So confuuuuuused..., What to do? Options

[Paradox of Life]

Me and this guy have been friends for a long time and I've known him for about 3 years. We hang out pretty much every weekend (and talk to each other every day at school). All of my friends know I like him and they say he likes me back. So I ask him and he replies:

"Well, I can't really tell you that because I don't want a girlfriend right now. Because when people break up things get awkward and it could ruin a friendship."

So I said, "Okay then. We can be friends for now."

And he says, "For now."

I've been thinking about it and he hasn't directly said he likes me back, so I don't want to get all caught up in something that may not even exist. I asked him the other day to give me a yes or no answer of whether or not he liked me and he just shrugged and changed the subject. I told him earlier that if you really liked someone you wouldn't be embarrassed to say so and he agreed. He's had several girlfriends in the past so it's not like he's not ready. I'm just so confused. Heelpp.

[*mzkandi*]

Something that I personally have always been cautious of, dating friends. For the most part from my experience and couple of other people I know it can ruin a friendship if you break up. I dated a friend of mine, we were like best friends but we decided to give it a try, it didnt work out and we've only spoke about 5 to 6 times since then. Its just awkward and not so easy to go back to the way things were. Maybe he is a little scared of what would happen to the friendship should you guys get into a relationship and it doesnt work. At least from what I read thats what it seems like. As far as advice goes I say you let things happen on its on, dont force anything. If it is to happen let it happen with time.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I think it's because he's afraid that if you guys go out; when you break up you won't be as close as you used to be. I mean; friendship can turn into love. But love cannot turn back into friendship. Well...at least not the friendship that was there.

[_sarcastic_]

he's just worried about what might happen if the two of you break up. or like he said, he's just not ready for a gf at the moment
give him time

[Chii]

there can be more reasons as to why he doesn't want to date you besides the simple fact that it might ruin your friendship. maybe he's just too busy to have a girlfriend now, or he needs to focus on school.

or maybe, he'd rather be just friends with you but he thinks that by agreeing that you two should be friends for now it won't hurt as much as an out right rejection.

either way...you can't keep like asking him for a relationship. if he doesn't come around now, there's really no point to keep chasing after his heart.

[Paradox of Life]

Well, we went to the mall and we seemed to be having a great time. We took pictures together in the photobooth thingy and we feel really comfortable around each other, but he hasn't ever mentioned being more than friends. He tends to flirt a lot with other girls. Does he not want to get with me because of that? I just feel like I'm not good enough or something. I don't want to ask him out if he's not comfortable asking me out. He says he's not ready for a girlfriend, but I don't know what he really means.

[coconutter]

Hehehee someone push him into asking you out.

[seremela_culnamo]

Sigh* I wish I can help you myself. But I'm also going through the similiar situation. Well not the same same, but he said, "I don't want these feelings to ruin our friendship".

Meh. I suggest waiting for a bit? That's what I'm doing. Probably he has stuff that makes him not go out with you for now. So yea. If he says "for now", hes probably just thinking about it or something.

Not making much sense, am I? ><

[topsyturvy]

If he told you he doesn't want to ruin the friendship, he doesn't. If he said he's not ready for a girlfriend, then he probably isn't. Trust him in knowing what he's saying. If he changes his mind, he'll come back later.

For now just forget about him. He's not ready for you.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

maybe you just mean alot to him and he doesnt want to ruin your friendship. And thats why hes hesitating to go into a relationship with you. But now that you both know each others feelings its gonna become awkward anyways. So you should just continue to push the idea of dating on to him and if he really likes you , you guys will end up boyfriend and girlfriend. And if he never really did, then that sucks for you. And when you pushing the whole dating thing onto him, remind him you were his friend b4 these feelings happened and you will remain his friend IF these feelings fade.i think hes just really afraid of losing u

[Babi3xFoOlish]

maybe its cause hes been through sum stuff in the past thats makin me avoid relations now.
try to get it out of him n understand from the problem

[davexd]

maybe he's scared