He's cheating, Should i tell her? |
 Dec 27 2005, 03:52 PM
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Tiffany <3  Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,685  |
OKAY, So my cousin and this boy have something really good going on, but her boyfriend, Brandon is cheating on her, and he even told me. He told me he would stop fooling around with other girls, but he hasn't kept his promise. Brandon told me all he does i think about Rachael and he even bought her a $500 ring for Christmas. But he's even saying things like he's going to move off this island because he doesn't want her to get hurt if she finds out. GAWD, SHOULD I TELL HER, OR LET THINGS FALL INTO PLACE?
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Dec 27 2005, 03:54 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
you should definetly tell her.
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Dec 27 2005, 04:06 PM
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 Dark Lord of McCandless Group: Member Posts: 2,226 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,761 |
You should run away to Siberia.
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| *xcaitlinx* |
Dec 27 2005, 04:06 PM
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i'd definitely tell her. i think it'd be a lot better for her to find out from you than finding out the hard way (like catching him with the other girl). you can also console her when you tell her that he's cheating and make her feel better.
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Dec 27 2005, 04:07 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 7,149 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 213,509 |
tell her.
cuz if she finds out and she asks you if you knew about it,she'll be so mad at you. |
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Dec 27 2005, 04:12 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 127 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 324,352 |
best if u just tell her.
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Dec 27 2005, 05:08 PM
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tell her, sit back, grab a bucket of popcorn:
and watch hilarity ensue as she beats the everloving crap out of him. i'd do that. 
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Dec 27 2005, 07:50 PM
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 Para ti... Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 139,983 |
defintily tell her, its better fro her to end it now then later
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Dec 27 2005, 09:12 PM
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i agree with everyone, tell her before she finds out and realize that you knew about it before. yeah maybe she won't believe you at first but slowly it'll just all come to her
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Dec 27 2005, 09:17 PM
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You should tell her. Best have her hurt now, then later on when it starts to get serious.
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| *Solipsist* |
Dec 27 2005, 09:21 PM
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*reads all the posts*
Don't tell her. You know just to shake things up. - Solipsist |
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Dec 27 2005, 09:23 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Tell her. She deserves to know. Even if he says hes always thinking about her and bought her a 500 dollar ring. Hes probably not thinking about her when hes cheating with other girls.
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Dec 27 2005, 09:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,055 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,796 |
Tell her. If you can't convince him to stop you'll have to tell. Besides, would you rathe rher find out the hard, and more depressing way (fiding out on her own), or have her find out in a calmer manner (you telling her). If I were you I would definetly tell her.
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Dec 27 2005, 09:57 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
don't tell. hint.
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Dec 27 2005, 10:42 PM
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 naďvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ agreed
Having you tell her is probably almost as hard as her witnessing him with the 3rd girl. So hint it. She'll get the message and start pricking her ears up and watching for signs. |
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Dec 27 2005, 11:38 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
if all he does is think about rachael (which i assume is your cousin) then why the hell would he be fooling around with other girls? if he really doesn't want her to be hurt then why did he cheat?
he only bought her that expensive ring (which i doubt really was that expensive) because he probably feels guilty about cheating and believes that the ring makes up for it plus, he wants your cousin to have no clue that he's being unfaithful. you should definately tell her, you'd want her to tell you if someone was cheating on you wouldn't you? |
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Dec 27 2005, 11:40 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
sadolakced acid is correct. Push her off to find the truth.
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Dec 28 2005, 09:56 PM
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 Infinite's End Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 193,597 |
ouch, thats a tough one
tell him to stop telling u their relationship and just let it be |
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Dec 29 2005, 06:49 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
If i was dating some guy that was cheating on me, and my cousin knew about it, I would want her to tell me. I dont care how much money he spent on her for Christmas, he obviously doesn't care for her if he cheats. Do you really want a guy like that with ur cousin?
I would tell her. Actually, you know. I would talk to Brandon and tell him to tell her. And if he refused, then tell your cousin. She needs to know. She can get really hurt. |
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Dec 29 2005, 07:19 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Duplicate Posts: 1,912 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 137,527 |
If I was in your place, I would tell my cousin, I would tell anyone that I knew that was happening to. Or I would tell him to tell her. :)
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Dec 29 2005, 10:03 AM
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 you`re undeniable Group: Member Posts: 1,136 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,828 |
tell her, i mean it's your cousin. she shouldn't be wasting her time with a guy who's cheating on her even if he bought her a $500 ring. money isn't everything. and if he really was thinking about her all the time, he would be f**king things up behind her back.
and he said he'd move if she found out? gosh, isn't that a little cowardly?  he can't even take the consequences of his actions. he obviously doesn't care all that much if he would just leave her like that. TELL HER.
