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[Eternally_Yours]

One of my close guy friends transferred to a different school but we still keep in touch through aim, phonecalls, and texting. We've gotten really close and I've developed feelings for him. We flirt here and there, but he also has a lot of girl friends. I always wonder whether I'm fooling myself with him or not because I'm not sure whether he flirts like he does with his other gal pals. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I don't wanna ruin the friendship we've built. Should I wait a while to tell him how I feel, or just tell him as soon as I can?

[Dragonfly_babe]

Even if he does flirt with his other gal pal's that has nothing to do with ur feelings for him. You should tell him especially now that he has moved away. What have u got to lose?

[nightowl89]

where's his school?

If its near by and you like him, tell him!...is much easier said then done, I know. If you think there is a chance that he likes you too, why not give it a shot? It might get awkward if he doesn't tho, so think about it. BUt if you're close enough maybe it won't affect you frinedship?

If its far enough away that seeing each other regularly is difficult though, it would be long distance. Keep that in mind...If you feel ready to tell him, don't let his gal pals intimidate you! Some guys just have a lot of female friends, it doesn't mean he's playing all of them. If he likes you, things will work out. It is a bit scary tho isn't it...I totally understand

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Tell him. Try your hardest to say it in person, so you can see his face and for many other reasons, like if its online. He may mysteriously have to go. Or he might for some reason, might have never gotten your text. If you do it on the phone, you dont get to see how he reacts. If a friend does it, well thats just stupid. You like him, youre friends, how come you cant do it yourself ?

[lit0chinagirl]

i think you should tell him as soon as possible and see how he feels but if he seems like the type that would feel uncomfortable with knowing that you know him, then maybe you should hold back for awhile and wait it out. if you feel pretty confident that he'll take it well either way-- that is if he likes you or not, then what are you waiting for?! you should go talk to him and see what he wants to do about it. he may be pro or con relationship, which may explain the many other girl friends he has. some people just feel better without it.
good luck

[NgocQuyen]

lols yeah i'm sort of in the same situation...i haven't really told him i really liked him like straight up, but i have hinted it a lot...lols..so yeahh....but in your situation..if i were you i would try to wait it out...i mean you never know these feelings could be false....iunno...hehe but if you find that these feelings are just continueing to grow then i would tell him..if he likes you back then yay! if he doesnt then he should be a true friend and tell you so...and yeahh things shouldnt be ruined..iunno..that's just what i would do..i'm a real risk taker i guess

[upf147]

well, when the one girl i was really close friends with told me she like me, i told her i felt the same way, but in the end it is really awkward, but only because she is and was currently dating one of my best friends, and he found out about it, and now i really dont want to talk to her because i am afraid she may try to interefere with me and my current girlfriends relationship (she got really jealous and emailed me asking all kinds of questions).

[_sarcastic_]

go for it if you really like him so much, tell him as soon as you can, before you lose that chance. and ofcourse do it face to face, that way you can see how his reaction is but if it's going to be a long distance kind of relationship, think twice about it.

[*mipadi*]

Tell him—it will make your relationship much less stressed, and maybe something good will even come of it.

[FoxBandCutie08]

I think you should voice your concerns to him. If he is treating you like he treats all his girlfriends, that is bad, but it means he likes you too. I think you should tell him how you feel, but I don't know how well the relationship will work out since you guys are apart, and he has a lot of girlfriends.