become outgoing? Options

[Bridget_rules_4e...]

Im not sure where this topic belongs but does anyone have any tips on how to become more outgoing?

[*digital.fragrance*]

Hmmm maybe this belongs in relationships.

Anyway, I think the key is to smile as often as possible... conciously force yourself to go and talk/sit with people you normally don't.

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[*mipadi*]

The best way is to do things a little bit at a time to make yourself more comfortable around people. Make eye contact and say hello to people you pass. When you're at a party, find someone to talk to that you don't know, and strike up a conversation. Try to talk to people at work and/or school that you don't normally talk to. Join clubs and other groups so you are around people who share common interests.

[subway]

talk talk talk but be yourself

[ecargnmyst]

join clubs and other school activities

[sillakilla220]

since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too

[misoshiru]

since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too

stfu.

talk to more people, smile at others in the hallways. talk louder, laugh louder, join clubs. socialize more.

[mylittleMiracle]

talk more,laugh more!=)

[EddieV]

I'd say er...just...well...GO OUT!

[*Programmer*]

it takes work to become outgoing...some people just can't be.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Well, you gotta fix your issue with self-confidence, for starters.

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Do you want to become out-going just to get a boy's attention? if so, he's not worth it. Date boys who like you for who you are.

[Levy2k6]

it took me 4 years to be like that.. i was so shy freshman year.. i think all u have to do is keep talk and talking and talking and eventually it will stick to u where u talk to other people.

[Bridget_rules_4e...]

Do you want to become out-going just to get a boy's attention? if so, he's not worth it. Date boys who like you for who you are.

no i just want to become outgoing its like a goal...

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

^Oh then like I said, fix any of your problems with self-confidence. For starters, you can attend a party or a get-together with tons of people you can socialize with.

[NoSex]

Well, if you want to be more outgoing, you clearly have some goals and or things you wish you could do but something is preventing you from actualization said things. Now, to find the root of this problem and help you accomplish what you would like, we need to identify what is preventing you from doing these things in the first place.

Are you afraid of something?
If so, what?
Are you not confident in yourself?
If so, why?

Why can you not yet do these things that you want to do?

[seremela_culnamo]

I wish I can give you some good advice, but I'm not really outgoing either. I am really shy - probably one of the shyest ones around or according to the people I know anyway. I think I was opened the most during my first year of high school, when I took drama. I was really opened up to people, but after the year, I was back to being less outgoing. Another thing that might help is by joining clubs and if you're really interested, apply for executive positions. Like I join clubs and participate as either the member or an executive, and it really boosts up your confidence or whatever it is, to be more opened and outgoing. But since I am really shy, I am still not 100% outgoing, unless I am with my best friends. At least it helps a bit, I guess.

[lilith]

be more confident

[nightowl89]

try going to a party or just like a group gathering with one of ur really good friends and some of her firends u don't know. Then u have a clean slate: just smile a lot and makes some small talk. ask questions, you know? Also having an interesting prop helps, like a really cute belt or carry around your favorite book or CD. Something you can gush on about withut feeling self concious. and ud have ur good friend to fallback on. Just relax, overthinking it will make it worse.

[Syar]

Be yourself, talk, smile.

[*incoherent*]

interact with people youve never met/seen before. build confidence that way since they are brand new.

sit with new people at lunch and ask them how their weekend went and other topics. be like the spokesperson of the group and make yourself known.

[teeners4]

get more involved in school and just talk to people!

[sprezzatura]

I am quite shy of a person but I have many friends.
Talk to people around you in class, make them feel like that you are there, not like invisible or just another person in class.
Get their screenname/xanga/myspace too if you don't get to see some people often, guess what, internet is such a great social tool!

[insanityislaughi...]

I would say to make more friends with the same interests as you. Friends bring out the best in you, and make you act like yourself, so I would say talk to people more and make more friends. Be daring and take risks. Join a club that you like, and just...talk. Chances are you just aren't comfortable with yourself right now, so you will probably open up more and become more outgoing.

since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too

I really hope that's a joke. I mean, you want to be outgoing, not a slut. I'm sure you already know this, but don't listen to this loser. Hah.

[Paradox of Life]

1) Never be prejudiced. Do not judge anyone, and do not close anyone out of your radar. You may not want to talk to someone because they're ugly, disabled or of a certain ethnic group, stereotype, etc. But you can't be outgoing if you let those things keep you from getting to know and accept other people.
2) Smile. Looking friendly draws people to you, and makes them feel more at ease when they're talking to you.
3) Don't withdraw yourself from the crowd. Whether you're the center of attention or just taking with a few of your friends, make sure you're not the loner with no companions. Take every opportunity to get to know your peers better.

And that's my advice.

[AngryBaby]

The best way is to do things a little bit at a time to make yourself more comfortable around people. Make eye contact and say hello to people you pass. When you're at a party, find someone to talk to that you don't know, and strike up a conversation. Try to talk to people at work and/or school that you don't normally talk to. Join clubs and other groups so you are around people who share common interests.

i agree with this, but also to save you from awkwardness, remember to try to talk to people like you knew them for years. it actually is a good method that works well and will also make the other person comfortable also. so the conversation will flow very well

[angelrevelation]

i guess take little steps at a time... and have your friends go places with you so you can meet more people easier, and you don't feel so scared or awkward.

[newyork__lies]

just progressively start talking more in class, extend your friendships. smile, joke around laugh more. or, here's a trick.. think of one of the girls at your school that's really cool and outgoing or whatever your goal is. just watch her and get some tips from her actions. simple as that.

[anoniez]

it took me 4 years to be like that.. i was so shy freshman year.. i think all u have to do is keep talk and talking and talking and eventually it will stick to u where u talk to other people.

exactly the same here- wow, it was so hard to get to the point where I am now.

anyway, what i did was i put myself in social situations that made me uncomfortable. like maybe if someone invited me to.. say.. rock climbing, even if i was afraid that i'd fall on my butt and embarrass myself, i forced myself to go. and i usually ended up having a lot of fun =)
(this is for the extremely shy person btw, hope you're not that shy)

another thing i did was i started to talk to random people i didn't know, in class or wherever. you can make a lot of friends this way, even if you're awkward you'll at least have made an impression in their mind and chances are you will become friends.

yup, like everyone else said, smile a lot and say hello to people. i think smiling is the most important factor in giving off a friendly impression which will make people like you.

[tanichick]

#1 Be yourself, never become something you are not, just to make people like you. If they don't like you its their loss! =]

#2 Join some clubs

#3 Make some new friends, but never ditch your old ones!

ummm I'll probably think of some more later, hope that sort of helped!

[NgocQuyen]

lols you should join like clubs, sports, or any kind of orginazations that interest you at your school. i know it sounds geeky to be involved in school, but you have an oportuniy to talk to more people. you need to just relax and not think about "being outgoing" just be yourself. don't try to be something you're not. hehe it's worked for me, i'm sure it should work for you?