hes older, in a different country, we met on a.., plane, and i like him =_=". so bizzare |
 Oct 22 2005, 03:42 AM
Post
#1
|
|
 Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392  |
this is probably the most bizzare story of my life.
the summer of 05' was the first time i flew on an airplane by myself. it was a long, international flight. This guy tapped me on the shoulder in the beggining of the flight and asked to borrow the book i was reading. I "grilled him for 3 minutes on his life history" as he put it, before lending him the book. Just a while later i was having problems with the form filling and at the same time he was over on "my side" of the plane getting something from his lugguage. He ended up helping me and sat beside me for the rest of the flight. He was funny, and sincere, smart, yet well dressed. The perfect guy in my opinion. I was so fascinated with him. He's 18, lives in BC like me, that is, until he moved because HE ATTENDS AN IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL IN the U.S!!! (namingly Harvard.) we exchanged emails and started talking online. I havent seen him since, since hes in America attending college. coincidently, him and his girlfriend of 2 years broke up just 2 days after me and my bf of over 6 months had broken up. he's said things like "ur cute when ur spiteful", and " they're running a play here, called 'Lulu'. there are posters everywhere. Everytime i see a poster i think of you" and " i love how ur screenname says 'delicious irony', because since you burnt your tongue, you cant taste anythin delicious!!" Hes coming to my town during winter break. We already agreed to see each other while hes over here. The problem is, i dont know if i should tell him or not. If we start a long distance relationship i'd only get to see hima bout 2 times a year. and its going to be 2.5 years before i graduate to college. And if something goes wrong before that then i wont get his help reguarding applying for college. which i REALLY would like his help with. so guys, help me XD |
|
|
|
 |
Replies
(1 - 28)
|
Oct 22 2005, 06:46 AM
Post
#2
|
|
 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Wooowww. You're right, this is a perfect situation.. except that part about seeing him twice a year. But breaking up at the same time? I think you guys are made for each other
 Talk to him. Definately. Ask him what he thinks of a long distance relationship. You never know, he might be up for it 
|
|
|
|
|
Oct 22 2005, 08:35 AM
Post
#3
|
|
 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah you should def. tell him how you feel, long distance relationships are hard though, but hey you guys might pull it through.
good luck |
|
|
|
|
Oct 22 2005, 03:23 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Hah, wow, definitely talk to him about how you feel and about how he feels about a long distance relationship. They are tough, but if you have enough trust in each other, it can work out.
Good luck. |
|
|
|
|
Oct 22 2005, 03:26 PM
Post
#5
|
|
 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
hold off on it till you've known him for at least a year.
you don't know how he feels about it. it would be rather embarresing if he said "oh. sorry, but i think of you as a sister." |
|
|
|
|
Oct 23 2005, 07:25 PM
Post
#6
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Oct 22 2005, 3:26 PM) hold off on it till you've known him for at least a year. you don't know how he feels about it. it would be rather embarresing if he said "oh. sorry, but i think of you as a sister."  you see thats what im afraid of. if i work up the courage to make the big confession to him about my UNDYING LOVE (ok maybe not that dramatic) but there IS still the dear of being rejected my last relationship started by me gettinga mutual friend to tell the guy i like that i like him...and it lasted about 6 months and 20 days. but i want it to LAST...longer..im talking more like a few years. |
|
|
|
|
Oct 23 2005, 07:37 PM
Post
#7
|
|
|
hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Well what were the reasons your last relationship ended? If you two do get together, then you can both work on it to make it last and try to avoid the the same problems.
|
|
|
|
|
Oct 23 2005, 07:50 PM
Post
#8
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(silver rain @ Oct 23 2005, 7:37 PM) Well what were the reasons your last relationship ended? If you two do get together, then you can both work on it to make it last and try to avoid the the same problems. *cough* cuz...i felt he was distant...and then i'd get jealous...and he didn't bother explaining, and i'd misunderstand...and get upset..n he just ignored it. n got cold... so when we got tired of that, it was over. i think i'd be more cut out for a long-distance relationship, because what i dont SEE wont get be jealous, right? i admitt i get jealous easily..cant help it sometimes. |
|
|
|
|
Oct 23 2005, 11:23 PM
Post
#9
|
|
|
dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
well see he's in college... you can't know whether he'd be interested in you. not untill you've known him for a while.
