why is everyone acting so differently Options

[miz_sunshine]

When everyone found out I got into a relationship with someone, everyone hasnt been acting the same. All my friends keep comparing my boyfriend to their's and keep shoving into my face that their guys are better. Some of my friends keep flirting with him!! My boyfriend's friends have been teasing me and taking my stuff. We both tried to stop them from bothering us but..they just tease us some more. All my cousins keep saying SEND US A PICTURE OF HIM!! and since I'm the youngest in the family it doesnt really help. What should I do to get everyone to stop bothering us?!?!

[Chii]

this is a new thing for you and apparently this is how people react.

you must have some really crappy friends if the only way they can make themselves feel important/superior is trashing others.

you have to really put your foot down in situations like this because enough is enough. you need to be really stern with them. everyone deserves a little privacy, especially in situations like these becase this kind of stuff can tear you two apart.

[Comptine]

simple: tell them to mind their own effing business

usually my retort to my guy's friends asking about our sex life is: "How about this? You stop being so damn interested in my sex life and get your own."

...but not really saying sex life. you have to set a line for your friends and family. for the friends who showoff their guys, tell them to stop bragging or just casually mention something get about your guy (e.g. something really sweet he did or ...how...he...kisses). for the flirty friends, you have to tell your guy to tell them to back off. it doesn't work when you approach them. they tend to do it more. so have your guy say, "listen, my girlfriend is your friend. i really like her so i hope you would stop flirting with me so much."

as for your cousins, no harm in showing him off.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

They are jealous, or at least I'd hope so, or you got some weird friends. The cousins asking about the pictures is just probably curiosity.

[HelplessCry]

seems to me your friends miss you. on how they compare thier boyfriends to yours. they want to make you jealous and not have a boyfriend. either that or they are some really mean people :[ and family. well you know how family gets when they want to see your boyfriend they're only looking out for you. they'll judge him of course but eventually if you guys like each other they'll grow to understand and support that. and if your friends keep flirting with him maybe they kinda are looking out for you in a weird way... like if he turns on you or something. IUNNO! but ehh...

[ParanoidAndroid]

^lindsey, i love the way you put things...cuz theyre so true (not being sarcastic)

i think lindsey is right

OR

if she's not just peg them with stones and say, "You're just jealous cuz i got my own b*** by my side"

[Just_Dream]

Okay, HALF OF THE PEOPLE ARE MOST LIKELY JEALOUS. The second half are just nosy or like to tease people to feel better.

Comparing? OMG if your friends do that to you, they're not your friends. Tell them straight out that you don't like them comparing because everyone's relationship is different. Plus, if they compare materialistic-wise, then it's not good.

As for your boyfriend's friends, they're just guys. They always tease guys. Deep downt hey're jealous or just don't like you in general. Not something to worry about because once they get a girlfriend you can always make fun of them.

Your friends and your bf's friends are just immature. It's all about telling them how you feel and ignoring them if they don't stop bothering you two.

As for your cousins/relatives.. they're just nosy haha. That's why I try to keep my relationship low-key around my family, plus they don't make a big deal out of it because if I don't try to be secretive around my sister, she doesn't question. Also, your family probably just wants to judge and compare if they see the picture. -_-