I was wondering .., . |
 Oct 24 2005, 04:19 AM
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Well, I've been dating this guy for about .. hmm, 3 weeks now. And we haven't done anything like, hold hands, etc. I was wondering .. since there's a haunted house coming up, would it be okay for me(the girl) to reach for the guy's hand? Usually, I think it's wrong for the girl to reach out for the guys hand but since he is a VERY shy guy I think I should go for it if he doesn't. So like, can anybody give me advice if I should do it or not
edit; I didn't know if this would go in relationships or girls' locker so if this is supposed to be in relationships, please move it. |
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Oct 24 2005, 05:56 AM
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 Proud to be an Anime Otaku Group: Member Posts: 667 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,004 |
Yeah I think this should be in relationships, but to help you, well, I hate it that people say the guy should be the first to do everything, it is a new century though mu mom says I shouldn't i'm not scared because if one of you doesn't make a move then most likely nothing is going to happen. THe fates aren't going to come down and physically push you guys together. So I say go for it.
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Oct 24 2005, 06:15 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah of course girls can make the first moves why not?!
you don't have to wait till the haunted house to hold his hand, when you feel like the time is right just go for it. |
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Oct 24 2005, 06:53 AM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Yeah, I agree. You don't have to wait for the haunted house to hold his hand (but that would be a good time to), you can reach for his hand anytime whenever you feel like it.
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Oct 24 2005, 07:05 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ True, but going through a haunted house is the perfect time to pretend you're scared and cuddle up to him without causing embarrassment
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Oct 24 2005, 10:29 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
its ok for the girl to do anything. its not the law that the girls CANT grab a boys hand. Hell, i asked my boyfriend out, I take him out to dinner, I grab his hand, I do most of the boy things.
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Oct 24 2005, 12:09 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
do what you want, don't hold back you're feelings.
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Oct 24 2005, 01:50 PM
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Moved to Relationships
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Oct 24 2005, 03:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
The saying that the guy should be the first to grab your hand or ask you out or whatever is soo outdated. Don't hesitate to reach for his hand. Maybe he really wants to, he's just scared of rejection.
I mean if you guys have been going out for that long and he doesn't even want to hold your hand, there might be some problems. |
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Oct 25 2005, 02:19 AM
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 WOAH I CAN TYPE STUFF IN HERE?~!~ Group: Member Posts: 110 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 274,826 |
if hes shy then u should be the one to spark something in ur relationship
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Oct 25 2005, 04:55 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
yeah, since he's so shy, then i think you should make the first move.
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Oct 25 2005, 07:51 AM
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 Brown hand smash Group: Member Posts: 654 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,582 |
^ making the first move? why not, sounds good but guys sometimes dont want the girl to make the first move.
reching his hands? your feeling scared so its kind of natural to reach for his hands, lols |
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Oct 25 2005, 02:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 200,365 |
My boyfriend now, he made the first move.
But my boyfriend before the one that I have now, I made all of the moods. It depends if he is shy or not. |
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Oct 25 2005, 03:32 PM
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 Shove it Group: Member Posts: 496 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,641 |
QUOTE(xheartbroken_child @ Oct 25 2005, 2:50 PM) My boyfriend now, he made the first move. But my boyfriend before the one that I have now, I made all of the moods. It depends if he is shy or not.  You're right, it does depend on how shy they are but it could also depend on how experienced they are or if they REALLLY like you and don't want to risk messing up. Anyways, I saw a statistic once that said 80% of guys would prefer if the girl made the first move. So even though he made the first move, if you feel you're ready to move on to say....maybe a peck on the cheek....then go ahead! |
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