A problem, Help my Bro Options

[EXPLO5ION]

I think I should start from the beginning..

When he was in grade school, he had a really good friends through those 5 years. But he lost those friends because of some stupid reasons.

Now to middle school. He was considered kinda popular, although he hardly talked at school. He go in trouble a lot too, plus he didn't get such good grades. Also, since 5th grade, he didn't have a friend, at all. Which caused him to become depressed. Starting in about 7th grade, my dad use to beat him.

In 8th grade, he started to stutter.

He came to highschool, depressed and with no friends. He hasn't had a friends since 5th grade and it stayed like that until now.

He is a freshman in college right now. He and his roomate can make small talk, but they dont really click. He tried to make other small talk with other people, but they just walk away (he still stutters, just saying).

I know its just his 3rd day there, but he already feels horrible again. I know he will meet other people sooner or later. He's too afraid to go to one of those get-togethers with all the freshman, and won't take the initiative to talk to someone first.

I feel so horrible because he basically tells me "I am the only one in the world he has." I tell him to TRY to go to those get-togethers, or try to take an initiative to talk to people. But I feel so... hopeless to help him...

have any other advice i could tell him?

[Levy2k6]

hmm.. it sorta reminds me of me back in middle school and stuff because i never had more than 5 friends.. now im a HS senior with friends all over the place..

I used to be really shy but what i did was join a club or organization.. i did AFJROTC but if he would join a club, it will help him alot

[silver-rain]

That kinda sounds like me. I mean, you did tell him to try to go to those get-togethers, I don't think there's anything else you can do. Perhaps if he did go, he will make new friends. Or, tell him to join clubs and teams and then he can get to know other people better. I joined a sports team and made a lot of good friends, especially since the team is close.
Not to be harsh or anything, but he has to take the initiative if he wants friends, etc.

[Anonymous82]

wow thats sad... I tend to have a hard time making new friends too... I'd love to be friends with him... seriously... contact me!! =]

[sweetdreamsx3]

If you go to parties a lot, take your brother with you or something.
Tell him to get a job. Money and girls should be there. Lol.
Join a volunteering place. He's bound to talk to someone eventually.

[Atobe_Keigo]

Aww...Poor kid. Maybe you should tell him to cheer up! Try to talk to others, be nice, and smile a lot! (I always have to try to smile..)
I used to be like that, but I was never popular. Hmm...He should read a lot of books and then he'll find out a lot about real people. It's actually good because it helped me. Then, find friends that he can really be interested in. Oh yeah, you can tell him to ask his room mate if he likes (insert whatever he likes here) and a discussion will appear! =D

[VarsMOlta]

i think one of those days he wil open up tho...
if he needs help then bring him to parties
if he doesnt then im sure he knows what hez doing
and he knows what makes him feel good
he should know he has the control over lotz things

[jennyjenny]

Tell him to work on his stutter. Like, aren't there classes or like books or whatever you can use to help with that?

And then tell him to join a club, get a job, go to parties, and just try to be more socialable. It's probably harder than it sounds, but still.