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 Jan 28 2006, 08:17 PM
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Mentally speaking. Is it wrong to talk about my problems here? W/e. I just need to know, has anyone ever found it hard to talk to someone close to them but totally spill to a someone they just met about they're personal life? Cause I'm like, that kind of person..not online but in real life. Is that bad?
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Jan 28 2006, 08:34 PM
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 It eats you, starting with your bottom. Group: Member Posts: 1,999 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 160,674 |
Yes in fact, it's quite common. Sometimes a stranger can be more helpful than your best friend.
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Jan 28 2006, 09:53 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
Personally, I think it's deeper only cause they see you differently than other people do. Like someone you've just met doesn't know your past mistakes, so it's kind of easier to let them help you in a way because they really won't nag you about what happened last time. Unlike your best friend who may know what you've done before and she warned you against it, etc.
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Jan 28 2006, 09:59 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
Not a biggie to me.
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Jan 28 2006, 10:07 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 41 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,270 |
Yes, I do it often hunnie. I think it's becasue sometimes you just want to be heard, but you don't want people the "know" you well to know your business i guess. iono
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Jan 29 2006, 03:04 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 129 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 320,404 |
yeah sometimes i don't like to tell my best friends EVERYTHING... so i'd tell someone i can trust, but isn't as close to me.
if that's just the way you are, be sure that the person you're giving your personal life away is someone that you can TRUST. otherwise, if you didn't know them very well... they could be backstabbers, rumors could spread... and then there's drama and everything. |
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Jan 29 2006, 11:28 AM
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i think it's alright, unless it's some kind of stalker person.
i mean sometimes you don't want people that know you very well to know about your personal business. |
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Jan 29 2006, 11:30 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,746 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,125 |
QUOTE(shes out @ Jan 28 2006, 8:17 PM) Mentally speaking. Is it wrong to talk about my problems here? W/e. I just need to know, has anyone ever found it hard to talk to someone close to them but totally spill to a someone they just met about they're personal life? Cause I'm like, that kind of person..not online but in real life. Is that bad?  The question was "Is that bad?" Why are you all saying 'yes' and why its good? Its normal, because you don't care as much about what strangers you will never meet think about you than people you see every day. Also, you know that strangers do not know all of your IRL friends and can't spread anything you say around. |
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Jan 29 2006, 04:27 PM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
I think it's normal for you to have more of an inclination to speak to strangers or people online rather than your best friend in real life. There are many reasons why. It's easier because you don't see the person (online). Like Ariel said you don't have to worry about rumors being spread. You just met this person and so you don't have any attachments, so if they say something and offer advice you won't get as offended. Also, sometimes its best to get an outside perspective on your problems so they can give some more insight that perhaps your best friend in real life couldn't offer.
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Jan 29 2006, 04:34 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
haha i know exactly what you mean.
actually quite recently my group of friends just opened to each other. but it's always easier to talk to friends that aren't as close or know you as well. or even complete strangers. just because they won't judge you and can't. |
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Jan 29 2006, 05:38 PM
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its common. i do that sometimes. X=
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Jan 29 2006, 07:24 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Yes, I have that feeling as well. I think it's because you want a fresh opinion, and you probably know what your friends will say anyway. It helps to not worry about being judged or anything I guess. I'm not doing a very good job explaining, but yes, I feel that way too.
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Jan 29 2006, 08:28 PM
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i think that everyone has a tendency to do it.
for me, it's easier to talk to strangers because i don't think that they'll be as judgmental as my close friends would be. |
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Jan 30 2006, 04:28 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
1 No it's not bad.
2 Strangers can't judge you on what you did in the past, so you can remain conveniently "pure". |
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Jan 30 2006, 05:57 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,833 |
That is good, but, try to talk about it to a perso with u're same sex.... cause the guy u might talk to might just be doing that just for interest
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Jan 30 2006, 06:04 PM
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I find it hard to tell someone close to me too. For some reason if I spill it to someone close to me, they'll make "too much of judgement" because they know so much about me. I really don't know what I mean by that (I'm so confusing), but I'm just afraid that if I tell someone who's personally close to me my secrets, they might distance themselves from me if they find out the truth. I wouldn't care if it's someone I don't know because I know they won't make a big deal out of a stranger anyways.
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