|
|
|
|
|
Oct 23 2005, 11:36 PM
Post
#10
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Oct 23 2005, 11:23 PM) well see he's in college... you can't know whether he'd be interested in you. not untill you've known him for a while. true...if he was one of those really flirtatious guys then all those things he said would mean nothing. i guess i should wait. untill he comes to town and we get a chance to hang out that isn't limited to an aircraft. still have 2 months to decide.. |
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 12:15 PM
Post
#11
|
|
 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(LittleLulu @ Oct 23 2005, 8:50 PM) *cough* cuz...i felt he was distant...and then i'd get jealous...and he didn't bother explaining, and i'd misunderstand...and get upset..n he just ignored it. n got cold... so when we got tired of that, it was over. i think i'd be more cut out for a long-distance relationship, because what i dont SEE wont get be jealous, right? i admitt i get jealous easily..cant help it sometimes. if you get jealous easily and you're only going to see him like 2 times a year it can't possibly work out. unless you work really, really hard at it. you also have to take into consideration that he may be filling up your head with lies. you can't just believe everything he tells you. what i don't understand is where he is... he supposedly goes to harvard yet he's not in America going to school and he lives in BC like you and you still can't see each other... |
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 12:33 PM
Post
#12
|
|
 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
QUOTE("") if you get jealous easily and you're only going to see him like 2 times a year it can't possibly work out. Unless you can turn that jealousy into trust and patience, things will always be a hassle for you. But I've seen long distance relationships happen...my friends Jocelyn and Eric have been together for more than 5 years and they only see each other twice a year. Though her problem is having no car. Your problems are being younger, distance relationship and a bunch of feelings being held back, and a very very busy ivy league college boy who will probably have no time for anyone / anything. Not until his HW is done. There's just too many questions regarding your part that would make this work... I'm usually an optimist when it comes to relationships that are mysterious like this...but I'm skeptical on this one. You can see how he feels about this during your meeting...good luck. ^_______^. LHHRS Kevyn @-)-------- |
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 03:43 PM
Post
#13
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,793 |
Aww it's like a movie. How you met and everything. Anyways you should deffintally tell him. Take chances, if not you might regret it. Plus I been in a long distance relationship and the only thing I can tell you is, miles mean nothing. Nothing, your love is what makes it work. Just thought I would tell you. And goodluck he seems perfect. <3
|
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 05:56 PM
Post
#14
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(Chii @ Oct 24 2005, 12:15 PM) if you get jealous easily and you're only going to see him like 2 times a year it can't possibly work out. unless you work really, really hard at it. you also have to take into consideration that he may be filling up your head with lies. you can't just believe everything he tells you. what i don't understand is where he is... he supposedly goes to harvard yet he's not in America going to school and he lives in BC like you and you still can't see each other... sorry to confuse you, be he actually lives in Boston. not BC. well he USED to live in BC. until he graduated that is. and i think i can believe him when he says he goes to harvard. he had a harvard sweater, and his acceptance letter. and also..i dont get jealous of something when i dont see it. its only when i see something to i get that horrible feeling in my stomach.. |
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 05:56 PM
Post
#15
|
|
 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
If you survived a long distance friendship, you can most likely survive a long distance relationship
|
|
|
|
|
Oct 24 2005, 10:51 PM
Post
#16
|
|
|
Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
QUOTE(andromeda_90 @ Oct 24 2005, 5:56 PM) If you survived a long distance friendship, you can most likely survive a long distance relationship hmmmmm I kinda beg to differ from what I've experienced .....having a friendship and relationship are very different things...with friendship there's no paranoia and trust issues when you're away. It's nice and innocent but in relationships you'll always be missing and questioning things especially since you don't see the person very often, and soon you'll run into a guy that fascinates you even more and that is close to you distance wise...then this long distance relationship that seemed to go strong for the first two weeks seems to dissapate. But that's my experience from my friends...things could be different. LHHRS Kevyn @-)------- |
|
|
|
|
Oct 25 2005, 12:18 AM
Post
#17
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ Oct 24 2005, 10:51 PM) hmmmmm I kinda beg to differ from what I've experienced .....having a friendship and relationship are very different things...with friendship there's no paranoia and trust issues when you're away. It's nice and innocent but in relationships you'll always be missing and questioning things especially since you don't see the person very often, and soon you'll run into a guy that fascinates you even more and that is close to you distance wise...then this long distance relationship that seemed to go strong for the first two weeks seems to dissapate. But that's my experience from my friends...things could be different. LHHRS Kevyn @-)------- hmm i seem to agree on the fact that a frienship and a relationship are very different things. and i think it has to deal with biological reasons. but thats another thing although i really dont know how on earth i'd meet someone more interesting as him. there arent any new students at my school this year. and its not like im going to be getting on a plane anytime soon if i could find someone as intelligent, witty, charming, charasmatic, physically fit, curtious and open as him, who lives near me then i wouldn't waste my time thinking about him now would i?it occured to me the other day, that this guy has been emotionally there for me within the past few months MORE than my ex was there for me for probably our whole relationship. Its such a disturbing thought.... |
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 01:04 AM
Post
#18
|
|
 Chtaime Group: Member Posts: 609 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,918 |
Wow thats a cute story. Yes talk to him. Good luck!!!!
