so there's this girl who's giving me problems... Options

[hulagurlie413]

PLEASE READ AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK:

ok so there's this girl named brittney who i've known for a few years now since high school and we (were) pretty much good friends. she works @ vons next to my high school with my bf who's been working there for probably a little over a month. at first, i was like "oh cool you're working with my friend" and everything, BUT recently like starting this past weekend, she's been texting him and calling him a lot lately. he never calls or texts he back, by the way.

i mess around with his phone sometimes and he does the same with mine, as well. as i was doing so, i found a few of her texts and saw that she had been calling him late at night like around 10:30-11-ish. i'm not upset with him because i trust him and believe me, he has much better taste in girls. i'll show you what i mean in a second with her picture, but anyway, her texts would contain messages like "hey what's up? what are your plans for 2nite?" and one (from last night) "hey call me when you're done talking with tiff". as for the first text, it's like why? what's it to you? he says he would never hang out with her out of like their work hours cuz he just doesn't care.

i confronted her about it last night on aim and pretty much let her know that i was on to her. i asked her why she was constantly texting and emailing my bf and her excuse was " i wanted to see how he was feeling"

the story behind that is that last sunday he called in sick because he wasn't feeling well.

anyway, so i'm like oh ok, well that's understandable, BUT he had already told her that he was feeling much better. so then i asked her why she was always asking what his plans were because she was like ALWAYS asking and it just made me kinda of suspicious of her, ya know? again, she used the "i just wanted to see how he was feeling" excuse and it's like hellloooo...you already told me that before. it's like she thinks i'm dumb enough to believe that excuse (for the second time). the first time, i totally understood and was like oh ok how nice, but now it's just getting ridiculous.

i talked to some friends who either know her or are friends with her, as well and they think that she's being really annoying and dumb.

i say this because, here's the thing: my bf and i have been together for a long time, in fact, today is our 1 year and 2 months anniversary. so it's pretty obvious that we're serious about each other. we even talk about "our future" together sometimes, so that's a dead giveaway.

she knows how long we've been together and all that stuff too, yet she keeps on "attempting" to "steal" him from me. i'm just really pissed cuz i already told her pretty much how i felt and she obviously doesn't care and is obviously not a good friend. i think that she's basically a backstabbing bitch. for the record, i have never done anything to her, but be a good friend. true story.

anyway, i'm running out of ideas because i don't know what else to say to make it clear to her that she should stop doing what she's doing. a lot of people think that i should just beat her in the face for being so dumb, but i really don't like to resolve things with violence; i just use communication to try to get through ppl.


so what do u think?


oh and here's my "competition"...

[eunie03]

I... uh... for one... don't think you should beat her. Haha. It sounds like you're just being a little bit jealous, no? I see her picture and I see yours... I can see it's no competetition looks-wise.

I don't know about this situation specifically, but most of the time, when someone confronts me about something, it just makes me want to do it more. If your relationship is really that strong... why not just let her do her thing? I'm sure after lasting over a year, your boyfriend won't be so easily swayed.

Guys and girls can still be friends after they meet their love, anyway. What she's doing sounds like something I'd do for a friend if I heard he was sick.

You've made your point clear to her... If it was meant to be, I'm sure this'll be just a feeble attack on your relationship. If not... well then, thank goodness that's over with.

[hulagurlie413]

yeah i guess. i just hope she goes away or just stops what she's trying to do. i talked to my bf last night about the situation and he thinks that what she's trying to do to our relationship is completely pointless.

[*mzkandi*]

Moved to relationships

[Kneuklid Romance]

Nah don't beat her in the face.

You should ask your own boyfriend how he feels about her...and get your answer there. Not on AIM..not texting, face to face, eye to eye.

And that's your competition? PSH...please.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

[hulagurlie413]

haha yeah that's my comptetion...i know.

[eunie03]

he thinks that what she's trying to do to our relationship is completely pointless. 

