friend issues. i need help, advice. please. |
 Jan 8 2006, 01:39 AM
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 Brand New Colony  Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078  |
okay here`s how it goes. June `05 my best friend Jessica goes out with our other best friend Robert. She breaks up with her current bf, Daniel, they`d be goin` out for 9 monthes , and she juss breaks up with him juss like that. so then after a week, Jessica breaks up with Robert to go back out with Daniel, bekuz she misses him. so after awhile, i start to have feelings for Robert, which i know is totally wrong, bekuz my best friend went out with him. and Frank (our OTHER best friend) comes out that he is bi and that he is in love with Robert. and little did i know Jessica still liked robert. and then robert started to like me, and when he told Jessica, she got helllaa jealous and he stopped. so she basically ruined my not-so-good-summer to begin with. dun dun dunn. So in July.. the 13th to be exact, my parents decide to up and move from Salinas, CA to Fremont, CA. about 1hr30min apart. really sucks. soooo. i talked to everyone all the time, and i thought i knew everything, but basically Robert replaced me as a best friend, bekuz instead of me always talking with Jessica and being the one she was there for, she went to Robert. thenn. in December, Robert is STILL MADLY IN LOVE WITH JESSICA. Jessica who`s leading him on as a fool, she still has Daniel (and their year anny passsed). Robert goes crazy and tells me he is finally gonna get over jessica, WHICH I HAD THOUGHT HE HAD DONE LIKE MONTHES AGO WHEN I ASKED HIM IS HE HAD AND HE SAID YES. obviously he lied. so thenn, he spills the beans to me. he tells me that him and jessica had phone sex(does that count on cheating?) and then Jessica cheats on Daniel with Robert sometime in October or September(i`m not sure which bekuz they both told me different things). and i`m totally ashamed to even be their friends. so he basically stop liking her and starts to like someone else who we shall call "wide load". well Jessica gets hellllaaa jealous that Robert likes "wide load" and she makes a huge deal about it. deleting him as a friend on myspace, and such. then her boyfriend Daniel gets mad bekuz, why shud she even kare about who Robert likes. so Jessica is being hellaa bitchy to Robert and he is finally getting mad.
BUT NOW. they are talking on the phone a lot. and i`m jusst wondering if its gonna happen all over again? andd shud i tell Daniel that Jessica CHEATED on him for ROBERT? i really need some advice. really complicated. i know. |
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Jan 8 2006, 02:18 AM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Tell Daniel. Your friend Jessica isnt a very good friend or girlfriend. And, I just hope Frank can cope with his feelings for Robert, who obviously does not return them. Tell Robert you like him, and forget about Jessica. She broke up with him, and it was her fault she lost him. If he broke up with her, id understand why you would have a problem getting with Robert. But you shouldnt. Besides she has a boyfriend, who should dump her because she is cheating on him.
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Jan 8 2006, 02:19 AM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
oh thank you. finally someone who doesnt know me, can tell me what they think! THANK YOU!!! me es mui umm thankful! :]
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Jan 8 2006, 08:16 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
if you still like robert tell him, don't miss that chance again.
as for your best friend, don't worry about her, she just can't make up her mind on which guy she wants to go out with, soon she'll probably lose both of them. |
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Jan 8 2006, 08:16 PM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
any other ideas? please people.
i do appreciate everyone`s opinions. |
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Jan 8 2006, 08:41 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 102 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 288,931 |
I don't know if you should be the one to tell Daniel about Jessica cheating, it might make things worse. At teh same time I think he deserves to know too, if he's really serious about her. I'd think your best bet is to be there for robert and try to get him to move on from jessica. She does have a bf...I would consider phone sex cheating.
 With time though, things will run their course. Sometimes girls just go through these phases, i have a friend who did. it takes a while for them to get sick of it and wake up from the whirlwind. I dunno if I helped...  Just telling u my thoughts. Hang in there!
