Liking Best friend's Girlfriend..., uhm...help? |
 Nov 25 2005, 05:49 AM
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 Hi, My Name is Evan  Group: Member Posts: 52 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 153,786  |
My friend and I are like good friends for like 3 or 4 years now. He met this one girl last year. When we hang out I get to know her more as a friend that is. I wasn't evening thinking about her.
When I hang out with my friend, I say I like this and that and then he's like no way so does my girlfriend. Me and her have a lot of things in common even more then those two. Often I've told him that I am jealous that he found a girl like that. Not because he have a girlfriend and I don't. But what he have right now is what I've been looking for. I can't take her away from my best friend, that would be so rude. But I can't help myself when im with her. She smile at me a lot and talk to me. But I try not to talk too much to her or else my friend would get the wrong idea. What do you guys think I should do.. I mean this one girl could be my soul mate?(perhaps) but he is my only best friend! I don't knowww.... |
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| *mipadi* |
Nov 25 2005, 11:11 AM
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It can be hard to find a "girlfriend"-type person that you really connect to; but it can be as hard to find a "best friend"-type person that you can really connect with, too. Ask yourself: Is it worth it to throw out something that is definite (your relationship with your best friend) for something that may or may not last that long (a relationship with this girl)? Unfortunately, it seems like in this case, you can only choose one or the other.
On a less serious note, you could always just wait for them to break up, and then snag her down the road, when it's blown over with your mate. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Nov 25 2005, 11:18 AM
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^ agreed with mipadi. You can be patient and wait for them to break up. But is it really worth losing the friendship?
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Nov 25 2005, 12:08 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
What Mipadi said.
Thats your best friend, and HiS girlfriend. If you really feel she is your soulmate, in time she will become your partner. But as of the moment she is going out with someone, and that someone is your best friend. I suggest you wait for a breakup and later when your bestfriend is over it try and see whats up. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Nov 25 2005, 12:14 PM
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^ Bella has a good point. If she is your soulmate, she will definately get to you someway or another. If you do plan to get at her when they break up. At least wait for him to get over her. Or...ask him if he minds you going out with her. [That is...when they break up and he's over her.]
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Nov 25 2005, 04:30 PM
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Hi, My Name is Evan Group: Member Posts: 52 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 153,786 |
but when they do break up, I'm pretty sure he doesn't want his good friend to date his ex-girlfriend. I would be like a bad friend. He will be like "oh so you were waiting for me to break up with her and so on" I don't knoww, I like my friends but that girl have a lot of things in common with me. Not a lot of people have the same interest with me like she have. Maybe i should forget it, huh?
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Nov 25 2005, 04:52 PM
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Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
^ Well if they broke up, obviously something wasnt right in the relationship. If he broke up with her, then theres absolutely no reason why he should have a problem with you getting with her, only of course if he still has feeling. Now, if she broke up with him i could understand why he would be kind of touchy on the subject of you getting with his ex. Youll just have to talk to him [ if they do break up ] about it , if you still assume she is your soulmate and you must be with her.
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| *Programmer* |
Nov 25 2005, 05:04 PM
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i know this may sound uhhh wrong..but what your friend doesn't know won't hurt him
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Nov 25 2005, 11:08 PM
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 unrequited love Group: Member Posts: 1,007 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,788 |
i know this same situation happened to this one person i know. but it was all the girls fault and shes a total bitchh...totally left him for his best friend and then they both got played and now shes with some other dude. but during that... they still managed to still be friends. still best friends. what happens happens. it might just be a crush. sure its hard to find that someone but thier are 6 billion others. maybe shes the one maybe she isnt. its not certain. but let fait decide... and if you want to br truthful to your friend...dont be afraid. if he is your friend he'd understand but still dont let him get the wrong idea.
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Nov 25 2005, 11:19 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
You should think more for other's happiness. If your best friend breaks up with her, maybe you can get with her although it would offend him. But really, think more of others than for yourself. I know it's hard, trust me. but we all have to deal with it. It's just as well for you to find someone else
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