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sin_lagrimas
post Jan 18 2006, 09:02 PM
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well..i've been with my boyfriend for a year and almost a month.. i love him with every inch of my heart, and he feels the same for me..anyway..lately we've grown closer to each other..

once when we were hangin out, he talked to me about how a friend of his from school asked him, "so you really think that girlfriend loves you alot?" he told his friend," i know for a fact if i asked her to marry me, she would say yes." well i told him yeah i would if he asked me..

another time, we talked online and he said, "you know your gonna be mine right.."
i said, "what do you mean?" he said, "i can't say right now" huh.gif

so once we talked on the phone and he told me about this woman at his job (his boss kinda)..he thought she was young but she was old and she just got engagement..and he was like "wow she got engaged NOW.." and i was curious..so i asked,"like how old do you wanna be wen you get engaged?"..he was like, "well...i really don't want ruin anything..all im gonna say is soon.." ohmy.gif

i wasn't really expecting that..

well he was like, "im not saying this year, or next year but i just know soon.."

wow..i really love him..i really do..i mean engagement? wow..i dunno wat to say..

im 18...freshman in college...

wat to do..
 
 
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Shahin
post Jan 18 2006, 09:20 PM
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I'd like to get engaged in college. Here's the deal. If you actually want to get engaged, you gotta think of these things.

In high school and college, there are unlimited oppurtunities to mess around wit people of the opposite sex, get wasted, have fun. Basically, the 8 or so years you spend there are going to be the most fun, and busy of your life. If your ready to commit to this guy for the rest of your life then do it.

Now. I forgot my other points, so you just think about that one for now while I go and remember that stuff.
 
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post Jan 18 2006, 09:24 PM
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QUOTE(sin_lagrimas @ Jan 18 2006, 9:02 PM)
so once we talked on the phone and he told me about this woman at his job (his boss kinda)..he thought she was young but she was old and she just got engagement..and he was like "wow she got engaged NOW.."
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you dumbtart
 
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post Jan 18 2006, 09:30 PM
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hmm... i'd say 18 is pretty young, but maybe you can get engaged and take awhile to plan everything out and make sure you really want to get married. it really sounds like he's planning to propose, whenever that is... but he definitely loves you. good luck happy.gif
 
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post Jan 19 2006, 12:03 AM
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QUOTE(krnxswat @ Jan 18 2006, 10:24 PM)
you dumbtart
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I agree.
 
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post Jan 19 2006, 01:28 AM
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Honestly it doesn't sound like you are ready for that.
It's kinda scaring you. I mean think about it. When someone really is ready to get married and engaged, it's the easiest decision of their life and they are excited because they found the person they want to be with. If you are second guessing, or going "holy crap, what do i do" then that's not a good sign. Plus, you've only been dating him for a year. A year is a long time, but do you know him well enough to marry him?
You should talk to him. No more games, just talk to him about all of this.
If you aren't ready then tell him. I mean you are a freshman in college, you have time. You can love someone, but not be ready for that sort of committment, and he should understand that.
"8 years ago you were 10"
I know that sounds dumb, but if you look at it that way, do you see how young you are? lol. Don't rush into this sorta thing. I know you love him, but he should respect you, you know.
Please talk to him.
 
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post Jan 19 2006, 06:43 AM
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you've only been dating for a year or so, are you absolutely sure that this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? are you even ready for that commitment, afterall you're only 18...you've still got like plenty of time ahead of you, if you don't feel comfortable with him proposing anytime soon, why not talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about this whole engagement thing, he might understand.
 
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post Jan 19 2006, 12:16 PM
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don't get married now! wtf...

Tell him you don't wanna get married in college. Sry but he must be a weird guy if he's so willing to get married so soon.

Getting married is one of the worst days of a guys life... well, it depends, but it'll definitely be for me.
 
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post Jan 20 2006, 11:24 AM
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I think you should go for it if he ever proposes to you. But who am I to say? It's just when you get a chance like that, you shouldn't let it go get away.
 
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post Jan 21 2006, 12:08 AM
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i say you should give it a while
 
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post Jan 21 2006, 12:13 AM
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it sounds great and all-- maybe even fairytale-like but maybe you guys should slow down a little. the both of you still have awhile to live your lives out as "young adults." you know party a little, travel, and maybe even see what else is out there besides each other. wouldn't you like to know what else is out there besides your boyfriend? you wouldn't want to be thinking about this once you guys are engaged and then married, no w would you?

oh, and maybe you two should try living together for awhile before you both decide to get married-- just to see how well you two function together under the same roof.
 
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post Jan 21 2006, 12:29 AM
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QUOTE(i_liek_sushi @ Jan 20 2006, 12:16 AM)
don't get married now! wtf...

Tell him you don't wanna get married in college. Sry but he must be a weird guy if he's so willing to get married so soon.

Getting married is one of the worst days of a guys life... well, it depends, but it'll definitely be for me.
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sin_lagrimas didn't ask for our opinions on marriage. She needs advice.

I think the guy is sweet (and rare) for asking you to marry him so early.
But don't jump into it. Even though it's not everyday that a guy asks you to marry him, once you say "yes" there's no going back.
Give yourself time to think it through.
 

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