finding someone new, after being broken up for only 3 secs Options

[Froshy]

So pretty much my ex-boyfriend who I went out with for 5 months and broke up with 2 weeks ago has found solace in another girl.....who happens to be one of my good friends

And I'm just thinking here "Wtf man?"

It was a really good relationship and we ended things on good terms. It's been a really tough transition from boyfriend to.... friend. Don't you think it's too soon to be jumping back on the saddle again?

It hurts me to think that my friend isn't really taking into concideration my feelings. I have no problem with them being together but....I'd prefer that they weren't. I feel that I'm placed in a really awkward situation.

Should I say something? Or should I just stand idly by and let them be?

just needed to vent.

[lexaa621]

wow almost exact same thing happened to me. last weekend my girlfriend broke up with me and we're friends, and she was like "i'm not ready for a relationship", but then she goes off and asks this guy to a dance. i was like wtf. that pissed me off. you should tell your friend it bothers you, unless she's the type that'll say something like "you're just jealous" and get all bitchy. even if you are just jealous which i wouldn't blame you for. just give it time i guess. good luck. i know how you feel.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

If you broke up with him it most likely implied you didnt want to be with him anymore or that you lost feelings for him. And maybe hes just trying to move on and your friend has given him the comfort he needs.

If it really bothers you, then say something.
For you, jumping back on the saddle might take longer than it does for him.

[misoshiru]

wow. forgive me for being rude, but that friend of yours is such a b*tch.

i think you should talk to your friend about it first, but move on. that guy is definately not worth your time.

[fameONE]

Hey hun, here's a newsflash... he didn't love you.

Therefore its not too soon and he has reckless disregard for your feelings. Which means you quit harping on it and move on. Find a better guy or just get some d**k.

Truth.

[_sarcastic_]

i agree with yanners, she shouldn't even be considered a good friend. as for your ex, obviously he has moved on and you should try to.

[*mipadi*]

Hey, you two broke up. You should have no expectation that he shouldn't start another relationship. As for your friend, I think that the rule that "friends can't date their friends' exes" is just stupid and immature. It didn't work out between you and him; why prevent someone else from having a shot?

[miz_sunshine]

^ what he said. It's not like after he and you break up, you two arent gonna date again ever. So why not just move on?

[*x____duckii*]

It didn't work out between you and him; why prevent someone else from having a shot?

Because that might cause the ex to get jealous & starting fighting with the friend, which would start ruining the friendship slowly.

You should try asking your friend why she did that calmly & see what she has to say, & try moving on.

[hulagurlie413]

that's f*cked up shit what they did to you. obviously, she's not a very good friend and he's a d**k who deserves to get the shit beaten out of him.

sorry i sound so bitter. my boyfriend has turned me into an angry bitter person cuz he's lame and i'm thinking of maybe finding someone new myself.

but yeah, i'm sorry for you. that sux. don't worry, in the end, they'll both be burning in hell while you sit back and laugh at them for being such asses.

hope you feel better.

[Latina Babii]

Hey, you two broke up. You should have no expectation that he shouldn't start another relationship. As for your friend, I think that the rule that "friends can't date their friends' exes" is just stupid and immature. It didn't work out between you and him; why prevent someone else from having a shot?

But, isn't it always hard to move on, no matter? When my boyfriend broke up with me and went out with another girl, well, it was my friend, and she dregarded my feelings and people kept telling me that he wasn't good enough for me anyway yada yada ya, well that doesn't stop the fact that it hurts, we can't just say, well ok, it's over, and move on, no, you spent time with that person and got to know them, and now theres nothing? AS if! Moving on is actually quite hard.

And to tell you he wasn't good enough if he left you, especially without a reason, so, sit down with some girlfriends, eat some icecream, spend a little more time with them. I guaruntee that if you spend time with them and have some fun, you'll forget everything that happened, just tell the girls it's a girls night out, and they'll know what to do ^^.

