Ex-Friend Spreading Rumors.., Please help... what do i do? Options

[bad_girl]

There was this boy i met at summer camp... We became really good friends almost instantly and spent most of the break after camp together with a couple of friends. Then i had to go to Portland for a month with my family, but we still continued emailing eachother. When i got back from Portland, everything changed. Before that, we used to chat on the phone everynight and hang out together with a bunch of friends almost everyday, but now it seemed like he was avoiding us. He also made up some lame excuse .. he said that he was banned from the phone because of radiation and that he was grounded & unable to hang out anymore because he had strict parents who told him he had to get a certain academic award (that's almost impossible to get) before he could go out again. However, none of us believed him because we wondered why his parents would "suddenly" change their minds and think differently after letting him talk on the phone and hang out with us for almost the entire summer. Then came school, and our summer vacation ended, leaving us communicating less and less. I felt like i didnt kno him anymore, and whenever me or my friends tried to talk to him on msn, we felt like we were being cut off, because he always seems to have an excuse about how his mom is waking up & he'd get into serious trouble using the computer or saying "BRB" and never actually coming back. A few months ago, I was chatting with a few of his friends/ ppl from his school using MSN and one of them told me that he was saying bad things about me behind my back. Of course, I was raging with anger and really really really pissed.. So i confronted him about it, but he straight-out denied it. So i thought, okay.. leave him be, maybe he's telling the truth, I can't think of a reason why he'd lie about it. That was until yesterday, when another one of his friends were IM-ing me and telling me about the same things he'd said about me. Then suddenly out-of-the-blue, his friend said "Do you still like him?" I said "Like him.. you mean as in more than a friend?" because i didnt & never did, i asked his friend why & what gave him the idea that I liked the boy. His friend said "well, because hes been telling all of us at school that you were in love with him!" (we are in different schools).

I was so shocked.. I didnt kno what to do because i knew that if i confronted him about it again, he would just deny it like he did before. On one hand, i want to know why he's acting this way when we could've stayed real good friends, and on the other hand, i dont want to break our friendship. What do you think i should do?? One thing you have to know, he isnt the type of person that would do this.. when we made friends, he was terribly shy, and that's why we became friends, because his shyness was cute and because i wanted to help him gain more courage, also because of his awesome personality deep inside. But now.. it's either he's changed or i'm beginning to see the real him. I have no idea what i should do.. i really dont want to lose friends because of this, and yet i dont feel so good about someone talking behind my back and telling people that im in love with them when it isnt true.. PLEASE HELP!

[_sarcastic_]

about him spreading rumors, maybe he started to like you but doesn't know how to react, and he spreads that rumor that you're 'in love' with him just to make himself feel better.
talk to him about it he probably just wants the attention and thinks by spreading a rumor about you could boost his self esteem or whatever. you know it's not true

[NgocQuyen]

just ask him again about it. i mean theres a high chance that he'll just deny it again but if he does then just tell him about all his friends telling you this crap...if i were you if he was still acting like that i would completely ignore him...but you say that you don't want to lose his friendship...sooo uhh...i don't know..just try talking to him about it first and if he still denies it then you should definately considering stop being friends with him...friends come and go, but its the TRUE friends you want to chase after..and from what you're saying he doesn't seem like a true friend at all, so you shouldn't waiste your time chasing, consider replacing woo i rhyme...

[bad_girl]

Thank you ^^
I'll try to talk to him about it...

edit.//
No. I cant do that.. i cant just walk up to him & go "WHY'D YOU SAY I LOVED YOU?"..

[eternalyfe]

Maybe he really does think that you love him, and maybe that's what scares him. When asked about you in his school, maybe he replies that you loved him, because he really thinks that it's true. I can see how someone would be afraid to get into a relationship or even to continue a relationship when the other person has such strong feeling about them.
I'm definitely not suggesting that you do love him, but he might think that you do. I think that if you want anything to be done about it, you're going to have to try to talk to him. Tell him that you don't love him, that if he felt that way, then he was wrong.

[love-issosweet]

if you confront it to him and it doesn't work, then just try to ignore it. it's not worth your time if you can't control how you want things to be. plus, the faster you ignore it, the faster the rumors will go away. not too much drama

good luck :]

[doom_diver]

dump him, he isnt worth your time

[FoxBandCutie08]

Sounds like a big waste of time, I think you should try to forget about him completely.

[alphanumeric]

you really just have to do what your gut tells you, if youre dying to confront him, do so. when you feel its time to move on and just lose that jerk, youll know:]

[bad_girl]

dump him, he isnt worth your time

um.. hes just a friend.

thank you for the comments... I don't know.. maybe its better to avoid him?

[misoshiru]

ah, i've sort of been in the same situation.


except it was that, i told a guy i liked that i liked him. and then he told all his friends that i was stalking him. well...for me, i bitched him out. but, i think what you should do, is just ignore him and ignore the rumors. if they're not true, why bother.