my BEST friends crush!?!, why? Options

[xpaperbag]

i don't want to seem like some kind of whore that just steals guys from her best friends. i'm honestly not like that. but this guy that my friend likes, i like him too. and i'm not sure what to do.

we talk to him before school, during lunch (off campus, we hang out) and after school for a long time. my friends flirts out in the open with him.. and i feel bad for her because she hasn't had a boyfriend since fifth grade. We're sophomores in tenth grade now. I really want her to have a nice decent boyfriend, but i can't really help my feelings.

we have a football game to go to tomorrow, and he's in drumline with the band. i don't know if i should tell her or not, because this has happened before.

i went out with someone that she liked. but it was in my favor, because i liked him first and he liked me back. and she told me to go out with him. i know i shouldn't have though..

i feel SO horrible for this.. but i REALLY don't know what to do. i love her to death... and i don't want to hurt her again, i think i should keep my mouth shut and focus on someone else, but i don't know..

as you can see i'm screwed.

[NgocQuyen]

awwh...its okay...if i was you, which i was in your situation quite recently, i would just let my friend have him. i let my friend do whatever she wished with the guy i used to like even though i liked him first...but im not really the type to argue over a guy.....so i was just like whatever, and you know what...another cutie came along...and whoaa he's so much cuter teehee....so things really work out for the best you know?

[shortiiex]

iif that happened to me i probably compete with her because she's my best friend..there is always a little competition..but that's just me
if you want to do the right thing, just let her be happy...she hadn't had boyfriend in a long time..just let her do her own thing..and all you have to do is pretend to be happy

[sadolakced acid]

tell her.

tell her you don't want to do anything.

but don't stop talking to the guy, because that will make you more interesting to him and utterly backfire.

(tell her that part too)

[o0olaalaa]

don't lose a close friend over a boy. just let her have him =x

[KissMe2408]

I would really suggest you talk to her about it. Just flat out be like, "uh, yah i feel really bad, because i have a crush on___"
tell her how you feel. It's much better that way. But if she really likes this guy i would advise you to stay outta it. It's better to have lost some crush then have lost your best friend!
so first talk to her about it!

[_sarcastic_]

^yeah, you should tell her. rather lose a crush that you'll probably get over in a while then lose a best friend. of course she'll get a little angry at you but she'll be greatful in a way that you told her. explain to her that you don't want to really compete with her for it.

[OkamaPower]

reminds me of a story....this concited bich hor named anne at my school,she has a best friend and she likes a guy named ray so she purposly asked him out and they became together.everytime they hug,annes best friend crys.shes a dirty little hor.....oh,ur friends just nice.i never had any problem like this before.this guy,you should give him to her.best friends come first.tell me,would u choose a guy over your best friend?i dont think so.i wanna know what happens so remember to post back.

[sprezzatura]

Communicate with your friend. No matter who gets the boyfriend, you both should say friends. Compromise with her.

[technicolour]

Communicate with your friend. No matter who gets the boyfriend, you both should say friends. Compromise with her.

Thank you for stealing my line. But really, just talk to her. Tell her that you share the same feelings too.

COMMUNICATION...it works wonders.

[3ssx]

aww. i know how you feel. haha in 5th grade me & my best friend like the same guy. but it was in my favor. since i liked him first. (like what happened to you).

yeaa. well me & my best friend has almost always liked the same guy. until we go split up in different classes. (we're in the same class for like. 7 years?) yeaa. well i think you better let her know...

[HoodieObsessed]

I would really suggest you talk to her about it. Just flat out be like, "uh, yah i feel really bad, because i have a crush on___"
tell her how you feel. It's much better that way. But if she really likes this guy i would advise you to stay outta it. It's better to have lost some crush then have lost your best friend!
so first talk to her about it!

I agree with you, comunication is always good, but if she's really serious about this guy just leave them alone, you don't want to risk losing your best friend.