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 Jan 5 2006, 12:13 AM
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Jan 5 2006, 01:16 AM
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 I love Havasupai Group: Member Posts: 1,040 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,878 |
OMG is this true?
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Jan 5 2006, 01:37 AM
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Jan 5 2006, 02:40 AM
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I love Havasupai Group: Member Posts: 1,040 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,878 |
As a cancer survivor, I'll offer my insight into your situation. Please remember you can agree with all of it, some of it or none of it.
Although your dad's behavior and absence has been difficult for you, he's in a different place today. Being diagnosed does extraordinary things to people. Some say f*** it and go off the deep end and others try to make amends for things they have done. It seems like your dad might be making the best attempt he can to own up to his actions. If the cancer is in a later stage, there is a stronger sense of urgency to get things in order, say goodbye and come to terms with life. Not only does he have to deal with his own emotions, he's definately seeing the consequences of his actions that he avoided in the past. While he is alive, it's easier to talk to him and tell him how you feel about things. He'll probably wanting to do the same as well. Although this is extremely hard to do, it is an important step to consider because you can't do it if he dies. I completely understand that I know absolutely nothing about your situation. I'm suggesting it because I didn't do it when my grandfather died. When I was diagnosed it was extremely helpful to me to do this. Now that my dad may also be diagnosed, although difficult, talking to him has helped me to find a sense of peace that I never had. I hope you will thoroughly weigh the value of reconciliation with your father. In my opinion, the most important factor to consider how you will feel about your decision 10, 20, 30 years from today. May you find peace as you begin this difficult stage of life. My heart goes out to you. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Feb 25 2006, 01:20 AM
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I am...utterly speechless. I'm so sorry. I'll pray for you, your mother, and your father.
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Feb 26 2006, 12:27 AM
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 "lal! laugh a little!" Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 364,863 |
Oh gosh...
I have like...the same situation, but it was from about 7 years ago... I'm not willing to talk like that over a post...but if you want to hear...go ahead and PM me... I pray for you honey, I'll pray for you every night... All I want is for a fellow human being to be happy ♥ Sierra |
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| *stephinika* |
Feb 26 2006, 10:46 PM
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Oh wow...that's one of the saddest things I've ever read. I'm so sorry to hear that and I hope things between you and your father get better.
 
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Feb 26 2006, 11:07 PM
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 Pocketful of Sunshine Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,690 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,004 |
Aw, I'm sorry about what happened.
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Feb 27 2006, 08:49 PM
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Oh my gosh.
I will surely pray for you. I'm sorry for everything that happened. 
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Feb 28 2006, 05:32 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,055 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,796 |
Is this true?
OMG. Now I realize how lucky I am......good luck to you and your dad, and your family |
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| *ranniel* |
Mar 1 2006, 08:02 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that also, I hope things get better.
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