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Jan 8 2006, 09:11 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 683 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,526 |
Tell Daniel, and hey I live in fremont too. :D
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Jan 8 2006, 09:36 PM
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Maybe you should stop watching Pokemon. ^^
But seriously... don't betray your best friend. I wouldn't even get involved with it. |
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Jan 8 2006, 10:07 PM
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 sandra <3 chris Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 338,520 |
wow. Jessica isn't a very nice person. I don't think that she is a very good friend either so you dont have to be so nice to her. If you're stuck then maybe i think you should warn her on cheating on Daniel. Cus i call that cheating. Tell her that you dont want Daniel to get hurt and tell her to stick with the one she wants.If she wants both, tell Daniel. Letting him know by himself will just hurt him. You should tell Daniel so he can dump jessica and get over her.
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Jan 8 2006, 11:10 PM
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Wow, it's like an episode of the OC. O.o
I think if you still like Robert, go for him. Jessica is not being a good friend or a good girlfriend. She also broke up with Robert because she missed Daniel meaning she doesn't have strong feelings for Robert. I also think Daniel has a right to know that he is being cheated on. Jessica is treating these guys like toys, and if it goes on, they'll both end up getting more hurt than they are now. Robert should try getting over Jessica for good, and if he needs help, someone should help him, because if things go on this way, he's going to be much more hurt. Hope that helped some. ^^ |
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Jan 9 2006, 09:48 PM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
QUOTE(Shahin @ Jan 8 2006, 6:11 PM) Tell Daniel, and hey I live in fremont too. :D  oo what skewl you go to? ANYWAYS. i dont know. i think robert is an awesome person, but i`m afraid he might fall for Jessica again, bekuz SHE WANTS HIM TO LIKE HER!! selfish? yes i know. but i feel bad for Daniel, kuz he`s hellav awesome, so what do i do about that? i feel like i shud tell him, but i dont want to kuz me and Jessica have a strong friendship. i`d hate to see her sad. btw Robert lives in SALINAS while i live in FREMONT, i hate long distance things and all, but i do visit once a month. i think its time i moved but i cant just forget about Salinas. i really love that shitty town. i`m still so confuzzled. i dont want to make the wrong decision, they are all my best friends.. (except Daniel 0.o haha) |
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Jan 9 2006, 10:13 PM
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 ^ignore. read> Maria. Group: Member Posts: 710 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 323,799 |
geez, robert is really popular Oo
anyway, stick with justice! tell Daniel! i mean, just because of your friendship and loyalty with someone, you cannot let others hang like that, totally clueless. You can also try talking to both of them (Jessica and Robert). How what she is doing is wrong and got to stop and how Robert needs to find someone better. I don’t know, from what I’m hearing from this, I don’t think I like Jessica very much :P |
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Jan 9 2006, 10:21 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
QUOTE(Hiphop d[-_-]b @ Jan 8 2006, 2:18 AM) Tell Daniel. Your friend Jessica isnt a very good friend or girlfriend. And, I just hope Frank can cope with his feelings for Robert, who obviously does not return them. Tell Robert you like him, and forget about Jessica. She broke up with him, and it was her fault she lost him. If he broke up with her, id understand why you would have a problem getting with Robert. But you shouldnt. Besides she has a boyfriend, who should dump her because she is cheating on him. (: hehe i completely agree on everything but the whole telling robert you like him part....first of all...robert..in my opinion sounds like a complete IDIOT and a complete MORON for not realising that jessica was just being totally stank towards him and not realising that you were better for him...does that make sense? i mean...since they're both (jessica AND robert) stupid, why not skrew them both over! hahahaa....tell daniel about the whole cheating thing..and FRUCK robert...you deserve someone better... 
