am i overreacting? |
 Mar 2 2006, 07:16 PM
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Im really confused right now; my friend & her boyfriend have been going out since december, and i used to be tight with both of them, but now it's like i can't stand her when she's with him. EJ's broken rachael's heart numerous times. I can't even tell you how much he'd break up with her, and then try to get back together again in just one week. It's like a game or something :( & the whole time i've been trying to keep them together but now i just want them to break up. I don't really know what happened to ej, he used to be cool but lately i just strongly dislike him. As much as i wanna get out of their business, i don't want rachael to go through another break up again. She's so blind..i just want ej to leave :( i can't pretend like i don't care..what do i do?
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Mar 2 2006, 07:23 PM
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have you talked to rachael about the situation? in the end, it's her decision whether she continues to date this boy. i think that you should tell her how you're feeling and find out how she's feeling too.
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Mar 2 2006, 08:00 PM
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well you know how couples are; wont let anybody interfeir with their relationship; unless one person is insecure enough to 'believe' or think of breaking it off b/c of what ONE person said... its hard for one to motivate another, you can try telling her, but if she doesnt listen, its her cost [even though shes your close friend], like telling her over & over again, & she still wont listen... she has to learn for her own..
last year i went through what ya friend is going through... didnt listen to about 100 people [seriously] telling me to break it off w/ my BF, i didnt listen, he kept breaking my heart untill i just had enough... i didnt want to break up just for THEM, i wanted to do it for ME; but then again, i was feeling sad so i eventually ended it. |
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Mar 2 2006, 09:14 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
you could try talking to her, if she won't listen, it is after all her choice on what she wants to do with her love life.
just be there for her when she needs you |
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Mar 2 2006, 10:00 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
what i would do is talk to OTHER friends about it and then just like gang up on her on the issue.. not all at once but if alot of friends talk to her about it, she'll eventually get a clue
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Mar 3 2006, 12:11 AM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
she needs to learn how to handle a crappy relationship on her own but you should give her some input about how you see their relationship.
find some time where the both of you are alone and away from the real world and just talk. tell her that seeing EJ break her heart over and over again is painful for you to watch and you don't want to see her hurting all the time. try to talk some sense into her. remind her of how he hurts her and how he's so not worth the pain anymore. |
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Mar 3 2006, 11:52 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
let her drift away, devote herself to her boyfriend. but don't hate her for it, and don't push her away.
a good friend is there for you, no matter what happens. so be a good friend. let her do what she wants. if he breaks her heart again, be there for her. if she gets back together with him again, let her. you can warn her, discourage her, but let her make her own choice. and be there for her. |
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Mar 4 2006, 12:53 AM
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Yes, you are overreacting. Calm the **** down!!!
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Mar 4 2006, 01:13 AM
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 Bada-bing, bada-boom. Group: Member Posts: 452 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,111 |
Talk to her. If she doesn't listen, then there's nothing more you can do.
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Mar 4 2006, 03:01 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,309 |
QUOTE(i_liek_sushi @ Mar 3 2006, 9:53 PM)  Yes, you are overreacting. Calm the **** down!!! Wow. Okay? You really didn't have to approach hard. & sadolakced acid I really thank you for that great piece of advice. I don't hate my friend at all, and I'm learning to accept her boyfriend. |
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Mar 4 2006, 07:09 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,793 |
You want your friend to be happy, and will do anything to make her happy. It's not you overreacting, but if he's what makes her happy, then let her figure it out herself. In the meantime you don't want to cause issues between your friendship with her, so let her figure it out herself, because if you do something, she will probably get the felling you want him for yourself. A person can only be so strong.
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Mar 6 2006, 09:15 PM
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Senior Member Group: Duplicate Posts: 459 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 308,469 |
theyre dating, not you. i say let it go. i never bothered my best friends about who they dated.
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