What if..., ur bf/gf cheated Options

[jEllyBeaNs]

what would u do if ur bf/gf cheated or u caught them cheating, wut would u do?

if that happened to be...i would kILL EM' haha jk! but i really wouldn't kno wut i would do, i'd be heaRt broken, especially if i really caRed about them.
soo i'd probably would brake up with hiM.

[xangelkissesx]

I would break up with him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
I don't know if I would still be able to trust him. I wouldn't want to end up getting hurt if he cheated on me again Knowing that your boyfriend has been with another girl, its like "what has she got that I haven't"?

[_sarcastic_]

i'd break it off with him right after i find out he cheated on me.
agreed. once a cheater always a cheater

[MeLoNiSyUmMy]

id break up. i wouldnt exactly.."kill" him, haha. but id still talk to him after we worked out all our issues.

[mzbbc]

i would take him back.

[*xcaitlinx*]

kill them....in my mind.
break up with them, of course.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well, it depends what the cheaters reaction is. If he tells me, and he's crying, begging, in tears. I'll probably work it out with him. I have to admit, I'd probably lose a lot of trust in him. But not enough to not talk to him anymore.

[whywasisostupid]

break up fo sho.

[Chii]

Well, it depends what the cheaters reaction is. If he tells me, and he's crying, begging, in tears. I'll probably work it out with him. I have to admit, I'd probably lose a lot of trust in him. But not enough to not talk to him anymore.

i saw this talk show and this guy told his wife that he cheated on her like 20+ times and he was crying and begging her to take him back but then awhile later he took her back onto the show and admitted that he kept cheating with more women. i think he took her on like 3 times.

i believe in "once a cheater always a cheater." if they did it once what's going to stop them from doing it again? after that, i get my answers and go. people like that aren't worth it.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

ide be hurt , break up with them, and try not to talk to them as much as i can, and when im around that person ide act like "we" never happened, your pretty much erased from my memory.

If you got the nerve to cheat on me then ill be an even bigger ass and pretend i dont know you. ;] but im just saying that i think ide just dump em and ignore them for the longest time and end up having some friends with benafits thingy later on and then when i get bored ill just slowly not talk to them agian hehe

[xTINAA]

I really, really think it depends on the situation and the person whom you're dating. You might say now, "Oh, I'd break up with them and never talk to them again" but I'm guessing that once in that situation and it's like the love of your life, you might have a change of heart.

Once a cheater, always a cheater is not true. I know. At least not with everyone. You shouldn't make such an absolute statement.

[verlorenrivets]

Break up with them and never speak to them again?

They're just a girlfriend. I can live without them if they want to find "love" elsewhere.

[Rachel]

I really, really think it depends on the situation and the person whom you're dating. You might say now, "Oh, I'd break up with them and never talk to them again" but I'm guessing that once in that situation and it's like the love of your life, you might have a change of heart.

Once a cheater, always a cheater is not true. I know. At least not with everyone. You shouldn't make such an absolute statement.

Agreed.

My boyfriend cheated on me this summer and I always said "If you ever cheat, I will break up with you."

Alas, 5 months later, I am still with him. I could not break up with him, I love him with all my heart and I know he completely regrets it.

While it does take a lot of work to stay with the person and it takes a lot of strength to get your faith back in the person, it can be worth it.

Ps- Learn how to type, please.

[silver-rain]

I think it depends on the situation and stuff and what he did by cheating and how he feels. If it's evident that he regrets cheating, then I would probably take him back. If he kiss another girl, then I would lose a lot of trust, but I would probably not be able to break it off since I love him so much. However, if he slept with another woman, then it'll probably be over for a couple of months so I can just analyze my feelings and stuff. And, what he does during those months will determine if we'll get back together or not...
But no matter what, I would definitely lose a lot of trust in him and wonder what about me caused him to stray.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

Break up.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Break up and stay friends.

Depending on the situation i would try to work it out and get back together.

[sdfg148]

break up with them on the spot + never talk to them. Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. The End

[*stephinika*]

definitely break up with him. cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship.

[ParanoidAndroid]

I'm gonna kill that son of a bitch! And yet everyone cheats on me.

[Rachel]

Ya'll say that you would break up with them, but believe me, it is hard.

It really depends on the a)extent of the cheating and b)the intensity/realness/intimate-ness of your relationship.

[Kneuklid Romance]

Trust is such a big issue in my relationships (Infact it's what it strives on) and what not, so if she cheated.....she's out the door.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)-------

[teeners4]

yea once a cheater always a cheater.. especially if they cheat in a really seroius relationships. especially a divorce. no excuses

[shortiiex]

depends who he cheated with
but in general
break up with them...
or play some games of my own

[sadolakced acid]

if, by my definition of cheating, she cheats...


GRRRR.

i'd be mad. i'd break up with her, probably.

[mouse_3k]

I would kick his ass, then I would find the *other b!tch* and kick her ass, then I would break up wit him and move on.

[ceara cecilyrose]

Its happened to me, well, sort of.
Never talked to them again.

[Winter]

Break up with him. I've learnt my lesson.

[anniepiee]

break up.
it's hard to trust him again if he's cheated before.
but it really depends on the situation.

[Smilessss]

well..i wouldnt kill mi b/f..i would work it out wit him tho... XP

[Ilaem]

My friend just got cheated on
aaah
It still hurts i can tell
Yeah, i think cheatin is rediculous
You're so damn insecure you need too people telling you that they love you just so you can get by? Wow, you damn whore. Don't f**k with him, me, us. aaaah.

[mzislandpinay]

well i'd work it out with him. I'd see if he really did cheat on me. And asked him why. And if its b/c he doesn't feel the same for me as he did b4.. thne its over but if he just made a stupid mistake and still "likes" me then i'll maybe consider him back...

[steezahh]

mmm im married not going out. in my case we dont go out but we got very close benefits. so if my husband cheated on me, i would probably try to work it out. it would suck having to loose him.

[Rachel]

mmm im married not going out. in my case we dont go out but we got very close benefits. so if my husband cheated on me, i would probably try to work it out. it would suck having to loose him.

You're like 13-14, how are you married?

[silver-rain]

You're like 13-14, how are you married?

Well, maybe they're not really married and it's a pet name or something, because my boyfriend and I call each other "fiancee." But that's because he "proposed" to be before asking me out.

[xTINAA]

Hahha married??

Okay, again people, you say NOW that you'd break up with them, kill them, whatever but honestly once you're put into that situation you never know. Things aren't always so absolute. You can't say that you'd act a certain way in a specific situation until that situation has come. There are plenty of things that we all say we're going to do or not going to do but when the time comes, that changes.

And stop saying 'once a cheater, always a cheater' because it's NOT true in all cases. Once again, it's an absolute. I know people that have cheated and they don't cheat anymore. I don't care what you have to say, but people CAN change if they want to change and obviously they changed the fact that they cheated.

[NgocQuyen]

lols i really don't know what i would do. i guess it would depend...on what he did. i guess...i mean if he showed signs that he was truely sorry then i would think about taking him back, and if he did it again, i would just blow a gasket and kick his effing ash ^^ teehee...but that's only if i decide to take him back.

[hulagurlie413]

F*ck that shit! i'm sorry, but hell no. once a cheater, always a cheater.

i'd never do that to anyone. it's better to just break up with the other person if you're thinking of cheating on them for sure. it won't hurt them as much if you did that rather than cheating on them and having them find out (most likely from other ppl).

[xheartbroken_chi...]

If my boyfriend did that.
I would break up with him probably.
Thats if I found out.
But he would probably be so guilty that I would find out anyway.
But he said that he never would do that.
I don't really have to worry about that.

[sheddingtears]

depends on if he admitted it that he did it and said sorry without me having to ask, then we might be able to work it out... but most likely i'd end up hurt, forgive him, but break it off.

[fameONE]

I've been cheated on. Break up; the best decision.

You're upset? Suck it up, stop crying like a bitch and get over it. You'll save yourself the future relationship insecurities.

[*Zatanna*]

Sadly, cheating happens. I'm not sure if I'd choose any one particular choice since everything is subjective. However, in my most recent (and horrific) experience in being cheating on I chose to not speak to him again. I think at this point in life, I'm too old for that crap. (Besides, the girl is pregnant, which is the *only* reason he decided to tell me anyway).

Um, I'm not bitter still. Nah.

[da_SALSA]

It hurt like hell...man, the moment I found out it was just like something from a movie!

Him: Please, please, I'm so sorry, please...
Me: Shawn, you make your decisions and I'll make mine!

...Broke up with him that night.

[Rachel]

Allright, a lot of you are saying you would end it right away...good lord, it is NOT that easy.

It hurts like more than anything you can imagine (well I suppose if you are in a serious relationship more so than a 1 monther) and it is the hardest thing to say that you want to end it.

And to the once a cheater, always a cheater- please DON'T believe that. Most people have f**ked up once, does that mean they don't deserve a second chance?

[fameONE]

Allright, a lot of you are saying you would end it right away...good lord, it is NOT that easy.

It hurts like more than anything you can imagine (well I suppose if you are in a serious relationship more so than a 1 monther) and it is the hardest thing to say that you want to end it.

And to the once a cheater, always a cheater- please DON'T believe that. Most people have f**ked up once, does that mean they don't deserve a second chance?

Second chance? Yes. Third chance? Nuh-uh.

[*Azarel*]

I'd break up with 'em; the one thing I hate the most is cheaters.

I don't think that it's necessarily "the hardest thing to say you want to end it" because if you don't end it, you'll only be hurt more further along in the relationship.

I'm a believer of the line, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," but only because it's been proven by the way guys in my life act, over and over again. I tried giving cheating guys a second chance, but it's never worked out--they do it again.

In one recent case, my (ex)boyfriend cheated on me around seven months into the relationship. Did it hurt? Undoubtedly, but I gave him a second chance. Five months later, he did it again. I broke up with him. How was to know that he didn't cheat even more times that I didn't know about? He said he was sorry, that he didn't mean to hurt me, that he wouldn't do it again. And shit like that. You know.

Now, he's in a relationship with a girl, and they've been going out for.. eight months now? Something like that. Anyway, last month, I went down to his college to check out the campus and even though he has a girlfriend, he was the one that started hitting on me and so on and so forth. He cheated on his current girlfriend. Surprising? Not in the least.

[HybridCountdown5]

I'd dump him, why would I want a boyfriend who'd date another girl?

[PrideOfAzia]

id run into my room and cry T_T! no id kill them =]

[xhidethedetails]

I'd brake up with him faster then he could say sorry.

[chocolateaficion...]

I would try to work it out and talk about it.
Or I'd maybe avoid him, see what he does.. and if he doesn't come back for me, it would show that I was nothing to him, I guess.

[KissMe2408]

If he cheats, then man.
Our relationship is over. What sucks is that usually I really care for the guy, so I don't want it to end. But how could it be the same after him cheating on me?
nah, I would dump him. I mean, alot of tears would be involved, but if he can't respect me, then he's gotta go.

[*swtcherriipie*]

Hmm i guess that if you really love a person no matter what you say your ALWAYS gunna go back to them.. RiGhT?

[Rachel]

^No...If they hurt you enough, then you won't want to go back. Why would you put yourself through pain?

[fameONE]

Hmm i guess that if you really love a person no matter what you say your ALWAYS gunna go back to them.. RiGhT?

Judging by your sig, you lack substance. I could be wrong, but you come off as somewhat of an idiot.

***

Anyway, its certainly a case sensitive deal. I've been cheated on and I've forgiven right away because I truly felt as though she was sincerely sorry. At the same time, I've been in situations where I saw it coming and dropped the babe like a bad habit (only to pick it up again, but you get the idea).

[Gerifan04]

I'm not sure. I've never been in that situation. While I'd like to think that I could be strong and sensible and just cut it off I see myself being able to talk it out and giving him a second chance. But then it all depends. I do know one thing. For me kissing is just as bad as having sex. So its not like I'll be one to say "It was only a kiss".

[Gerifan04]

Hmm i guess that if you really love a person no matter what you say your ALWAYS gunna go back to them.. RiGhT?

I dont' know about you. But if someone cheats on me the trust is broken. For myself, love cannot happen with out trust. I can still have a relationship and have feelings. But the love is gone. I could work on trying to get the love back. But love alone(meaning without talking and working on things) is not strong enough.

[*mzkandi*]

Hmmmm...good question. It all depends though.
If he confesses about cheating then we might be able to make it work, however, being caught cheating is different. It's like, when the hell where you going to tell about this?

I think just because a person cheats doesnt mean a relationship should automatically come to an end. If they relationship is strong and trust can be re-established then they might be able to make the relationship happen. Good in theory but most of the time this isnt the case.

[DizzyDucky09]

i would break up with him
we could be friends but never anything more than that
i can't be with someone i don't trust

[EddieV]

I'm not evil. So just be friends.

[tokyo-rose]

I'd be really hurt but I'd try to work it out.

[*Intercourse.*]

Kill em'



Nah I would just I don't know, forgive them?