Im gettin married!!!!, !!! |
Im gettin married!!!!, !!! |
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![]() hes the reason i smile.. <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,486 ![]() |
ahhh last night ... i was out with my boyfriend ... and he had asked me to marry him as soon as i get out of school ... we havent been together officially for that long .. but we have known each other for a verrry long time... he told me ... we still have a few years before we can be married because of my age ... but he didnt want to wait and ask me .. he wanted to do it last night!!!!!! from the first day i met him .. i knew this was it!!!
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*Zatanna* |
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Well, congratulations...
Having said that - Pardon me while I put on my "mom" hat. I am not sure how old you are, but I assume when you say "get out of school" you mean high school. I can only caution you about making such a committment at such a young age. I always recommend living on your own for at least a year before making any type of life long committment (even engagement). It's highly probable that you haven't even fully matured as an adult yet in the sense of being out in the world on your own (and I sincerely do not mean any disrespect in say that). |
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are you kidding? you're a sophomore in highschool and you're already concerned about being married? i can assure you that after you get married, you bring a lot of roles upon yourself. rushing into this will not help you with anything. staying together for a while and then getting married will reduce the roles you have and give you more time to live life.
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*disco infiltrator* |
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You're a sophomore?! I'm a sophomore too, holy crap, I couldn't even imagine committing to marriage at this age. How old is your boyfriend and how long have you been dating?...I really don't think that getting engaged is the right move to make.
I'm sorry; it is your life and your decisions, but if I was your friend/family member, I would certainly advise against it. |
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*mipadi* |
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I hate to rain on your parade, because I'm sure this news is exciting, but…your profile says you are 16. Do you really feel this commitment is strong enough and a good thing at such a young age? Being young is about having no real commitments—being able to get out there and explore everything. Marriage—and even an extremely committed relationship—brings a lot of responsibilities. Maybe I'm "showing my age" a bit, but looking back on my high school years, they were great because I really had nothing to worry about. Now I have a lot of responsibilities, and I'd gladly trade them for my carefree days.
I'm not saying it's a bad idea, and like I said, I hate to "spit on your news", so to speak. But perhaps you want to think about why you want to get married, and make sure that the guy (who you admitted you haven't been seeing for very long) is the right one for you. Commitment is a big deal. I have two friends who have been seeing each other for three years, since their junior year of high school. They're very committed and have been for a long time—and they're not even considering marriage until they're both out of college. Take some time to think about it and make sure you aren't rushing headfirst into something you're not ready for. Marriage is for the rest of your life. |
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![]() hes the reason i smile.. <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,486 ![]() |
ok well i said we were waiting till i was out of school .. thats a few more years .. not tomorrow .. it will give me time to be with him more and make sure im ready ..
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![]() dakishimetainoni... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 ![]() |
You're going to get married to your Jealous Boyfriend?
I don't mean to be be negative like everyone else but be very careful. I was 16 when I started dating my psycho of an ex who was also jealous, we also were like "oh I can't wait to marry you." I don't think that it's a really good thing that he trusts you more than he trusts his own blood. That's a pretty high level of trust that no one should have, I hope to God that your boyfriend is nothing like my ex but just be very careful. I don't think anyone should have complete trust in only one person, that's dangerous. Personally...I think he's doing it to tie you down... He's jealous of your guy friends so if he puts a ring on your finger it kind of definately makes you off limits. You shouldn't be jumping into things like this. Don't pour your heart and soul into this marriage thing just yet, sh*t happens. |
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Whatever lies beyond this morning is a little later on ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 389,260 ![]() |
Y'know, I'm niether going to discourage you nor encourage you. It's your decision. Just keep in mind about what you want and think about it a lil more, ok? Sure not a lot of marriages planned during high school works but hey my aunt got married when she was 15 (right at 15, didn't finish High School) and she's married her husband for around 50 years. On the darker side, my friend's sister married right after high school and divorced a year later. Your choice. What you make of it is what really matters. You said he's waiting until you're out of high school right? Then as you're going through high school and you lose interest in him, then you can always cancel the engagement.