[Chii]

oh my god, why are you being so dramatic?

the relationship only lasted 5 months. at least he waited 2 weeks, some people don't even wait that long. i know this girl who was claimed that she was in love with her boyfriend of over a year, then tossed him aside one day out of the blue while saying that she still loved him. then a few days later (not even one week) she talks about how much she likes this new guy. that fizzles and now it's someone else.

this happens everyday. 2 weeks is good enough for a relationship that only lasted 5 months.

do what he did, MOVE ON.

[aznhunnie6o1]

I think you should talk to her about it.. She might take it the wrong way and think you still have feelings for him or think your jealous.. But just explain to her your side of the story. If she's a good friend, she'll understand.

[EDIT]
Wait, I thought he broke up with you. Oops, I read wrong.
Well.. If they're happy together and you don't have feelings for him anymore, then you should just let it go.

[tequila_sky]

Well I was with a guy for 2 years then *he* dumped *me*. Then after 2 months of pain we got back together so he could dump me again... Haha and then like a week later I fell in love. I mean real love. I am still with this guy after 5 yrs and it was shocking even for me to feel like that. Love is like that. Only thing I agree is that he is free to date since u two aren't dating.

BUT that he decided to do so with a friend of urs is not cool. It's just something you don't do. Sorry about that. Don't talk to him , talk to your friend. Let her know you need time to get over this and that you feel betrayed by her. Maybe she feels like this too and doesn't know how to approach you about it?? Or maybe she doesnt care, but you should at least find out. ::take care::

[OverratedStupidi...]

2 weeks is plenty of time for a 5 month realtionship. I'm also assuming you are in high school and, let's face it, high school relationships rarely last forever.

Just MOVE ON.

[HoodieObsessed]

Hey, you two broke up. You should have no expectation that he shouldn't start another relationship. As for your friend, I think that the rule that "friends can't date their friends' exes" is just stupid and immature. It didn't work out between you and him; why prevent someone else from having a shot?

I kind of agree with you on that, although I think the friend shoudl ahve at least talked to you about it, or waited a month or something till you got over breaking up the relationship more.

I'd talk to the friend for sure, but let the bf be, he's just moved on, so should you.

[KissMe2408]

ah, well the exact same thing happened to me, cept she was my best friend. I don't know why guys love to do that? ah, some friend huh?
I really didn't say anything to him...but i'm not friend with the girl anymore, and she def knows that. But in your case...i dunno. I think maybe he is just rebounding with another girl, that happens to be your friend. I would talk to her.

[malimars]

Obviously shes not a real friend NO MATTER WHAT friends dont go out with friends EXS ever its just wrong like it makes u kinda think how long have they liked eachother for was he ever cheating on you with her either way talk to her and tell her you dont like the situation too much!

[CrazykidXD]

thank you

[hulagurlie413]

oh my god, why are you being so dramatic?

the relationship only lasted 5 months. at least he waited 2 weeks, some people don't even wait that long. i know this girl who was claimed that she was in love with her boyfriend of over a year, then tossed him aside one day out of the blue  while saying that she still loved him. then a few days later (not even one week) she talks about how much she likes this new guy. that fizzles and now it's someone else.

this happens everyday. 2 weeks is good enough for a relationship that only lasted 5 months.

do what he did, MOVE ON.

damn you're harsh!

[3ssx]

tell her how you feel.

people are vunerable(sp?) after they break up. they rish into things, try to look for comfort and try to put things behind them.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Hey, you two broke up. You should have no expectation that he shouldn't start another relationship. As for your friend, I think that the rule that "friends can't date their friends' exes" is just stupid and immature. It didn't work out between you and him; why prevent someone else from having a shot?

^ I partly agree with that. I would at least ask if it would be okay if I went out with the guy.

And yes some guys don't even wait 2 weeks some have a girl on speed dial right away once you break up. I say move on like chii said. I mean, he has