how do you convince someone that, you were not trying to break them up? Options

[upf147]

ok, problem, short and sweet, got a friend and his girlfriend. me and her were talking, she asked me to do something, i was talking to him about it for her, and things just got really messy somewhere in there. anyway, one of them (her) thought that i was trying to break them up and is really mad at me and wont talk to me. And i really dont want her angry at me because we are really good friends. how do i convince her that i wasn't trying to break her and her bf up? (truthfully, i wasn't)

[_sarcastic_]

tell her and explain to her what was going on

[silver-rain]

Yeah, just talk to her and explain that you weren't trying to break them up.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ Yes. Explain it. Dont leave out any details.

[upf147]

ok, ill try to talk to her on the way to fourth mod tomorrow...

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I say; try to work things out. Tell her the truth, that you respect her and her bf's relationship and you were not trying to get in the way of anything. Keep in mind next time that you should get TOO into this kinda situation. This is usually left for the lovers to work out.

[*mipadi*]

Just have a sit-down chat and talk to her.

[upf147]

problem one, we dont have much time around each other to sit and talk, problem two, i talked to her but she wont say anything or look at me. this is a really good friend, but this kiddie sh*t she does is getting annoying. should i just give her space for a little bit? and how long? this isnt fair, i never even did anything wrong!

[zany1]

Ask her to sit and listen.
Just ask her to listen to what you have to say, then promise her after your explaination she can say any things she wants.

[Paradox of Life]

Give her time for everything to settle down. Most likely, she'll not be mad at you and won't feel like she needs to ignore you. Give it half a week, minimum. Then go up to her and ask if you can talk to her alone. Don't suddenly jump into defending yourself. Just apologize and say something like..

"I'm sorry if it made it seem like I was trying to break you and your boyfriend up. I know I'm not that good with words. I really hope you can forgive me and be friends with me again. Please?"

If she were to say "NO!" to your face, maybe she's not really worth being your friend. But you could always try again. Just don't seem desperate and give it a rest after each time you talk with her.

[upf147]

yea, thats what i was looking for, nice wording, i was going to see how she reacts when she sees me tomorrow (usually really happy, but not lately, she wont look at me) and then base it from there, day to day. she is also supposed to go to the hospital with me on the 27th because my brother gets a kidney transplant (friend support) so i gotta see how she is feeling about it now....



EDIT: she talked to me a little bit ago, we fixed things, thank god, thanks for the help everyone.

[Babi3xFoOlish]

just tell her that yesh u understand from her persepctive that it might seems like ur tryin to break em up by talkin to him.
but truthfully ur not, and ur sorry for calling him, but ur intension was to only help. and thats all to it. if she still doesnt believe you than oh wells. she needas growup n stop being so inmature. true friends would understand, unlike those.