3 years, is is too long for us? Options

[HuGzNKissEs]

My boyfriend and I recently made 3 years. But its like he doesnt act the same anymore. He rarely says sweet things anymore. I really need that attention from him though, to know that he cares. I've tried numerous times talking to him about it...but he only gets angry at me for it. & its like lately he wants to spend less & less time together....like when i'm like "well u can stay home" instead of sayin no b/c he WANTS to see me he'll be like "no, u'll get mad" Does this mean he doesn't care for me anymore or is he just having a hard time showing me that he cares? sorry if i left anything vital out

[*mipadi*]

Relationships often become "stale" after a while. That doesn't mean there's no love; it just means that they become, well, routine. The fun and romance of the beginning of a relationship often dwindles. I think that when a couple has been together as long as you have, there sometimes becomes a certain expectation or belief by one member that the other just "knows" that he still loves her, and he doesn't need to go out of his way to show it.

Maybe all your relationship needs is a "spark" to rekindle it. Try doing something out of the ordinary, something not routine, to get it jumpstarted.

[AngryBaby]

maybe he just figures he doesnt have to prove that he cares for you after 3 yrs =/?
and all that "sweet things" stuff usually begins at the begining of a relationship, kind of like when you get married. But it starts to to whither away when you guys spend more time together, not because he doesnt care for you anymore, its just that... sometimes guys feel it doesnt need to be said anymore, its unspoken, or that you should know by now and usually your more secure also, so yeah.
its kinda like when you meet a friend for the first time. you might feel the need to make conversation, get to know the person, and all, but soon when you guys start to be best friends,and you dont feel the pressure to have to make conversation anymore, you can sit in a room with your best friend and watch TV and not say a word to eachother and it wouldnt even be awkward. so yeah, thats how it kinda is in a relationship for guys... but for girls, they want the sweet stuff said to them all the time. but one question, does your bf always get sweet things said to him? because usually when a sweet thing is said to one person, they will return something sweet back. so yeah! hope i help a little and made sense

[FREEcandies]

^ Precisely.

And also, just because he doesn't show it doesn't mean that he doesn't care. Keep your thoughts in the back of your head but don't try to force it on him, that might be what's making him irritable. Don't change the way you are toward him either. Just keeping being how you've been for the last 3 years and see what happens. Don't ask what ifs. Good luck, don't worry too much.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

I agree with Mipadi.
Do something you guys have never done before, something really nice. Maybe it will spark it back up.

[Chii]

i'm sorry honey but this is how men work, i read about it.

it's been 3 years, he doesn't feel like he has to woo you anymore. he figures he doesn't have to try to get you because you're already his.

just try talking to him. if you should take the first step in being romantic, maybe he will follow your example.

by the way...i'm not sure what you meant by the "is that too long for us" part...people get married and stay married for a lot longer than 3 years. if two people can't stand being together for more than 3 years than it can't work.

[demolished]

Do the most simplest thing for him. It actually counts to your relationship. When i mean simplest thing is buy him at least a smoothies. It's summer !

[silver-rain]

That's kinda like my relationship with my boyfriend... We've been together for about 10 months, and it does feel like our relationship has gotten stale...
But, that's what happens... I suggest talking to him a bit, and being more romantic. Perhaps, do something out of the norm and surprise him... Maybe that spark will come back...

[WindSorcerous]

Maybe he could be just really comfortable with you that he forgets now to do things that you guys used to, or say things.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 3 months. I think at one point I felt this way, but I talked to him and he felt so bad. He was just really stressed out and things were just getting to him. It was for me too. Everything is just awesome now though, so it was only a misunderstanding. Maybe you really need to talk it over, even if he gets mad...

Communication is key *

[ParanoidAndroid]

It's just a sign that he thinks you're being a little too clingy and that he's not up to commitment

[c4rL4]

WELL..
MAYBE i think that stay for away for a while.
i mean.. not away but keep a little distance, maybe he needs his own space?
dont be too clingy.

</3 thats what sorta happened to me soo yea