is that a good thing or a bad thing...? Options

[Chii]

a conversation between the adonis that has stolen my heart and me

you don't like valentine's day?:-(
don't love it, but don't hate it
its just there i gues
i didn't ask if you loved or hated it, i asked if you didn't like it
i do not not like it
so i like it i guess
would you rather not spend it with me?
and spend it at home picking my nose?
but you're only going to spend it with me because it would make me happy
and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy

i'm not sure if the last line makes me happy or upset...

when i posted that, it got me really thinking...what does the last line ("and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy") mean? or actually, a better question would be: is that a good thing or a bad thing? since duh, the statement itself is self explanatory.

here's a little background
the adonis and i have a little relationship. it's not boyfriend/girlfriend, it can be described as a friends with benefits thing but i hate that title. however it has been established that we are seeing each other.

he can't give me more, meaning he can't commit to me because he works 2.5ish jobs and we both have school. it also doesn't help that mommy dearest keeps me on a tight leash so, not only can we not see each other because of school and work, we don't even have that much time together when we can see each other because of my curfew. that is his excuse for not being my boyfriend. he claims that the feelings are there and time is the only major issue.

what makes me nervous is that what if he's just there because of the commitment-free benefits? and, yeah he has feelings for me but nothing is stopping him from picking up some chick at the club. he says he most likely won't because he already doesn't have too much time for me so how will he have time for another girl.

i'm not sure if age is too big of a deal. he's 21 and i'll be 18 later this month. we have known each other since he was 19 and i was 15 so it's not like he's some random guy who whistled at me on the street. (he will be 22 in may so it's a 4 year difference, not 3 as it appears).

we have been seeing each other for about 4 months.

now that i reflected on my, perhaps irrelevant information...does he really want to give me more? (he says that if he didn't like me he wouldn't bother seeing me on his only free days of the week.) and is "and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy" supposed to be a good thing?

last question: am i reading into this way too much?

last, last question am i being too paranoid?

i have typed and retyped this post for like an hour >.<

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

is that a good thing or a bad thing? I think, that it is a good thing. He will be happy making you happy. Without the rest of the conversation included ( the him saying he doesnt dislike or like Vday ) wouldnt you just think it was the sweetest thing ? IMO i think that that was good thing



does he really want to give me more?I think that if he could give you more,he would. Youve been friends for a long time, you make the efforts when possible to see eachother, he said that if he didnt like you, he wouldnt see you on the only time he has free. I think if he could, he'd love to spend more time with you, and be proud to call you his gf. And like they say. Age aint nothing but a number , but as long as you know he wouldnt pressure you into doing something youre not ready for, why look at age in a negative way in your relationship.

"and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy" supposed to be a good thing? Yes. Your joy brings him joy.

last question: am i reading into this way too much?A little bit. But its understandable.[/b]

last, last question am i being too paranoid? A little ... well not a little. But sort of. Again, its very understandable. I know, as for myself, I scrutinize everything that goes on in my relationships and drive myself crazy, so I think i may know where youre coming from. I say, you assess the situation in a positive way, and enjoy yourself with him on valentines day.

[KissMe2408]

oh goodness :(

The worst thing is overanalyzing the situation. You are taking his words and going way too deep with them.
You are being a tad bit too paranoid.
He said, "and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy"
That's a good thing. He's basically saying "I will be happy if you are happy", in other words, "Seeing you smile, puts a smile on my face." in other words, It's a good thing.
As for your relationship. I know it must be hard, and it sounds like you are looking for something deeper then what he can give you. (Although it's obvious you care for him, only when we care for a boy do we over analyize their words :)
It's not worth it to worry about him cheating or looking for another girl. Trust me. You spend so much energy worrying about that, that you don't enjoy the time you have together.
So please try to enjoy your Valentines Day.
And make it special for him :)
Maybe he'll start liking it more with you in his arms.

[topsyturvy]

and in turn i'll be happy that i made you happy

Well, the first impression i got from that quote was that he doesn't think of Valentine's Day as a special day, but if you do, then he'd be happy making you happy that day.

If i were you i would be paranoid too. But then again there's really nothing specific to be worrying about.

Just relax and think "if he's here then he likes me and that's all i need to know" and enjoy your V's Day

[*Programmer*]

wow chii...never pictured you as the over analyzing type...but to ease your thought on the matter...it seems like he wants to make you happy...and your happiness brings him happiness..

[FoxBandCutie08]

I believe that it's a good thing, and you're just being a little too paranoid about it. It's a special day if you have a significant other, so he should spend it with you. It sounds like he cares about you more than he cares about the day, but that's perfectly fine. You should be glad you have someone to spend it with!