Bestfriends mean Forever, at least that's what I thought Options

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

I'm sure all of you have had a bestfriend before. We wouldent be complete without them. Honestly I believe you can't learn anything about yourself unless you have one. Well I have had a bestfriend since Kindergarten. The first day of kindergarten she came up to me and greeted me. We been bestfriends ever since. 13 year's now. And were known in school as "the best friends" everyone knows me from her, and everyone knows her from me. Were basically sisters, we never fought...untill now. And this time it's big.

It all started month's back, but I now just did something about it. She has another good friend who usually hangs out with us when we go to movies and everything. I never really liked her, and just kinda put up with her. Well with my busy schedule I wanted to go see a movie with my bestfriend Steph alone, and she wanted to come. I told her no, and thats when we started to fight. I'm no longer going to pertend i like her, i was only friends with her because of steph. Anyways... Steph feels caught in the middle.

Well the other day, Jamie, Steph's other good friend went to the hunted house to meet a guy. I met him because i ended up being there tour guide, he asked me for my number and he got mine. We talked alot to..well Jamie fliped out because he basically ditched her for me and my friend. So she and I are fight and shes crying to Steph and I go to school and see Steph.

She turned to me and was like "I dont mean to say this in a mean way, (then she paused) and goes, but "I think we need to take a break" I'm like No steph, and i looked her in the eyes and set the story staight. I cant let her take a break. I'm not ready to loose my bestfriend. I'm afraid if we do, that like we wont be friends again. And on top of that we have like 5 classes together, where were always laughing in and sitting next to eachother.

Well whenever Jamie comes up to us, she stops talking to me completly and talks just to her. I feel like shit. So what it basicaly comes down to, is things arnt the same.Were not laughing and having the fun were use to having. And as much as I dont want to take the break, I think it would be best. Even though shes over us taking a break.

I just never understood it, why do bestfriends take breaks? Arnt there suspto be there for eachother when they need them the most... when there at there breaking points and need a hug and need to be told everything would be okay. Thought so but i guess i was wrong.

sorry this is sooo long, but any help. Thanks for reading/caring.
Bye loves

[TYPiKALFEMME]

Wow. I actually read it, haha. Um, I had a best friend since forth, well--fifth grade to be exact. And we are known as BF's too, sometimes its annoying especially in high school; because everyone gets so damn curious to where the other is, and stuff like that. But back to you, I use to feel the same way too, it was kinda recently too..where it was just usually me and this other best friend of mine-usually hung out and all that. But she started bringing along this girl name Shea, and I tried to like her like you did for you friend..ya know for the sake of the friendship right? Yeah, so I stuck with for months during when it was suppose to be me and her..stimes shea would come along..and I would feel uncomfortable b/c she had some of the same tastes that I didnt have with my b.f. Shea would always try to pull my b.f, jessica away and never let jessica have a chance to talk to me when we go out. Until one day they both had a fight and all that, and I finally told Jessica, she said she had feeling but she would never ditch me for someone else. So I guess my advice for you is to just try to IM her,call her up, email her anyway..or go to her house..and try to talk with her..that you never ever intentionally try to do anything to jepordize (sp?) your friendship, and just tell her how you cant let one problem ruin a friendship of 13yrs. Believe me, she'll listen, because every relationship is going to have some bumps in the road..the best thing you could do is act like you are still a best friend and win your friend back..because they are really hard to find. And just try to tell her to compromise about the whole trio hanging out thing.. Hope it works out well (:

[xosteffanator]

Hmmm try getting Jamie a bf so she won't bug you and steph so much instead she'll be obsessed over her bf.

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

Thank's for reading all of that. And I have talked to her about it she just gets pissed off when I mention Jamie, I mean how can I not, I hate her, she talks about me to my bestfriend rather me. And it pisses me off. LOL but anyway's. Yea I talked to her, and I told her I'm not ready to take a break, and I'm trying to like go on like nothing happen,today was a good day, we laughed, but yesterday we didn't really talk and I cried, whenever I was around her. I don't know , i fell like I'm loosing my bestfriend and that feeling sucks.

I'm glad everything worked out with you and thanks for the advice.

[aera]

your best friend should believe you instead of the other girl. but you should have told your best friend outright from the beginning that you didnt like the other girl. then your best friend wouldnt have invited her to go to the movies all the time since she would know how you felt about her. and this wouldnt have happened.

but just tell her what happened, like with the haunted house and so. but i dont see the problem about going to the movies with just you and your best friend. i'd get mad too if some person i didnt like just appeared and tried to take my best friend.

[TYPiKALFEMME]

I hope I'm not spaming or anything but-- Yes, I had that same feeling of loosing a b.friend ..soo many times. Because I think we're just so used to being with them, it's weird to bring someone else into the circle and have them share the laughs,moments,talks, and secrets. But I think it's really stupid of your friend (no offense); she's getting piss off at a dumb little thing. Like you said, how can you steer away from the Jamie subject? It is what's causing it, in the "story" you told us..didnt seem like you were man stealing away from Jamie or anything like that you know? The guy and Jamie wernt even going out , so I mean what the hell is wrong with that right? If the guy was more interested in you than her, then sorry for Jamie but that's how it works. I just hope you have better days and have the relationship built up way stronger again. Probably it is better to..now that I have thought about it..that you step off of the Jamie subject and just keep going out and talking with your b.f. for a few days..and then if it happens again..then you know and your b.f. knows that at least you tried to fix it..Hope it works out*

[o0olaalaa]

wow well i read in this book that u should never hang out with three ppl cuz one will always be left out. and u should really make her talk to you, like talk talk. and tell her everything and then maybe she'll understand?

[aera]

^yeah. i used to be in a three-some and i always felt left out. eventually we all found out that we all felt left out... so we worked something out. i forget what we did but it all ended fine.

[yuRi22]

It's true that you should've been honest from day one about that Jamie girl. I'm guessing that your best friend feels a bit "betrayed" (I know that isn't the right word but something along those lines) because you weren't truthful about how you felt about Jamie. That being said, if she is your best friend then she shouldn't act in such a way as to ignoring you completely when Jamie comes along. I've believed that best friends or just friends in general are people who will be there for you no matter the circumstances. And if something such as that can break a strong bond as friendship then you have to rethink things. I do wish you the best of luck and that you and your friend will resolve this. Fights are alright, it happens but it's more the question of if your friendship can withstand it. If and when it does you guys will be even closer friends.

[Looow]

Moved to Relationships

[NgocQuyen]

lols awwhs..i use to feel that way all the time..hehe my friends really dont choose me over anybody..i mean its never been that way and im afraid it never will be, hehehe...i mean best friends are supposed to be there for you and everything, but people arent as you expect them to be...people change and thats just that...its heart breaking but its true..hehehe...maybe if you guys take a break and then realize you guys really need eachother for that "moral support" type of thing then your friendship would be even stronger

[Fade to Black]

:-( im not that good friends with my best friend anymore, we used to be like this *fingers crossed* but now she's always hanging out with all these other girls.

[piney]

aw
sounds horrible
guess what?
the same thing happened to me today...excepy with ALL my friends. i dont get it. i never even did anything.
PM me.

[verlorenrivets]

Nothing is forever. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it's pretty common to grow away from people.

[boobooxpp]

wow that was long, but it was interesting so i read the whole thing :P

i think that you shoulda been truthful about jamie from the start, but now it's too late so forget about that.

you + jamie are both putting alot of pressure on steph. a break will most likely end a good friendship forever but that's just a risk to take....

OR...you can tell steph that you really dislike jamie + that you two have been friends since...FOREVER, and you don't want jamie to split you two up.


i know if me + my best friend were to split, i'd be devastated since we know everything about each other.

[ChEeR A HOliC Xo]

boobooxpp, that's how we are. We been bestfriends since kindergarten and we know everything about eachother, sometimes we know so much about each other that we get annoyed. And I think you had a good point about me and Jamie putting alot of pressure on her, because I know I did, whenever I would get pissed at Jamie I would tell Steph, Jamie would always run back to Steph about me too. But I never have time to say it to Jamie cuz she always runs away from me.

Also I'm a cheerleader. I take it seriously, its my life, i do it all the time. It's changed me, I'm not the same person i use to be. I dont let people push me around anymore. i dont sit back and take shit, i stick up for myself. And I know thats one thing Steph misses about me. I heard her say it about me to another friend of mine. But I won't change that. So come Monday I'm going to try to prove to Steph that I am the same person I am, but my morals just changed. And another thing that doesnt help she never wanted me to become a cheerleader from the begining, but I took that chance and I love it.

Thanks so much you guys.