how do you get to kno ur crush?, i have a problem Options

[jEllyBeaNs]

well with me, when it comes to me likeing someone, i can never ever talk to them. i dont kno wuts wroNg with me, but i just cant. my friends say i should just start a conversation, but its noT that easy. But at luNch i always catch him staring at me, i dont kno wut that means...maybe i have food on my face or sumthin, but i just need to kno, why this happens, and why does he always stare at me, wut should i do?

[sprezzatura]

Smile when he stares at you!

[jEllyBeaNs]

Smile when he stares at you!

but then wut if i smile at him, and he's like wut tha heCk! that gurl thinKs i like her or sumthin?

[kykip]

if you and your crush don't have the same circle of friends already then try to make friends with some of his friends. That will help you get to know him alittle better...whatever his friends are interested in most likely he is interested in...or either figure out what you two may have in common...that is the perfect icebreaker to get you to talk to your crush.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

when a guy looks at u and u smile back, thats like a silence hello or heyyyyyy lol.

its tough for many people to talk to their crush u just gotta find somethin u both can talk about. look at ur surroundings or current events that happened, maybe one of those objects,activities or stories can be the ice breaker, and when ur running dry on words be like "it was nice talkin to u i gotta go now, ill talk to you sometime later k ^_^" or some shit like that . I have ALOT of friends that are so scared of talkin to their crushes i basically have to break the ice for them or push them into conversations...be strong :O

[*mipadi*]

but then wut if i smile at him, and he's like wut tha heCk! that gurl thinKs i like her or sumthin?

Don't worry about what could go wrong! Just keep your eye on the prize!

[sadolakced acid]

screw that. make out with him. much more rewarding than polite conversation.

err... actually, i wouldn't take that as advice.

[hottiebheibi]

but then wut if i smile at him, and he's like wut tha heCk!  that gurl thinKs i like her or sumthin?

i'll say your paranoid.... don't think like that girl... a smile means a thousand words... or if that will happen *hopefully not* pretend your not smiling at him but someone you knew behind him or someone you knew who's close to where his at...

befriend his friends... in that way you can know your crush....

[jEllyBeaNs]

^ok, yea i am kinDa paranoid lol. thanxs for the advice

[*disco infiltrator*]

Just talk to him and be yourself. That's really all you can do. Hang out with him sometimes.

[mocassinsx29]

get his screen name and chat? >_< actually, it'd probably be better to talk to him in real life but AIM makes everything so much easier...

[xTINAA]

I think that if you always think about what could go wrong, you'll never know what could go right. Yes, it's important to look at the situation from all sides but it's best to be positive about it. Perhaps he does like you and that's why he stares at you. Look at it that way, it'll make getting to know him easier. Just talk to him. I know it's not as easy as it sounds but if you keep trying at it, it'll eventually become easier. Pretend you don't like him. That way you can act yourself around him. Maybe don't just talk to him but him with a group of your friends and his friends. That way it's more comfortable and the pressure is off.

[lAdDLuVeR1]

I'm kinda in the same situation you are. It's tuff, but you can do it. Make moves or give little hints. Like when you see him in the hallways at school, smile at him or pretend your laughing at something. Beleive me, it works for me and my crush always smiles at me when I do that. Good Luck!

[randomized__xx]

This is kind of weird advice, but try being friends with his friends so you know what kind of people he hangs out with and what he's like, cause people judge you by the company you keep. >_> I'm using my dads advice for once.
Then you have an idea what to talk about and just become friends, then once you become really close just start dropping hints and clues.
It's very weird advice. I know.

[mzbbc]

smile at him back.
and just be open, so that you're not giving off signals that say you don't want to talk to him when you actually do, right? yeaaa if you don't wanna start off a conversation, you can just get into a situation where he can start the conversation. like "somehow" ending up standing next to him, just smile, and let it flow.

[-lana]

well with me, when it comes to me likeing someone, i can never ever talk to them. i dont kno wuts wroNg with me, but i just cant.  my friends say i should just start a conversation, but its noT that easy.  But at luNch i always catch him staring at me, i dont kno wut that means...maybe i have food on my face or sumthin,  but i just need to kno, why this happens, and why does he always stare at me, wut should i do?

agh, i know what you mean. whenever i do talk to him i hide my face with my hair, because i'm blushing. o_o or i usually give him a sarcastic comment.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

but then wut if i smile at him, and he's like wut tha heCk! that gurl thinKs i like her or sumthin?

^ He won't draw conclusions that fast.

Maybe he likes you too. I agree, you should smile at him whenever you catch him looking at you. Or look away, or if he's that playful kinda guy. Stick your tongue out at him make friends with his friend ;x but don't make it seem so obvious.

[jEllyBeaNs]

ok. thanks everyone for your advice, hopefully this will all work out. :)

[Just_Dream]

Hey, do you by any chance talk more easily when you're with a bunch of people or when you're only talking to one person? If you talk more easily with a bunch of people, maybe you should ask your friends and you to hang out with him and his friends for one day and well you know, talk to him. It's easier that way.

Just say hello to him. That's it. If you acknowledge his presence, maybe he'll get the nerve to start a conversation with you. Do you have any classes with him? Bring up something silly/funny/random that happened in that class. :] Look at his clothes--does he wear band shirts? Does he have a binder decorated with certain pictures or something? Maybe he's into photography? YOu never know. Try to find something he's interested in that you are as well. That always works :]

[coconutter]

If you're that shy, get a friend to talk to him.

[jEllyBeaNs]

Hey, do you by any chance talk more easily when you're with a bunch of people or when you're only talking to one person? If you talk more easily with a bunch of people, maybe you should ask your friends and you to hang out with him and his friends for one day and well you know, talk to him. It's easier that way.

Just say hello to him. That's it. If you acknowledge his presence, maybe he'll get the nerve to start a conversation with you. Do you have any classes with him? Bring up something silly/funny/random that happened in that class. :] Look at his clothes--does he wear band shirts? Does he have a binder decorated with certain pictures or something? Maybe he's into photography? YOu never know. Try to find something he's interested in that you are as well. That always works :]

well it depends...when im with a group of my friends i tend to talk a lil to my crush, but then i tend to fade away and start talking to my friends and not him. but i think that if i ever got the chance to be alone with him, then i would probably not kno wut to say. gosH i have serious pRoblem. ooh and no i dont have any classes with him, but im a sophomore and he's a junioR.

[*suddenly she*]

(try to) stare him down.
but chances are, if he doesn't like you that way, he'll think you're crazy.
or you could just go and start a conversation.

[Mikael]

i have the same problem man. an even bigger problem now is, i live 2 states away from her. i at least put in a good but pointless aim convo here and there. just to let her know im not dead yet. im trying, and im gonna keep on trying!

at least youre thinking correctly. get to know her. you have to got to be in her circle of friends.

[Babi3xFoOlish]

he could like you =]
n dont be so uptight.
just let loose n try to talk to him.

[*anubis*]

go up to him.

drop something "accidentally"

and then

bend down... and SNAP

[Simply_unique]

Dont feel bad.. i am the same way.. i cant do anything about my crush.. i cant even befriend his friends because well i have a good reason for that... and also its because ur kinda using them in a way.. and dats not nice..but hey its ur choice.. u gotta do what u gotta do right?

[StubbornFemme]

Well he was in my fifth period but I got to know him by AIM-just so the first convo. wouldnt be as weird for me..if I were to talk to him in person. And it just went from there, on aim and in person.

[FoxBandCutie08]

Do you know any of their friends? Find a reason to talk to his friends, so it won't be wierd looking and talking to them at lunch, then when he looks at you smile and say hey.

[sayitaintso]

well if you catch him looking at him more than like 10 times, it probably means something.

i can't talk to my crushes either.
we don't have any classes together.
our friends don't really connect with each other.
it's just like a secret between us.
then pretty soon the guy gets tired...
we both move on
and i tell myself it wasn't meant to be.

LOL so as you can see,
no communication will get you nowhere.
smile at him. AIM him. go to a dance together. hook up.

[seremela_culnamo]

That's like me. But if you have classes together, get this chance to be in his group or something. If not, try to find out if any of your friends know him. I really don't know either because I'm always too shy to approach my crushes. Luckily, this time he approached me but partially because we were playing a game of Truth and Dare during class.

I know I'm not much help, but I agree with anubis on the drop something "accidently".

[funkayyfreshhh]

uhhh` yeah if hes like smilingg , or likee waiting fo you` in the hall or ummm , iono when u guyss pass each otha` he/she walks slower... smiles ! of course , asks you out ! haha lmao =]

[shadowchild]

okay, get his AIM sn or something... then when you are done talking to him over AIM, tell him that you'll wave to him the next day at school, or sit with him at lunch. Then when you do it, he'll be expecting it so it won't be weird.

At first with the person I like.... I couldn't talk to him either. Then I realized that I had 5 classes with him, so I started to talk to him. Then we got to become pretty good friends and stuff. And then I was sick one time so I asked for his number so he could give me my homework, and now we talk on the phone for an hour or more a day! It's not hard, once you start with the "hi" and "What's up?" it all goes up from there.

He won't think you're weird unless you give him a good reason. If he smiles at you, wave or act flirty! Show him that you like him, if he doesn't like you... it tells you that he isn't the right one, and if he does like you, he'll tell you that he likes you back (in most cases). Try to become his friend!

[mouse_3k]

well this is how i got to know my now boyfriend.
I told a friend that I liked my crush (my current boyfriend) and I KNEW he would tell my crush. he did and i found out that he liked me too and we talked and started to get to know each other.

[mylittleMiracle]

smile to him:)

[priyas]

smile at him. first become his friend. i did that once..then we were together for a while. then he moved.

[*Programmer*]

tell him. --

[topsyturvy]

Think of it this way...

What if he were thinking, "Omg should i smile at that girl? What if she thinks i'm retarded?"

And then he smiles at you, and you look away.

What will he think?

[shoryuken]

oo reall

[xlynk8]

I'm the same, I have no idea to talk to my crush either.

But my last crush, who I had no classes with and made it even harder to talk to, I had my friend get his number for me.. and I never had the guts to actually call him until my guy friend called him for me and we just talked about nothing on the phone, we invited him over to hang out with us and he did, surprisingly. We hung out more after that and we became friends since he had a girl, we're still friends. He moved though.

So.. in conclusion, my method was having a friend being gutsy enough to talk to your crush first. Just become a friend and let it escalate from there.

[itsnever4ever]

i know what you mean, it can be hard to get to know someone you like,
but it helps if you have class with him just talk about school, that's easy, and it is something you can relate to, and just try and be outgoing, be confident, and don't think too hard

[Call911Quick]

go up to him.

drop something "accidentally"

and then

bend down... and SNAP

This post is epic. We have a winnar!

[IVIike]

just be like... hey boy hey and make out with him

[porcelain-00]

i would just say hi or w/e , like wave or smile , if i had a class with him him id ask to borrow some paper or notes or w/e things like that , borrow a pen or pencil lol. If its more of a random cute guy in the hall way i would just wave , smile or say hi , and maybe say somthing like " ive seen you around whats your name?" also , i might ask a few freinds if they know who he is or ask about him , thats what i do about my crushes so i know if i actually will like them haha