Well... there ya go

"No matter how hard the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it."

Let her howl all she wants.

[Kneuklid Romance]

*sigh* I was just thinking.....sometimes if you've dated someone for a long time...the male in particular likes to venture into new uncharted territory..specifically with other females because it's a new world explore I suppose. A lot of guys think their relationships are just a routine and just the same old thing...

but here's my question...if it was true love...wouldn't time just not be a factor anymore?

Keep us updated on this please...I wanna see how your crappy competition turns up.

Maybe you should send one of your friends to sort of "spy" on him when he goes to work. You never know what you might find.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

[hulagurlie413]

*sigh* I was just thinking.....sometimes if you've dated someone for a long time...the male in particular likes to venture into new uncharted territory..specifically with other females because it's a new world explore I suppose. A lot of guys think their relationships are just a routine and just the same old thing...

but here's my question...if it was true love...wouldn't time just not be a factor anymore?

Keep us updated on this please...I wanna see how your crappy competition turns up.

Maybe you should send one of your friends to sort of "spy" on him when he goes to work. You never know what you might find.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

haha i will keep you guys updated for sure. that "spy" thing isn't a bad idea.

[hulagurlie413]

Well... there ya go

"No matter how hard the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it."

Let her howl all she wants.

thanks! i like your quote.

[xFaith]

Just let her do her way, your bf wont fall for her, he obviously isnt interesting, and, it will make your relationship stronger :P

pff, what a friend ¬¬

[babiix mango]

wheres your pic? yeah obviously shes so not a good friend. good frnds,apparently, dont steal a friend's bf.... LOL. but hmm i dont know. you should totally tell her face to face. but dont act all beetchy at her... just let her do whatever she wants. hope your bf knows what shes doing ^^.

[hulagurlie413]

wheres your pic? yeah obviously shes so not a good friend. good frnds,apparently, dont steal a friend's bf.... LOL. but hmm i dont know. you should totally tell her face to face. but dont act all beetchy at her... just let her do whatever she wants. hope your bf knows what shes doing ^^. 

here's my pic since you asked:




yeah i wasn't very bitchy @ her when i confronted her about it. i kinda just like let her know that i'm on to her. yeah my boyfriend knows cuz we talk about how retarded and pointless she's being with all her attempts.

[eunie03]

thanks! i like your quote. 

Thanks. It's from Mulan, haha.

[xmkaex]

<<<reminds me of her... haha

Well... there ya go thumbsup.gif

"No matter how hard the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it."

Let her howl all she wants.

^ i agree

[Kneuklid Romance]

here's my pic since you asked:


yeah i wasn't very bitchy @ her when i confronted her about it. i kinda just like let her know that i'm on to her. yeah my boyfriend knows cuz we talk about how retarded and pointless she's being with all her attempts.

She better know that you're on her...that's good. Progressive girls rule. ^_____^.

I think it's good that you take action towards your situations because I think too many girls just sit on their asses and become emotional wrecks by thinking too much about shit.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

[demolished]

Hm.... you guys have been together for 2 months. I don’t know if your relationship is THAT strong. If she's hitting on your boyfriend, I think you should stop being her friend and beat her up when she mess with you. Ah, looking at your picture really help me to think throughly !

[hulagurlie413]

Hm.... you guys have been together for 2 months. I don’t know if your relationship is THAT strong. If she's hitting on your boyfriend, I think you should stop being her friend and beat her up when she mess with you. Ah, looking at your picture really help me to think throughly !

lol. no we've been together for a YEAR and 2 MONTHS. yeah i'm no longer her friend pretty much.

[Kneuklid Romance]

You know...I have a similar situation with someone although this person isn't really my friend but she's a worker at a smoothie place at the mall I frequent on the weekends to play games.

I know that she likes me...she's invited me to go shopping with her and everything...go to dinner with her, and her friends at the smoothie place knows that she likes me. It's painfully obvious...but it all just comes down to trust. My girlfriend knows about her and her feelings for me but she knows that I wouldn't do anything behind her back.

