Ex-boyfriend means ex-friend always? |
 May 14 2004, 09:08 PM
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 blah  Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360  |
I had a boyfriend. We only went out for 3 months, but within a week into the relationship, he had already told me that he ahd always loved me. I knew him since the beginning of High School, and I am about to finish my jr year. He broke up with me, and within a week of not talking to each other, we communicated through the internet and decided to talk again. We tried it out, but later in that week, he sent me a sappy email. Here is PART of it:
Also i say fudge what others say...if people do not approve of us being together again fudge them lol i never minded what others say and that just makes me love you more...let our absants from each other over the past months or so just let us grow fonder PLEASE come back to me and let me be your Kie'n again we can be happy and i know we can play in the snow again, come on do this one thing for yourself. I LOVE YOU...and if we were older i know that right now i would be on one knee...oops i am sorry i dont know if i should say this but...if we were older right now even though i am possitive you'd say no i would still be asking for you to marry me and run away with me and be with me. Come back to me, let us be us once more...you won't regret it on my account please... please let yourself be as happy as possible... Ok now...I rejected him, telling him I just wanted him as a friend and that we were two different ppl. Therefore, he called me a horrible human being and " i am done thinking you were a good person or are a good person...you are a terrible person and i am done even trying to be your friend please do not approach me at school anymore and do not try and "fix" things when i do not want you to..." I'm the one who even approached him first in the possibility of being friends. Should I give him some time and try again or spare my feelings gettin hurt in the future and not bother? |
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May 14 2004, 09:11 PM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
I also wanna add that I had realized that our friendship revolved around the wrong things. He even told me once that he didn't call what we had friendship from the moment we met to the end of our friendship. He called it him just being in love with me and wanting to be around all the time. Great huh?
 Maybe that is why our friendship ended after the relationship did. 
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May 14 2004, 09:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,077 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,904 |
*sigh* There are always guys like that. Sappy guys who are too desperate. Happened to me once. Forever hoping that you'll go back to him, even though he knows you don't feel exactly the same.
These kinda guys are usually pretty sensitive I think. They get pretty upset and just start yelling stuff at you and never talk to you again. Do you really want him as a friend? And if yes, then why? Seriously, hanging out with guys like this just make you stressed out. Perhaps there wasn't a true friendship before you guys went out. Maybe he wanted to be with you, but not be friends. There are guys like that. They see you as a lover, but not as a friend. When you start a relationship, you find that you can't talk about stuff that normal friends do. Blah I don't get what I'm saying anymore but I hope it helped. |
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May 14 2004, 09:51 PM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
its either one or the other... huh? i think he said those mean things... cuz the feeling of rejection took over him... and i know all guys do this ALL THE TIME! they think they are trying to be a *man* by insulting you.. and talking behind your back! i dont see this guy mature enough... if he couldnt be your bf... why cant he juss be your friend? but he wanted one or the other...
i dont think he is mature enough... to handle the fact thatyou want him as a friend.. he knew that you didnt want to get back... but still he wont settle for friendship... there are always other guys... |
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May 14 2004, 10:12 PM
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From what you wrote, he doesn't deserve having a friend like you, nor do you deserve to go through this pain.
Hope everything works out. |
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May 14 2004, 10:51 PM
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 wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
ugh... i'm not even gonna say anything.
[edit] nevermind, i think i will. GET OVER HIM!!! |
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May 14 2004, 10:57 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,628 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,359 |
Well I have known this girl for a week, and we were dating for the week, but we decided we werent meant for each other, or actually she did... but we are still friends... infact im going over to her house soon
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May 15 2004, 02:26 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,520 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 200 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ May 14 2004, 9:12 PM) From what you wrote, he doesn't deserve having a friend like you, nor do you deserve to go through this pain. Hope everything works out.  yeah i agree.. you dont need to go through anymore pain.. pain sucks
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May 15 2004, 04:11 AM
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 t a c o s Group: Member Posts: 1,187 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,122 |
ex-bf can always mean new fling. muahaha
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May 15 2004, 08:57 AM
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 "KDrama Obsessed" Group: Member Posts: 307 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,156 |
from what he said/wrote, he not worth it. don't dwell on a person like that.
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May 15 2004, 09:16 AM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
Eww my sister's mean!
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May 15 2004, 09:30 AM
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being an ex dusnt mean you cant still be friends with them... i mean.. i had an ex.. but were still friends.. we still talk and hang out.. sure its sometimes awkword but theres no point in losing a friend from a relationship...
