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[redpeony]

So recently, me and my boyfriend have gotten to know each other a lot better as people and have had a good number of deeper conversations about our character and purpose in life. Over the course of these past few weeks we've been sharing our views and opinions on things like friendships, how to live your life, etc. However, our outlooks on different subject matters have sometimes clashed... to the point where we're getting offended. We're actually getting annoyed with each other and I know time apart and a stoppage of these serious talks for a while will likely ease the tension. And truthfully, I'm willing to just let it go now and let him get the best out of the argument sometimes.

But then a few days ago he told me he thinks we should stop fooling around. I was offended at first but he explained, and the reason for this... is not completely understandable to me because I'm a girl. I've made it clear that I won't have sex with him, and he told me that when we do stuff, he "obviously gets turned on" and then needs an 'outlet'.. and he says doesn't want to do something stupid like go to another girl and make somebody get hurt. I didn't know how to feel about it but I came to the conclusion that I should take this as a sign of respect to the both of us.. that he doesn't want to screw up by doing something stupid so we'll sacrifice this part of our relationship.

I know we love each other... but I'll be flat out honest and say that if we don't do physical things, what separates us from being anything but great friends? I love how meaningful our talks get and the way he trusts me enough to completely open up to me, but we've only been dating for a few months. I know this is infantile of me to say, but isn't it a little early to rule out physical things already? I want to keep him in my life and continue talking to him so frequently... but in a sense I feel like I'm restraining him and he may be restraining me.

I told him last night that I need to have a talk with him and I'm pretty sure he suspects I'm going to break up with him. My mom says I should just leave it alone for a while and not even have this talk because that's what is giving us problems. Friends say I should sit him down and have a good chat with him about the reason for us even being together. But I really.. don't know what to do right now. I'm not sure if I've given enough information for you to give me some advice, so questions if you need. But what would you do in this situation now?

[topsyturvy]

Err.. i don't see a problem here. Do you mean you're starting to argue with him a lot?

[NgocQuyen]

i think you should seriously consider just talking to him about it. but if i were you i wouldn't really be with him if he was going to pressure me into doing something i didn't want to do, and obviously you don't want to have sexual intercourse right now right? i mean just tell him that thats special to you or whatever the case is and you don't want to rush things. if he doesn't understand he's an Angle-Side-Side..lols...i mean he should be willing to wait for you if he cared right? that's just how i see things...

[upf147]

geometry flash back....eek, stop now, lol, please.

[Jayembe]

wait so do you want to form a physical realtionship with him well ask him how he feels bout goin sum where but not all the way