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to hell with you ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 ![]() |
uh...are you really taking this seriously? it sounds a little stupid. i mean, yeah, im 15, and me and my bf say we're gonna get married in the future and stuff but we dont take it that seriously.
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 ![]() |
wow, congrats.
it's a little early don't you think? to be making such a commitment |
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victim of myspace.com ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 395 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,435 ![]() |
Well, congratulations..I'm guessing that you're going to be smart enough and really be sure that you love him with all your heart. =D
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![]() daughter of sin ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 ![]() |
Sorry to break this to you, but I seriously doubt it'll be for real. You're 16. Talk to us in two-three years.
Cheers, Taylor`` |
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![]() Hello There. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 ![]() |
You're going to get married to your Jealous Boyfriend? I don't mean to be be negative like everyone else but be very careful. I was 16 when I started dating my psycho of an ex who was also jealous, we also were like "oh I can't wait to marry you." I don't think that it's a really good thing that he trusts you more than he trusts his own blood. That's a pretty high level of trust that no one should have, I hope to God that your boyfriend is nothing like my ex but just be very careful. I don't think anyone should have complete trust in only one person, that's dangerous. Personally...I think he's doing it to tie you down... He's jealous of your guy friends so if he puts a ring on your finger it kind of definately makes you off limits. You shouldn't be jumping into things like this. Don't pour your heart and soul into this marriage thing just yet, sh*t happens. ^^Chii makes a good point. |
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![]() i'm maggie =] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,607 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 361,616 ![]() |
08..thats the same age i am. you do know that getting married at such a young age raises the percentage of getting divorced?
and like chii said..how do you know that in the end, hes not going to control every move you make like in that one maury talk show? id think about if i were you and wait until at least you finish an undergraduate program in college. |
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![]() what a moon tonight. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 517 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 33,772 ![]() |
a little early, but congratz.
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![]() L!ckitySplit ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 ![]() |
this is so naive, get your shit straight before you think about marriage. and what i mean by that is, do you have a solid job? have your own place? and not just have a G.E.D.? im sorry but any guy that puts a girl that young in that position is not thinking clearly. marriage is a big deal, and sometimes it can suck if your with the wrong person. and when you do marry him, then what? what are you guys gonna do thats SO different from what you guys are doing now? pay bills? you cant have kids cause you wont be able to afford em'. so you might as well wait.
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![]() You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 ![]() |
congrats, but i hope you know what you're doing
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![]() Yawn ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 ![]() |
First of all, congradulations, I'm glad this guy makes you happy, and that you found someone that you trust enough to even make this "promise ring" agreement.
However, I'm not here to spit at you about this decision, and I'm not here to judge you. I do know something about this though. Some people do meet their husbands in highschool and get married. My grandparents, my uncle and aunt, and they are both still in love and still married. However, remember you are 16. I guarentee you will change between now and a few years. I guarentee that your boyfriend will go through changes as well. I used to think that I wanted to get married right out of highschool, or atleast by 21 or 22. But this past year I have changed my mind. Marriage is incredibly serious, and a huge committment. It is important to know who you are, and to have your boyfriend know exactly who he is. He needs to be able to support you before he even asks the question. You are 16, you have your entire life ahead of you. Don't you have dreams? Dreams of going places and meeting new people. You want to truly live life, and be comfortable with who you are before you make a decision like this. I'm glad you are in love, it can be a wonderful thing. however, talking marriage this young is dangerous. Trust me, it does nothing but cause damage. If it was meant to be, then you can discuss it further down the road when you are atleast old enough to drink at your wedding. But for now, just enjoy highschool, enjoy going to prom with him, and really don't try to grow up too fast. You are 16, embrace that! It passes by quickly. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Human Posts: 2,817 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 381,065 ![]() |
wow....
im shocked..thats kind of strange sorry. lol err congrats? ![]() ![]() |
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![]() × Dead as Dillinger. ♥ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,527 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,615 ![]() |
Well guys it's not like she's getting married right now. Chill out.
Just..be careful. High school can be a very confusing time..I don't want to rain on your parade either, but just try to not get your hopes up TOO much.. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,584 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,748 ![]() |
well..yeah..everyone else has pretty much said everything that im thinking...well use the 2 years u have left of highschool to think everything through
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