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Jan 10 2006, 10:59 PM
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QUOTE(lilxl0ser @ Jan 9 2006, 7:21 PM) hehe i completely agree on everything but the whole telling robert you like him part....first of all...robert..in my opinion sounds like a complete IDIOT and a complete MORON for not realising that jessica was just being totally stank towards him and not realising that you were better for him...does that make sense? i mean...since they're both (jessica AND robert) stupid, why not skrew them both over! hahahaa....tell daniel about the whole cheating thing..and FRUCK robert...you deserve someone better... hey thanks. QUOTE(m.ar.i.a @ Jan 9 2006, 7:13 PM) I don’t think I like Jessica very much :P as a matter of fact, me, frank and robert don't like her much anymore either. we all think she's very selfish, needy, bitchy, etc, etc, etc. My cats dont even like her much. you know, its always been about her. to tell you the truth, she tells me she wants a lot of guys to like her. now i dont know about you but that sounds like just weird to me, considering the fact that SHE ALREADY HAS A BOYFRIEND. not only that, but she wants to basically fit in with the crowd, so she is obsessed about her weight and whatnot. but for 5'0'' and 110lbs, she`s doin well. i suppose. but still not only does frank have a grudge against her now, but robert, and some other friends too! kuz now everyone see's it from my eyes ( i noticed this selfish-bitch-thing like 6 monthes ago, but no one believed me. hahaha WHAT NOW! ). anywho, i`m still debating upon telling daniel. oh and if ya wanna see jessica`s myspace, click here. you tell me, do you think she`s pretty? |
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Jan 12 2006, 12:37 AM
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 I love Havasupai Group: Member Posts: 1,040 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,878 |
STAY OUT OF IT! You're going to get youself in a world of
 if you start to manage and judge other people's lives. Everything you're talking about is thinly veiled gossip. How would you feel if the table was turned and someone else was considering doing that to you? You're trying to play Dr. Phil without the credentials.
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Jan 12 2006, 08:19 PM
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 ~*Dance like no one is watching*~ Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 349,047 |
QUOTE(nightowl89 @ Jan 8 2006, 9:41 PM) I don't know if you should be the one to tell Daniel about Jessica cheating, it might make things worse. At teh same time I think he deserves to know too, if he's really serious about her. I'd think your best bet is to be there for robert and try to get him to move on from jessica. She does have a bf...I would consider phone sex cheating. With time though, things will run their course. Sometimes girls just go through these phases, i have a friend who did. it takes a while for them to get sick of it and wake up from the whirlwind. I dunno if I helped... Just telling u my thoughts. Hang in there!I agree. If he's really serious about her, he has the right to know. But don't just be like "HEY! JESSICA CHEATED ON YOU!" Just ask him if he had a friend who was cheated on, would he tell the person. If he says yes, tell him. If not, then... It's your choice. This Robert guy must be great, lol. Good luck! |
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Jan 13 2006, 11:38 PM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
QUOTE(x3Unreachable3x @ Jan 12 2006, 5:19 PM) I agree. If he's really serious about her, he has the right to know. But don't just be like "HEY! JESSICA CHEATED ON YOU!" Just ask him if he had a friend who was cheated on, would he tell the person. If he says yes, tell him. If not, then... It's your choice. This Robert guy must be great, lol. Good luck! yeah i know if he knew Jessica cheated on him with Robert, he`d beat the living sh*t out of robert. i just know it... plus he told me what happened in past relationships. the point is, my best friend sucks. :] |
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Jan 15 2006, 03:03 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Do you have any proof that this happened? Like emails or anything? Because if someone told me that my bf was cheating, I'd definitely want proof. I think you should tell him, but you should try to bakc it up with facts or proof or something, so they believe you.
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Jan 20 2006, 01:20 AM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
QUOTE(FoxBandCutie08 @ Jan 15 2006, 12:03 PM) Do you have any proof that this happened? Like emails or anything? Because if someone told me that my bf was cheating, I'd definitely want proof. I think you should tell him, but you should try to bakc it up with facts or proof or something, so they believe you. as a matter of fact i do have proof. Jessica told Frank about how she cheated on Daniel (but she didnt f**king tell me  ) and Robert told me. and then i told frank and frank told me she toldd him. so for sure sure it happened. i mean she told Frank herself. i could understand if Robert were to lie about it but Jessica just wouldnt tell Frank if it didnt happen.
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Jan 21 2006, 02:20 AM
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Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
sorry for double posting but i`m in a pickle!!
JESSICA JUST BROKE UP WITH DANIEL. i`m scared that she might make the move for Robert. and i`m scared Robert might go for it!!!!   
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