fob parents...., just read.. Options

[redlac]

well, deres a chance dat i might get a gf... (most likely...) but since i told ma rents dat i will tell them when i get one, i told them, but somehow they freaked out soooo bad... and they lectured me the whole day yestoday bout it... >< (ya, fob parents... they want me to focus in skul and not get a gf till i graduate from university... wtf!!! ) so i ono wat to do now... listen to ma resnts or disobey??? >< gahhh wat did you ppl when you have troubles like this???????

[ParanoidAndroid]

That depends, what did your fob parents say?

This topic should be moved to Relationships

[Note]

My fob parents don't give a damn.
[jerry]

[redlac]

they told me to focus in skul, relationship is 2 early for me... and im 2 immature for gurls... and i will get hurt eventually.. you know, all that old stuff...

[pshaa.shauna]

Well with the way you type maybe you should consider concentrating on school a little more. Having a girlfriend isn't everything. So unless you are MADLY in love with this girl, is it really worth getting your parents pissed at you?

[ParanoidAndroid]

SUZZETTE PLEASE MOVE THIS TOPIC!

Well your parents were right about you getting hurt. But it's better to experience hurt or pain or mistakes earlier rather than avoiding it because in the future, it can help you avoid the next mistake. And maybe you CAN focus on school and relationships? Just don't act like your girlfriend is the whole world though because once you guys break-up you might get all emo and that would be pointless since there are a lot of other girls out there.

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lmfao shauna, lol nice....yes maybe he should focus on school a little bit more.

[*stephinika*]

moved to relationships

[pshaa.shauna]

SUZZETTE PLEASE MOVE THIS TOPIC!

Well your parents were right about you getting hurt. But it's better to experience hurt or pain or mistakes earlier rather than avoiding it because in the future, it can help you avoid the next mistake. And maybe you CAN focus on school and relationships? Just don't act like your girlfriend is the whole world though because once you guys break-up you might get all emo and that would be pointless since there are a lot of other girls out there.

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lmfao shauna, lol nice....yes maybe he should focus on school a little bit more.

^ Why thank you.


Like she said, it is possible to concentrate on both, but if you can't, ditch the girl and go for the academics. Unless you plan to have her carry your children. And don't become emo, it's not hot. Especially if you get the chick cut and the girl pants, because then people can't tell your gender.

But seriously??? skul?? IT'S SCHOOL! IT PUTS THINGS IN YOUR HEAD, IT ISN'T YOUR HEAD!

[Herizon Action]

this topic was moved twice! or two mods said they would.

WELL, I haven't had FOBparent problems for a while... My mom relates very well with me in social stuff, so usually it's all fun.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Well can you explain more on this lucky gal and maybe we can hlep you with your decision.

[pshaa.shauna]

Seriously now. Confess. Why is this girl so special?

[annalucky]

My parents are exactly like that, but they don't know, so I don't care really.

I agree with other people..maybe school should be your focus right now. = ]

[o0olaalaa]

well it depends on how much you like her.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Seriously now. Confess. Why is this girl so special?

tell me more, tell me more, tell me more

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Do whatever you think is right. Will this girl come between you and your school work? And I agree with o0oolala how much do you like her?

[topsyturvy]

skul... resnts

Well with the way you type maybe you should consider concentrating on school a little more.

HAHAAH.

How old are you? I'm assuming it's only physical attraction at this stage.

Okay, fine, maybe it's not, maybe the two of you have a bond that you see lasting forever. Well, then, run away from your fob parents

[redlac]

LOL, i really do need to focus in *skul* XD

shes an international student, shes really charming , very mature, and we had alot of fun hanging out, shes a great friend, and will be a great gf if she says yes.

edit: im almost 17, shes 17

[ParanoidAndroid]

^aww smitten redlac!

love is a beautiful thing! it should never be unrequited love!

[pshaa.shauna]

Okay so basically she isn't some player-slut-whore girl. Well, as long as you are able to concentrate on school and her, then go for it. Maybe once as you guys have been going out for 3 months or so, reveal it to your parents, tell them how long you've been dating, and also tell them how much of an effect it had on your grades.

[ParanoidAndroid]

^ or sometimes "what they won't know won't hurt 'em"

[pshaa.shauna]

*"what they don't know won't hurt them"

[ParanoidAndroid]

I used won't for a reason

when my parents disaprove of a boy, i say in my mind, "Man, f**k you"

[redlac]

^i told my parents cus i didnt want to hide anything from them... since me and my parents arnt that close,so if i stop communicating with them, then we are no differ from strangers >< and this time they seem be pretty seriouse for not wanting me to date girls. sigh, i think ill just hide it from them for a while.. :P lol, "what they won't know won't hurt 'em" sounds like a good idea!

[pshaa.shauna]

You make sure it's very hidden, because if they find out, the trust is completely gone, and you just prooved their point.

[ParanoidAndroid]

You make sure it's very hidden, because if they find out, the trust is completely gone, and you just prooved their point.

yeah I guess it's pretty much better to tell them. You have to find a way to convince them that you're mature enough to handle this. The only reason why they're being fobbish is because they don't trust you enough.

[CuddleWitCathy]

thats how my parent are to... they like to lecture alot but they told me if i have a bf not to get serious but still pay more attention on school...im so use to all the lectures from all the grown up i just learn to ignore them...

[hulagurlie413]

Well with the way you type maybe you should consider concentrating on school a little more. Having a girlfriend isn't everything. So unless you are MADLY in love with this girl, is it really worth getting your parents pissed at you?

hahahaha i'm sorry, but that's hilarious. obviously you're asian by the way you type and so you know how asian parents are when you piss them off. you'll never hear the end of it.

[ParanoidAndroid]

"No matter what you do about yourself, your parents are still the people who f**ked each other and went through 9 months of hell to give birth to your beautiful life....respect them"
-anonymous

[redlac]

^ LOL , so rude , and so true... XD and yes, im asain. i have fob parents, and im half fob.. lol

[ParanoidAndroid]

^lol Fobs rule!

seriously, I think you should prove to your parents they can trust you.

[redlac]

update!...
she told me to meet her in a park today, and we had a really long and weird talk, turns out we were thinking about the same thing, both of us dont want to go too far with our feelings, so we decided that we just remain friends, untill we know each other more and we get older... i broke down right away when i got home.. i just couldnt stop crying.. so i called her, and she cheered me up.. and everything is good now ^_^ thanks to you all!

[vehvih]

Oh.

Well, I'm a girl, so basically they look down at me because of my vagina.
[/exaggeration]

But seriously, when I hear my parents talk about us [my sister and I] might have boyfriends just because .. one of them would scare the other on getting pregrnant .. like everytime they talk about it.



I know about protected sex .. and they are too 'religious' whatever that is, to use contraceptives or whatever on birth control methods because they think it is not natural and that shit.

One day, my family was talking about an issue on one of our relatives might be pregnant and underage, I muttered of why not using of condom, and my sister shushed me.



She's 18, I'm 15. My family believes in God, I don't. They force me to believe in God, nothing makes a single difference.

Fcking FOB Traditionssss

[resrchmnkygrl6]

how old are you??? you'd think you'd be able to spell school by now...hmm... you just need to make a pros and cons list...which ever has more pros is the one you need to go with...

btw...(WAY OFF TOPIC)....what's lmao??? i've seen it like thrice...hM_m...

[hammers and hear...]

maybe if you show your parents you will/you are doing well in school they'll reconsider...

[hulagurlie413]

how old are you??? you'd think you'd be able to spell school by now...hmm... you just need to make a pros and cons list...which ever has more pros is the one you need to go with...

btw...(WAY OFF TOPIC)....what's lmao??? i've seen it like thrice...hM_m...

lmao means "laughing my ass off".

[HuGzNKissEs]

wuts a fob parent??

[Kneuklid Romance]

I think your parents are correct. You should focus on school. Most people that date at an early age become emotional wrecks and very insecure about themselves. Girls will always be there, good careers won't.

People date too early now a days and well, they have their priorities all f**ked up as well as their emotional state afterwards because they finally wake up and smell reality, that being in a relationship is more than they can handle.

When I become a proud father I wont let my kids date until 17-18, and I'm gonna make sure my daughters and sons meet good people. If not, *makes axe noise*

Yeah ^_____^

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

[redlac]

^_^ its true thou, 17 is still too early >< and i did what my parents told me, doesnt feel that good. but i guess its good for me thou.

btw, a fob is a chinese mainlander

[coconutter]

if u countinue tqalking like that then ur rents want ever let u get a gf.

[WindSorcerous]

Well with the way you type maybe you should consider concentrating on school a little more. Having a girlfriend isn't everything. So unless you are MADLY in love with this girl, is it really worth getting your parents pissed at you?

I totally agree...
...and yeah dude, your typing gives me a headache..

[sabbyrina]

RENTS? SKUL?
GO DIE YOU MAKE ME SICK.
sorry -_-

[hulagurlie413]

haha this is hilarious! you guys are harsh, but funny.

[ParanoidAndroid]

haha this is hilarious! you guys are harsh, but funny. 

Which is why we're all family.








If you're not sure who to pick, parents or girlfriend....man you're hopeless

[seremela_culnamo]

Ermm, I have never been through this since I have never been in a relationship before. But right now, I have this major crush on my friend and my family knows about him. They think I'm going out with him or something, but we aren't. It's a long story to why they think this way, but let's just say that I had a major breakdown at school over a month ago. So he decided to walk me home after knowing me for only a week and my dad and sibling saw us. Then like just over 2 weeks ago, we went out to buy gifts for our friends' upcoming birthdays. My brother knows it's the same guy so obviously he doesn't keep his mouth shut and start all these things at home that I'm dating him.

Anyway, um, if you really want to get this over with, ask your parents why they are so mad. After all, they DID tell you to tell them if you date a girl or whatsoever, right? & it's not your fault because you didn't expect such a negative reaction from them.

My parents are fobs but they came here when they were kids, so they are pretty Canadian-like. Everyone in my family is. Haha. My parents can never make my siblings and I turn into fobs. Okay, long story there but we are just pure CBCs. Anyway, all I got to say is that not only do I have to endure my brother's taunts, but I do recall the day that I asked my mom about relationships. Or she asked me. Whatever, anyway works. But for years and years, she said that my older sibling and I shouldn't date until we GRADUATE from UNIVERSITY! But my sister is in Uni right now and all my mom says is that because of my sister's tom-BOYish attitude, she will never find a guy.

But for me, she thinks that once I'm out of here, I will be dating right away. Like what the heck? It was one of her biggest objectives of NOT letting me go to a school that required moving out. Meh, it's all to darn weird. Since I mentioned something about teenagers dating all the time and such. & her simply saying that she knows how it's like to be a teenager and that lots of them date secretly behind their parents' backs. So I really don't know what to do or even give you a suggestion of what to do.

I live in a high populated fob community But most of the fob parents don't give a damn about who their daughter(s) and/or son(s) go out with. Meh, I wish my parents weren't so strict and worrisomes at times.

But "good luck" with your parents. I'm sure they will understand and hey, at least you're being a good son and telling them the truth when they told you to do so, right?

[Fade to Black]

your parents don't have to know right?

[NgocQuyen]

hey mann fob parents are the shizz hahahaha =) so seriously...my parents are like totally fob...hehe they act the same way....but you should concentrate and school more, i mean parents really do know best...but if you really like the girl then just follow your heart

[redlac]

awww, thanks you guys! you've gived me so much support ^_^ and ya, yestoday she came to my house to study for a test. my parents found out it was her , but they didn't lecture me or anything, they didnt say anything after she left, and it seems like they like her alot. ^_^ yay!
anyways, thanks again!

[shortiiex]

i have fob parents
i don't care what my dad says
but my mom use to be like you can't have a boyfriend till after college
then she changed it to 16
now it doesn't matter
but if that first rule still existed for me...i would just date behind her back..i would tell her i am just hanging out with a couple of friends...it will be little secret

[ApocalypseAelis]

obviously you're asian by the way you type

I hope you don't mean that the way I think you mean it, because I find that offensive... ._.

No offense, but if you can't even spell school right, it either means you're probably a bit too young to date, or you really do need to focus on your education like your parents say.

Parents can be difficult, but they know more than you do and are capable of making good decisions, even if they are FOBs. I'd say trust their judgement.

[steezahh]

FOB? help!

[curiousperson]

If I was in a situation like that, I would have worked something out with my parents
they wanted you to do good in school...and you wanted a gf

my conditions:
all A's in "skul"=dating
would that have worked for you?

[gr00vyswordsman]

maybe you could prove to your parents that you could stay atop your school and have a gf at the same time. Like maybe NOT tell them right away and just have that relationship. Tell them a few weeks later and that she isn't a disctraction to school. It worked for me before.