she's back now..., wat should i do? Options

[Spec_R]

around november 10th, my girlfriend broke up with me saying that her parents found out that she was dating me. She said her parents thinks she is too young to date and want her to focus in school. I don't know if that's true or not but I trusted her. A few weeks or maybe month later I talked to a few friends hearing that she is dating some other guy. I was very surprise also! I read on my friend's xanga and she said some stuffs but at the end of her comment she wrote "well I gotta go and talk to my baby now, talk to you later." I was like . Is she trying to piss me off or does she really have a boyfriend?

To tell you guys the truth I really love her like a lot. for example
~I stood infront of her house for a hour while in a rainny night with very thin shirt on. I called her "baby, could u please go outside...I'm very cold." She did came out and I just want to give her a hug but knowing that she pushed me away. She said "Evan, It's not the same anymore...I don't have any feelings for you." Sorry if this is unmanly but i cried hard that night. First time I actually cried hard for a girl.
~I went to her house while she's sleeping and wrote 3 pages about my life and us together.
~There are other examples too but those are the only ones i remember.
I had a fight with a couple of people and she was friends with that guy's sister. They broke my car and made $700 worth of damages. I was really mad!
She is friends with my bestfriend's girlfriend. She told her that she know that those guys broke my car and she don't really care. wow those are harsh words. I don't know I think I should get over her and forget her....

So yesturday there was this party. I help set things up and she was there also. At the end everybody danced and had fun. She and her friend was dancing next to me. While she walked out for a phone called I whispered to her friend asking "How is she and her boyfriend doing?" Her friend said "oh, they broke up." I asked "why?" She said" she found out that he was cheating on her" In my mind i was like I knew that was going to happen.
As we had fun more at the end of the night those guys that i hate pushed me and wanted to fight with me. My friends help me out and we left. Later that night she called and asked is if everything was alright? I really don't want to talk to her but I don't know...I kinda do because i miss her. She asked if i want to come over to her house today because her parents are gone. I said "sorry but no thanks" She said "we'll do something some other times then."

It seems like she want to hook back up with me again. But I don't know, she betrayed me and went for another guy. Now all of sudden she comes back. Do you guys think I should go back wit her? I don't know...what to doooo......

[bad_girl]

I'd say don't get back with her unless you're willing to go through this again. Who knows? She's done it once, she can do it again. Er.. they damaged your car, she said she didn't care. How can you forgive someone like that? To me she sounds like a player. It sounds like she's only running back to you because she was dumped (?). Seems like it. Think about it, I dont think she's worth it with regards on how she treated you; like dirt. No offense, but using her parents as an excuse was really lame, she could've done better. & I dont think it's very human-like to tell you to go away when you're clearly dripping wet & cold? But if you really love her.. and true love is hard to find, I dont know. You should probably get back with her if you really love her so much that you no longer care about all the things she's said and done to you that've hurt you. In my opinion though, I dont think you should because she seems really mean & selfish...

[teenprincess]

No offense but it sounds like your her rebound. She knows you love her and your someone she could easily be with. The best thing to do would probably be to stay away from her.. but then again you are in love and you'll probably end up regretting not giving her a second chance. Just know you might end up more hurt the second time around.

[_sarcastic_]

^agreed, you sound like you're going to be her rebound. besides she did it once who knows what she might come up with next, don't go back with her unless you want to get hurt again or that you're positively sure that she's not going to do anything to hurt you

[*Programmer*]

don't bother with her...your a rebound bro...

[Spec_R]

You guys are right. If I was an average person I wouldn't even think twice about hooking back up with her. But I love her... I guess that's what love is, accepting what or how that other person is. I know I'm stupid and going back to the lion's cage again. How about I try to act hard-to-get. So she would actually tries to get me back. I don't want to go back to her so easily like a dog. Like I want her to learn like when she lose me, she'll regret it.

[upf147]

To tell you guys the truth I really love her like a lot.  for example
~I stood infront of her house for a hour while in a rainny night with very thin shirt on.  I called her "baby, could u please go outside...I'm very cold."  She did came out and I just want to give her a hug but knowing that she pushed me away.  She said "Evan, It's not the same anymore...I don't have any feelings for you."  Sorry if this is unmanly but i cried hard that night.  First time I actually cried hard for a girl.

its not girly, atleast your honest and truthfully, i would do the same thing, any guy with a heart would, and i feel for ya. the fact that you did that and stood out there and then cried over her shows a lot, and show you really care. im the same way, atleast some of us have a heart these days....good luck.

my take, if you really do care for her, and thinks she really likes you, go back with her, but then again look what she did to you, can she really get your trust back? no, i feel she hurt you too bad. on my end, if that happened to me with my girlfriend, i probably wouldnt, it would pop into my head whenever i was with her and bug the hell out of me no matter how close me and her had been, she betrayed you and hurt you bad, is it really worth it to risk it? its a gamble, go back out and risk being hurt, or just put it behind you and find someone who really loves you as much as you love them.

ive been in a SIMILAR situation and when things began to get ugly, i stepped back, thought over the whole thing, and ended up trashing the whole ordeal, and truthfully, i am much happier in the end, i am with someone i really care about and really cares about me, the best way to find out, talk to her friends, ive done that and found out some pleasant things, one of them being that my g/f's one friend had never seen my g/f so serious about a guy, and that was good to hear. so you gotta hunt. once again, good luck.

*finishes rant, breathes deep, finds another thread*

[*mipadi*]

It's pretty simple: She's lonely since her boyfriend broke up with her, and she knows you're an easy pick. If I were you, I'd drop her like a bad habit. Hang out with other friends and meet other girls--someone cool is bound to come along.

[wickedvampire3]

thats a hard question.....its mean of her to leave you for another guy and comes back to you when that guy breaks up with her.....maybe you guy sshould hang out together like good old friends....and when you feel that you can get into a relationship with her, go for it. you can never be sure with anything in life..........x_x but i hope you follow your heart, asking your heart to decide if you should like her again.....or maybe..she would break your heart again....i think the best thing is to still be regular friends with her and meet new people

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I agree with the others, since they broke up she probably sees you as the plan b. I say, don't bother with her. Forgive and move on. There are many other people out there.

[pshaa.shauna]

I know this is probally hard, but you shouldn't go back for her. I would sya if she even appologized for what she did, or was genuinly sorry, then I'd say give her a second chance, but she didn't. Find someone else. Maybe you could play hard to get, to see how long she will try. But, if you love her, and she doesn't love you, you'll be hurt worse in the end.

[FoxBandCutie08]

I wouldn't go back with her at all. She sounds like she only wants you when she doesn't have something she wants, or things aren't going her way. I mean, she needs to realize that playing people like that is really immature and stupid. I would get over her. She sounds like bad news.

[Shahin]

If you take her back your a fool.