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Dec 29 2005, 04:28 PM
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 Peggy. Group: Member Posts: 2,508 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,025 |
Yes, definitely. Either you tell her or arrange some sort of conversation so that she would find it out through the guy's mouth.
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Dec 29 2005, 04:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
well, reallt it isnt your buisness to tell, but shes your cousin, somebody closer to you than that boyfriend of hers... so i guess you SHOULD tell her
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| *liquidize* |
Dec 29 2005, 05:33 PM
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DONT TELL HER
let everything fall into place, it isn't worth it. What she doesn't know wont hurt her. Let her stay in her own happy little world! Dont snitch him out! |
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Dec 29 2005, 05:55 PM
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I would hint at it. I'd be too nervous to tell her. Like, hint at it and let her find out for herself.
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| *Libertie* |
Dec 29 2005, 06:47 PM
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I agree with those that said to hint to her about it. But if he keeps bringing it up to you, tell him to grow up and stop telling you about it: he needs to tell her or stop altogether before he causes any more damage.
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Dec 29 2005, 07:19 PM
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 Lurker. Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,161 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,851 |
I would tell her. If she finds out that you knew and you didn't tell her, she'd be hurt. Then again, she might believe you if she's so happy with him. She'd reject it because she doesn't want to think that he would do something like that to her.
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Dec 29 2005, 07:34 PM
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Senior Member Group: Duplicate Posts: 459 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 308,469 |
do what girls do best... spread the word...
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Jan 8 2006, 02:32 AM
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 Brand New Colony Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,078 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Dec 27 2005, 2:08 PM) tell her, sit back, grab a bucket of popcorn: and watch hilarity ensue as she beats the everloving crap out of him. i'd do that.  everyone in this situation shud do that. |
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Jan 8 2006, 02:34 AM
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whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
QUOTE(Anime_gurl_4eva @ Jan 8 2006, 3:32 AM) everyone in this situation shud do that. everyone should type normally. sorry, pet peeve. 
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Jan 8 2006, 02:36 AM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
definitely tell her. dont let her find out that you were lying to her too. the feeling SUCKS.
however, sometimes it's fun to sit and watch 
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Jan 8 2006, 03:20 AM
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 Too slow. Group: Member Posts: 2,730 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,320 |
If my boyfriend was cheating on me and my cousin knew, I would like her to tell me. So yeah, I would tell her.
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Jan 8 2006, 03:23 AM
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 Cockadoodledoo Mother Fcuka!!! Group: Member Posts: 1,438 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 296,088 |
gossip bout it indirectly
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Jan 15 2006, 08:12 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
I would tell her to keep her eye on her boyfriend because you've been hearing not-so-good things about him. If you have the nerve then tell him, but I mean it's going to be hard to convince her unless you have some proof I bet.
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Jan 16 2006, 01:45 PM
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DON'T TELL HER. Hint her instead...
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Jan 16 2006, 02:01 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(ComradeRed @ Dec 27 2005, 4:06 PM) You should run away to Siberia. agreed...but make sure u run back to tell her he's a cheating motherfuker |
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Jan 16 2006, 02:15 PM
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 in the reverb chamber. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,022 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 300,308 |
Tip her off with an anonymous letter.
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Jan 16 2006, 02:55 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
lols i would definately tell her..i mean she's your cousin, why would you want her to get hurt like that? he doesn't deserve her. and plus when she finds out from another source and she also finds out you knew and you didn't tell her she's going to get mad at you too >.<
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Jan 17 2006, 10:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 41 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,270 |
If shes your cousion, tell her. She may not want to hear it but she deserves to know. and either way shes gonna do what she wants by staying with him, or leaving him. You should be lookin out for her and let her know wussup with this little boy
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Jan 17 2006, 10:19 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 41 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,270 |
There is no "hinting" or being "annoymous" be straight up with it, this is your family, your blood. and shes always gonna be your cousin no matter what, he is not neccessiarily gonna be there later on. She deserves to know.
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Jan 17 2006, 10:38 PM
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 I ♥ Him ^ Teresa <3 Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 349,758 |
well if you know you shouldn't be in their matters then don't tell, but if your her best friend tell her.
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Jan 18 2006, 06:23 PM
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refuse to talk to either of them about it anymore. if he starts off on it, say that you don't want to be a part of this. if she suspects and asks you, tell her you don't want to be between anything and that they'd best take it up themselves.
hope everything works out. |
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