bit more serious than what is started off in the beginning && he needs to start growing up && respectin you.. But it also depends what he does to annoy you.. So I don't know the complete story.. && I haven't heard his side so I can't be the one to judge. But like the old saying goes..

"It's not the characteristics of a person that you love them for, it's the little imperfections about them that make you fall completely head over heels in love with them"

In order to have a commited relationship you have to also love their flaws.. && really once you start to love their flaws they really aren't flaws anymore they're more like perfections about them that you just had to learn to love about them even more!!.. If you can do that.. then I'm sure your relationship will work out for the best && stay strong for a long time!..

[Paradox of Life]

To say it bluntly, dump him. You won't like it, but it's probably what your heart is screaming out at you to do. You don't need to be miserable, you didn't do anything, so don't beat yourself up about it. Don't care if he's miserable, because obviously he earns it.

Exactly!! You should both be bringing each other up, not down!! Forget about this kid. If he's worrying you like this, what kind of relationship is it?

[REBELnDISGUISE]

drop him like a sack of potatoes

ha! I like potatoes...

[5weetness]

my friend went through the same thing, the best thing to do is break up because your just going to be frustrated if things are still the same next year..or next month!
if he pisses you off then let him know, communicate with him

[NgocQuyen]

that kind of don't make any sense to me. if you're not happy in the relationship that you're in then you need to get out of it, but if you get out of it you won't be happy? well if you're not happy when you're not in the realtionship maybe it's not not having the person that makes you unhappy, maybe it's all in your head. like you need to have a relationship or something. i think the reason you're "miserable" is because you let yourself be miserable. if you would try to have a little fun while you're not with him maybe that would help some? i don't know i just don't think that it's possible to be unhappy with a person yet be unhappy without them.

[misoshiru]

COMMUNICATION

A good relationship is based on this, and frankly, if you aren't going to talk you're going to break up soon.

Maybe he can try not to do those things, but seriously, you two just need to talk.

What Kristina said. You should talk things out with him, about what's working and what's not.

[lavandercat]

[size=4]Aaaahhhhhhh......... I've been in one of those relationships before, sorta reminds me of a dog that's chasing it's tail and then bites it's self in the backside and wonders why it hurts. Don't stress about things, you just need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself afew serious questions (1) do you think that your in a co-dependant relationship??? (2) does your partner make you feel good about who you are or do they pull you down at every chance??? (3) how do you treat each other, respectfully or with frustrated contempt??? (4) do you like who you are as a person when your with your partner (now that's a biggie)??? People grow and change, you might have just started to outgrow the relationship, it does happen to people.

[imnoxonesmemory]

i'm in a similar situtation. basically you gotta talk about it. and at the same time be more understand towards him.
like.. is he being blunt with you ? or not talking much ?
with the situation i'm in now.. he's not paying much attention to me.. so i pay less towards him.
just try talking to him nicely & tell him how you feel.

[priyas]

he shouldn't be putting you down.

[flc]

Don't resort to just dumping him right off the bat..that's a little extreme.

My boyfriend says TONS of things that annoy me, and vice versa, but we both look at the bigger picture.

Tell him the things that annoy you. If he cares enough he'll consider your feelings and stop saying/doing them.

[-sincerely]

Talk to him, if he doesn't understand, I'd break up with him. I agree with the above, if he cares he'll stop.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Dump him. it was gonna end anyways. What'd you expect? get married?

Harsh.. -_-

[redpeony]

Talk to him specifically about it... and maybe be more tolerant? Try to understand that guys don't work the same way as girls and you'd rather have him be honest. If he cares he'll make an effort to change but you've also got to accept the fact that he is still who he is... maybe there is an underlying reason for his behaviour. Just talk it out.

If you really can't see yourself ever being actually happy with him then you should consider leaving. This "miserable without him" business will only be temporary.

[itskatherine XD]

i was in a similar position a few months back. he would continuously piss me off and we would continuously talk about it. it would be all good and dandy for a few days then he would go back to the way he was. that lasted for like 6 months. yeah i know, i shouldve dumped him. but yanno, before that, we went through a lot as a couple and i knew that i love him. soo finally one day, it finally hits him that the things he does hurts/pisses me off. he thought he lost me that day and the one thing he is scared of is losing me. since then, things have finally been goood =]. our 2 year anniversary is next sunday :D

soo from experience, no matter how much you tell them that it pisses you off, it wont help. they just have to realize it on their own. it also depends on how much you care/love your bf. i dont recommend waiting 6 months like i did. that was just foolish of me, but i did love him and i knew that i would be miserable without him. soo talk to him about it. maybe its just a phase that he's going though? if you guys have been together for this long, it isnt worth breaking up over insignificant things.

[yupimchuck]

that is EXACTLY what me and my boyfriend are going through.
except hes the one thats annoyed.
we havent done the break thing. i dont believe in them.

but all we do is argue.
were just slowly trying to figure things out

[ms.bliss]

In relationships, some bad things will occur. However, if you constantly find yourself then maybe you need to break it off completely. No friendship or anything; unless you think you can handle it.

Oh yeah.. you may want to visit this site and check her latest journal entry.

http://glamorous-style.com

[anoniez]

i think that you should definitely talk to him. You've done great for a year or so, right? Don't let all that go to waste because of something that recently came up. you guys should try to work it out together. it really could be just a phase.

[seremela_culnamo]

Confront him if you haven't already. If not, it will keep on going on like this and it will make matters worse when he will eventually find out what's bugging you. If anything happens, the worse can come to him blaming you for the break-up or whatever happens, for not confronting him sooner. Conflicts happen in all relationships, it's only a matter of communication that resolves them.

[LiLCUTiEFR0MDAYA...]

Haha, sometimes, i get mad at him for no reason. my poor baby.. but he loves me and puts up with it. i apologize, and feel bad later. I love him to death, and would do anything for him. We been going out for 16 months, .. 17 months in 2 weeks. He`s my prince & im his princess

[GREASEbaby]

he pisses you off...not a good sign. talkkkkkkk