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 01:29 AM
Post
#19
|
|
|
Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
QUOTE(LittleLulu @ Oct 25 2005, 12:18 AM) hmm i seem to agree on the fact that a frienship and a relationship are very different things. and i think it has to deal with biological reasons. but thats another thing although i really dont know how on earth i'd meet someone more interesting as him. there arent any new students at my school this year. and its not like im going to be getting on a plane anytime soon if i could find someone as intelligent, witty, charming, charasmatic, physically fit, curtious and open as him, who lives near me then i wouldn't waste my time thinking about him now would i?it occured to me the other day, that this guy has been emotionally there for me within the past few months MORE than my ex was there for me for probably our whole relationship. Its such a disturbing thought.... You know.....I'm not going to argue...I mean when it comes to liking someone with your heart, what is there to argue? Your heart feels the way it does for a reason, probably a reason that none of us can comprehend. Go for it dear =) Keep us updated ^______^. I'm very curious. LHHRS Kevyn @-)------ |
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 01:30 AM
Post
#20
|
|
|
Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
damn..crappy double post. Sorry =(
LHHRS Kevyn @-)------- This post has been edited by Kneuklid Romance: Nov 11 2005, 01:30 AM |
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 05:38 PM
Post
#21
|
|
 duckieee<3 Group: Member Posts: 527 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,962 |
woahs. maybe you two should date...yet wait....wait a very damn long time...
long distance usually doesn't last, esp. when you two haven't gone out yet + you already don't see him. it is a bizzare story, yet very romantic...kinda like the movies...they waited lols my opinion...stay friends until there's actually a way to date in the same state. for now, be free :P |
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 05:48 PM
Post
#22
|
|
 Resident Jerk. Is Wade. Respond to PM's! Group: Member Posts: 344 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,510 |
As long as you're cool with infidelity and lies, a long distance relationship is right for you!
... Not saying it's impossible, just posing a worst case scenario so you don't get your hopes up too far. I do think that you should pursue this relationship though, just when geography isn't in the way. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 11 2005, 06:58 PM
Post
#23
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 102 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 288,931 |
 wow...im in almost the exact same position! I'm hoping that things can work out for the best. I think its possible. *crosses fingers* See how he is when u see him! Its hard but I guess the challenge is to stay true to your heart but not get carried away either. (my post is "too good to be true?"...you'll see what I mean by same position lol) |
|
|
|
| *jooleeah* |
Nov 11 2005, 09:50 PM
Post
#24
|
|
Guest |
thats so cute!
i think you should go for it. though you need to learn that longdistance relationships are hard, and communication is the key. |
|
|
|
| *liquidize* |
Nov 12 2005, 07:23 PM
Post
#25
|
|
Guest |
how old are you?
maybe you're old enough to just be his friend with benefits. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 13 2005, 01:03 PM
Post
#26
|
|
|
dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
^ she's young enough to be jailbait.
|
|
|
|
|
Nov 18 2005, 12:58 AM
Post
#27
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(liquidize @ Nov 12 2005, 7:23 PM) how old are you? maybe you're old enough to just be his friend with benefits. im 15. and hes 18. so..it might actually be illegal? i dont know. and "friends with benifits"...as in NOT boyfriend/girlfriend but still makeout? i'd gladly make out with him but thats so un-me like, you know? little miss goodie two shoes? NERD PRIDE? im not so certain how it'd work. With him always being away, the relationship isn't exactly mainly physical is it?... |
|
|
|
|
Nov 18 2005, 01:41 PM
Post
#28
|
|
 omgah_itsmaggiex=new username. Group: Member Posts: 785 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,467 |
aw, thats cute.
i think you should wait until you get up to college because its illegal to have a relationship with someone when the other one is a minor. |
|
|
|
|
Nov 18 2005, 01:50 PM
Post
#29
|
|
 creepy heather Group: Official Member Posts: 4,208 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,580 |
i think its a unique situation
i deffinately wouldnt reccomend a college guy for ANY 15 yr old girl but from what you say he seems smarts (duh he goes to harvard) and intelligent just . . . don't do anything stupid when he comes to see you, see if hes interested in you and whatnot. take it veryyyyyyyy slow, if its meant to last more than 2 1/2 years he wont be going anywhere |
|
|
|
 |
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: