Crying is for Sissies! Options

[Shahin]

On a more serious note....

Have any of you guys cried recently? I was just reading that topic down the ways about if people cried when they broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and I got the idea for this topic.

I've built a wall around myself. I haven't cried in 3 years (when my grandma died).
Prior to that, I had two friends leave me. One died in a shootout, and the other in a car crash. I cried. Hell, I bawled. When my grandma died, I don't know. It was a lot to take in, especially because it was Christmas holidays and she had been showing signs that she was getting better. When she left us, I cried some more. I let out everything I had, emotionally and physically. I haven't cried since.

I've known my friend Garrett since before I could talk. We grew up in east LA, our moms had us playing together since before I could remember. Everywhere I went, he would be. Everywhere he was, I was. We were inseperable. I moved away from LA, my dad got a job and we were moving on to bigger and better things, but I knew where my roots were so I would always go back on vacations back to LA to kick it with my old friends.
Eight Monthes ago I got a phone call from my boy Shifty. Garrett died in a drive-by shooting.

After all I went through in the past, this was the most shocking. My first friend, the guy that I of all people was supposed to protect, keep safe was dead. The guilt I've felt from that day has been insane, I know I couldn't have done anything and that isn't particularly what I feel guilty for. I'm not complaining, and I'm not asking to be consoled, I'm just telling a story of what happens when people bottle up their feelings. I didn't cry when I got that phone call. I couldn't. No tears were there, and none have come. None will come.

Don't bottle up your feelings, that's what I did. For a time after my friend went home (heaven), I felt absolutely nothing. I felt nothing, nobody could break the box I had created around myself. Until I met a girl. But that's a whole different story that nobody wants to hear. Remember though, cry when you have to even if your the macho type. You don't necesarily have to do it to a live public audience guys, but do it nonetheless.

Sorry for making this story so long...Couldn't find a way to shorten it any more.

[*wind&fire*]

rrrrrrrrrriiiiiiiiiiiiiigggghhhhhhtttt... crying is theraputic...

[Eryi]

I haven't cried recently, but I will when my great-grandmother dies..

[xsign_my_heartx]

Sad story. Yeah, i used to keep things in and bundled up a lot. Then it would form into anger, and whoever got me mad, I would explode on them with all my emotions i would keep inside.

[aera]

i have a friend who almost never cries too. so when she finally snaps, she cries for hours and hours. so now she just lets it go and cry when she should.

[racoons > you]

the last time i cried was September 20th at about 9o'clock. it was the school assembly official anouncing that my friend was dead

[verlorenrivets]

I haven't cried for any emotional reason since my Grandma Sabina died. Rest her soul.

I have however since then cried because I got jacked in the face (somewhere between my nose and left eye) by a kid who thought it would be funny to test out his new brass knuckles on me. Needless to say, he got sent to the hospital, and he got to try out his brand new casts in the slings they gave him for his arms.

Glad he didn't do any permanent damage to my face. I'm too pretty for someone to do that to me. Although it would be cool to have a sweet scar over my right eye...

[o0olaalaa]

studies show its good to cry you just cant bottle it all up inside.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ Freals.

Im sorry about what happen but i know how you feel. I really do. Im happy thats changed since youve met a girl :D

But i live by these words. Never let them see you cry.
I actually do tend to keep things to myself, but not as much keep them bottled up. I let them through my music and my writing :D

[coconutter]

My best friend died in a car crash. It took a while to take it in. Then I started bawling. Almost all girl would agree too, crying is not bad.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

There's always a lot of drama in my house so I cry often. Not many people know I do because I always cry when I'm alone.

[*anubis*]

There's always a lot of drama in my house so I cry often. Not many people know I do because I always cry when I'm alone.

si si

oh yeah. and brownsugarrr, i read it!

[sm0kinm0nky]

i haven't cried in such a looong time

[*danielle_x3*]

i'm so sorry for all your losses,
most recently, my father died. he died oct. 9, 2005, about a month ago.
when i found out, i cried an ocean. but, before his death, id ALWAYS bottle up my feelings. whenever something upset me, i wouldn't cry unless i was feeling low of low. but after he died, i'd cry almost every day, and sometimes i'd feel uncomfortable. . because i never cried this much before in my life. but, now i understand what would happen if you bottle your feelings up, and i agree with you. you should cry, even if you think you're hard and tough. i don't know, crying makes me feel better . . sometimes.

anyway back on subject, a lot of my guy friends wouldn't cry in front of people, but they tell me that they'd like to cry when they're alone. they'd feel embarassed to cry in front of a crowd of girls or something . . but some guys would be too proud to admit that they've cried before

[toria66622]

I hate when guys keep it all bottled up...I like them to tell me whats wrong..

[_sarcastic_]

^ me too, but my bf never does

i do cry, just not infront of people, and i can't help but bottle up my feelings.

[Relentless]

Wow, that is just sad. 2 friends and a grandmother died, depressing. ='[ For some reason, I really don't like to cry in front of people. Actually, the only time I cry was friend's/family's death, espicially when you knew them for so long. I usually like to keep my feelings bottled up, I just do. (x

[littleswallow]

I cry very easily... if you know where to hit. But I'm the type of person who usually keeps my problems to myself... not because I don't want people to think that I'm weak... it's just I'd rather not worry them. Last time I cried? Last night... mama made me quite cheerleading, cause she's afraid that it might affect my studies. It's okay, I did understand her point. Studies first after all.

[mouse_3k]

I cry alot. Actually I cry to much. I cried because my bf yelled at me andI freaked out or something. Had a breakdown or somethin. I feel special though cause my bf never cried in a LOOONG time and when he recently did because of one of his family members, I was there to hold him

[imhyper]

this topic just made me cry...that's how emotional i am. I feel so sorry...
i cry for other people too.
and it's ok to let your feelings out

[Shahin]

Thanks for all your support..I still ask that nobody feel sorry for me, just heed my advice. I still don't know how to respond to all your answers.

[Etab]

It's natural to cry, you were designed to cry. Don't let society fool you. It's not healthy to keep things bottled up, like it was said before, it will lead to anger if you don't let it out.

It's kind of hard not to feel sorry for you, but if I were you I'd just keep going and try to talk about those people as infrequently as possible.

[ParanoidAndroid]

On a more serious note....

Have any of you guys cried recently? I was just reading that topic down the ways about if people cried when they broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and I got the idea for this topic.

I've built a wall around myself. I haven't cried in 3 years (when my grandma died).
Prior to that, I had two friends leave me. One died in a shootout, and the other in a car crash. I cried. Hell, I bawled. When my grandma died, I don't know. It was a lot to take in, especially because it was Christmas holidays and she had been showing signs that she was getting better. When she left us, I cried some more. I let out everything I had, emotionally and physically. I haven't cried since.

I've known my friend Garrett since before I could talk. We grew up in east LA, our moms had us playing together since before I could remember. Everywhere I went, he would be. Everywhere he was, I was. We were inseperable. I moved away from LA, my dad got a job and we were moving on to bigger and better things, but I knew where my roots were so I would always go back on vacations back to LA to kick it with my old friends.
Eight Monthes ago I got a phone call from my boy Shifty. Garrett died in a drive-by shooting.

After all I went through in the past, this was the most shocking. My first friend, the guy that I of all people was supposed to protect, keep safe was dead. The guilt I've felt from that day has been insane, I know I couldn't have done anything and that isn't particularly what I feel guilty for. I'm not complaining, and I'm not asking to be consoled, I'm just telling a story of what happens when people bottle up their feelings. I didn't cry when I got that phone call. I couldn't. No tears were there, and none have come. None will come.

Don't bottle up your feelings, that's what I did. For a time after my friend went home (heaven), I felt absolutely nothing. I felt nothing, nobody could break the box I had created around myself. Until I met a girl. But that's a whole different story that nobody wants to hear. Remember though, cry when you have to even if your the macho type. You don't necesarily have to do it to a live public audience guys, but do it nonetheless.

Sorry for making this story so long...Couldn't find a way to shorten it any more.

If you still feel, lonely and melancholic, I'll be your friend. I'll help you get on and move on. I'll be there to listen to your complaints or wants. Though we might live far away, I feel the need to be there for you. Don't get me wrong, it's not out of pity, but I know how you feel. I know what it's like to lose so many things and shut them in an empty bottle for so long. To watch the world go on happily while everything that impacted my life went away. I'll be here for you. I'll be your crying shoulder. But please don't bottle them up anymore. It's too sad to think of. People like you don't deserve such loss and emptiness.