if it was a really serious one and a long one.. sure i understand not talking for a while.. but you shouldnt lose your social life for it.. |
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May 15 2004, 01:47 PM
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 Serious As A Heart Attack. Group: Member Posts: 2,292 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,344 |
it doesnt always end that way..its all about the breakup..if you end on good terms or bad terms..im still friends with all of boyyfriends except for one..sOoOo yeah..it sux tho cos that one i was in a relationship with for 2 and a half years and now we dont even speak
i miss him
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May 15 2004, 02:05 PM
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 We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
QUOTE(illuminessence @ May 14 2004, 10:08 PM) I had a boyfriend. We only went out for 3 months, but within a week into the relationship, he had already told me that he ahd always loved me. I knew him since the beginning of High School, and I am about to finish my jr year. He broke up with me, and within a week of not talking to each other, we communicated through the internet and decided to talk again. We tried it out, but later in that week, he sent me a sappy email. Here is PART of it: Also i say fudge what others say...if people do not approve of us being together again fudge them lol i never minded what others say and that just makes me love you more...let our absants from each other over the past months or so just let us grow fonder PLEASE come back to me and let me be your Kie'n again we can be happy and i know we can play in the snow again, come on do this one thing for yourself. I LOVE YOU...and if we were older i know that right now i would be on one knee...oops i am sorry i dont know if i should say this but...if we were older right now even though i am possitive you'd say no i would still be asking for you to marry me and run away with me and be with me. Come back to me, let us be us once more...you won't regret it on my account please... please let yourself be as happy as possible... Ok now...I rejected him, telling him I just wanted him as a friend and that we were two different ppl. Therefore, he called me a horrible human being and " i am done thinking you were a good person or are a good person...you are a terrible person and i am done even trying to be your friend please do not approach me at school anymore and do not try and "fix" things when i do not want you to..." I'm the one who even approached him first in the possibility of being friends. Should I give him some time and try again or spare my feelings gettin hurt in the future and not bother? move on. he's not worth your time. he's desperate for a relationship, and has horrible spelling anyways. absents? my fudging ass. look for better guys - maybe ones that can spell correctly. |
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May 15 2004, 02:38 PM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(waccoon @ May 15 2004, 2:05 PM) move on. he's not worth your time. he's desperate for a relationship, and has horrible spelling anyways. absents? my fudging ass. look for better guys - maybe ones that can spell correctly. Like Nick (waccoon).  He's a loser anyway, i knew it all along. Plus I think he's got some kinda mental disorder (bipolar). Your best bet is to stay away from him. You can do 10 times better anyway, and I'm not just talking about Steven... |
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May 15 2004, 06:12 PM
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blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
hehe...yea hmm...he was crazy. "how so?" you may ask?
1. he thought he was a demon 2. he had ADHD 3. he had multiple personality disorder 4. how do i know he has mpd? HE NAMED THEM ALL MARE, PLATINUM SHADOW, AND EZURRAM! 5. now when i think about it, wtf was i thinking? lol for everyone's info, just to show how stupid i was, he cheated on all 14 ex girlfriends and supposedly stopped for me. now...how stupid was i? lol it's alright though. i just want him as a friend and that's what im upset about. he rejected my friendship cuz i rejected him. but o well...im getting over it. im definitely attracted to abnormal ppl. not to be mean, but he named them all!  anyways, thanx for the advice. ive been moving on, but im the kind of person who hates losing friends.
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May 15 2004, 10:29 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
i have a friend and he lets girls walk over him...for example..they usually break up with him for the most stupidest reasons like "he told me to leave him alone so i think we should break up" when he only said it ONLINE not in her FACE..
silly boys. they want things THEIR way. they want THEIR girl. it always has to be THEIR wants and needs to be fulfilled. girl...if that guy wants to be an "ex-friend" LET HIM BE. just make sure in the future you don`t see him. he`s going to play around with you enough to make you want to slap him. |
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May 16 2004, 12:02 AM
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 addicted to createblog[dot]com (= Group: Member Posts: 742 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,423 |
no, not really ... my ex `nd i are still really close friends
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May 16 2004, 08:03 AM
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 heart broken x Group: Member Posts: 247 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,259 |
QUOTE no, not really ... my ex `nd i are still really close friends well dats not to eveyone sum stay friends and jus some dont work out as friendz like me and muh ex.....i cant stand him and he cant stand me |
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May 16 2004, 08:46 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 875 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,841 |
i think even after a relationship is over, and you and yor ex even be friends again it'll never be the same fa sure
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May 17 2004, 02:55 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i think u guys can be friends, jus takes time for him to digest the rejection and let time soothe things
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May 17 2004, 04:16 PM
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 LunchboxXx Group: Member Posts: 1,789 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,810 |
i'm always friends with the girls i break up with afterwards. well most of them. there's been one out of eight that i'm not with anymore. if you don't feel too awkward around him, i recomend you give him another chance.
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May 17 2004, 04:21 PM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
don't even stress it babe. he's most definitely not worth your time. if he truly cared about you he would have at least salvaged the friendship you two share. it's a shame that he chose to turn you down but you have better people in your life to focus on and new guys you have yet to meet =] .. wow .. i've had ex's that had ADHD too!! haha .. we have something in common .. they can really REALLY get out of hand so it's best that you made the choice you did.. best of luck hun. you're a beautiful, sweet girl and there are still plenty of well-qualified young men out there for you. keep your eyes open. i'm sure your ex will realize his error in rejecting your friendship and regret it. if he comes back just be very careful and don't expect him to change. let him prove he deserves your friendship before you ever let him back in, if you ever do. best of luck and hope all is well. :D
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