In the end it all comes down to trust I suppose...

...I think you'll do just fine. =)

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)---------

[hulagurlie413]

SO HERE'S THE UPDATE SINCE SOMEONE ON HERE ASKED ME TO KEEP U GUYS UPDATED...

So pretty much what happened was that my bf told me today that yesterday @ work, he was told by his friends adam and stacey (who work @ a different department @ vons) that Brittney (<--- the "so-called" friend) secretly admitted to them that she wanted him. i was like "dude who totally called that shit???" and he was like totally surprised cuz he didn't think that she thought of him in that way. he was pretty much grossed out though.

anyway, i gave her a text (since she was working and mostly likely wouldn't pick up the phone) and told her basically to just stay away from my bf and that we both know that she's been after him. she text-ed me saying that she had no idea what i was talking about, but of course we didn't believe her because 2 of her friends told my bf the truth.

so my bf and i are like ok w/e she's retarded and then we left for the movies to go watch "Doom". probably around 7:45 P.M. we get back to his house and i get a restricted phone call on my cell, but i ignored it cuz i don't usually pick up calls from ppl i don't know. well i got a voicemail and it turned out to be Brittney's friend who works with her @ vons named Nicole. Nicole was just going off and saying stuff like, "listen you stupid asian bitch, we call your bf and we don't give a f**k cuz you're a crazy bitch. you want to start shit, bring it you stupid whore!"

i'm like um ok...this was between Brittney and me and i never cursed at her or called her names, i just confronted her about the situation like how i told you guys. she's obviously too chicken shit to talk to me about it, i guess since she had her friend call and cuss me out for her.


i think it's clear to say who the mature one was in this situation.

i'm thinking that maybe she's the "crazy bitch" and not me, but who knows? i could be wrong...

basically though, he doesn't work there anymore and doesn't want to associate with those ppl.

i'll let u know if she continues this madness....lol

[misoshiru]

talk to your bf about it in person. and if she and/or her friends keep bothering you, get him to tell them to back off.

[hulagurlie413]

i tried, but he's too much of a nice guy sometimes. i did get him to promise tonight though, that if they call him again (i'm usually with him when they do), that he promises to tell them to stop calling/texting him or if i want to, i can answer the phone for him.

[Kneuklid Romance]

I think it's time to get your BF on "bad-ass" mode for once, and drop the "nice guy" when it comes to these people or else you'll be updating this topic often and there will be no absolute closure or a resolution...Nicole will just keep being a dumbass and making idiotic remarks about your relationship and yourself.

He's gotta step up to the plate too you know.

This will definitely play a turn in the long haul for you both I assume...if he holds back being vocal and direct with someone that he knows is off-limits, who knows what he's holding back from you.

You get my drift?

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)--------

[hulagurlie413]

i definitely get your drift.

i know, i seriously hope that this stupid drama ends soon...more like immediately.

[wishonthestars]

Well first off, there is NO competition at all. You are absoluetly gorgeous.
I just read your update and I applaud you for being so mature about this situation.
This girl Brittney is immature and disgusting in my opinion. She needs to get a life and move on with her nasty self. lol. You have nothing to worry about if your boyfriend is showing no signs of giving into this girl.

When I read the part about this lil hoe named Nicole I got pissed. You're completely right. Brittney is chicken shit. She is not only scared to confront you, but she is getting other people involved.

And since you man no longer works there, I think that gave you some relief?
Trust your guy because he sounds like a keeper. Good luck

[hulagurlie413]

Thanks a lot for your kind words.

Both those girls haven't bothered either one us since, so I'm hoping this childish drama is now over.

[AngryBaby]

...yeah i didnt read the whole thing hehe, a matter a fact i didnt read any of it

but i will tell you this! your competition is ugly and i think she is very beatable. yay!

[hulagurlie413]

lol.