what do you do, ... Options

[euroxbaby]

what do you do when the person you have been seeing for a while tells you that you ruined their life...i dont see how thats possible since you have more steps in life then the person you are dating...but the words all hurt the same....what do you do??

[Lightner]

usually these choice of words are said because of fear. They are scared because u might have already done something to harm them, u knowning or not. This could also mean from peer pressure they were told stuff about you, so inturn they listene to their friends and made a qrap excuse to tell you... im not sure though.. can you tell us some more about your relationship?

[euroxbaby]

okay...um...weve dated for a wile...we fight all the time...but we are fighters and i think we always will be....so right there was a bad connection.....we both dont know why we are dating...but as soon as one of us claims fin..we try and take it back.....i am more of the liberal were as he wants to be a dictaror...for instance: if someone comes up to me and comments my shirt i say thank you and think of it as a friendly neighboring jesture...where as he shall look upon it as flirting on an unbelieveable level..being my fault of course.........but in this same action if it were him with the nice shirt and i being jealous, he would become mad at me because its not his fault.......so what i would normally be fine with, i pretend to be angered by him talking to other people and such..i placed restrictions on him...the same that he placed on me though....he would become upset and then id ask him how he felt (if the child is biting you, bite them back)...

i think all in all the reason why we are dating is because we keep each other in touch with reality............yesterday he had the day off from work...he also told me that he had to be in bed by nine so that he wouldnt be tired (very confusing since he had the day off but whatever) we had gotten into a fight and it lasted after nine....thats when he told me that i ruin his life and job.....he still has the job.............................................words sting a little too much sometimes....

ugh im rambling...sorry...

[topsyturvy]

No matter how long the relationship or how sweet the person once was, as soon as they say something as horridly inconsiderate as "you ruined my life (and job)", it's time for it to end. He obviously doesn't care for your feelings, and if he was under peer pressure like Lightner said, he wouldn't be a very good boyfriend anyway if he gives in easily to others and not stay faithfully by your side.

I think you should get rid of him before he hurts you again

[*swtcherriipie*]

seriously , id die... =(

[*mipadi*]

It doesn't seem to be a healthy relationship at all, on either end. I'd get out of it.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, I don't think it's a healthy relationship. In a way, like you said, he's more controlling and that's not a good thing. And, if someone says that to you, and it's not in a joking manner, then he's not worth it. I think you should break up with him.

[_sarcastic_]

yeah you'd probably should get out of the relationship asap. it's obviously not working out between the two of you, and he obvoiously doesn't care about how you feel, not a very good / understanding bf.
he just doesn't appreciate what he has now.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Ouch that's very harsh he probably was so angry that he just blurted out anything. It's normal, but if he does that give him some time and if not I say break up.

[aera]

get out of that relationship. he doesnt seem to trust you too much (like with the whole complimenting the shirt thing) and since he thinks you're ruining his life, then your lives cant get any worse from breaking up.

[euroxbaby]

wow thank you guys so much...were not sure as to what to do right now but were going to talk more about it later...we decided not to talk about it right away since we would both explode
thank you all a lot!