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[*tweeak*]

It seems that lately, all of my friends have been really happy. All coupling up and stuff, generally being happy.

And then there's me.

Off, over there, metaphorically far away from everyone. And I'm glad they're happy- or, at least should be- and I've done a remarkably good job of taking it in stride and remaining at least superficially optimistic, because I know whining wouldn't help anything. And I love some of my friends, and I'm weening myself off the ones who annoy me again, but practically everyone is going out with someone, and I don't know, maybe it's a coincidence, but it seems to change the way some of them act around me. I;m the third wheel for a couple of my friends and they don't seem to mind, so I don't either until I actually think about it. But still it seems immensely unfair they should be happier. I'm not one of those people who won't let themselves be happy, really I'm not, and so I manage to be pretty contented. And yet there's this large void that needs filling, no matter how much I try to convince myself otherwise.

I was doing just fine despite the endless :D :D :D :D s that appear in some peoples' xangas (if they happen again, I swear I'm going to snap) until a friend mentioned having a party tonight if anyone wasn't going to another party. I said I didn't know the other person was having one, so I'd like to go. Then the other guy replied and said he didn't want everyone to know, but never extended the invitation to me. Then the other party never happened because everyone went there and now they're all saying how great it was. And I was here. Well, great. Thanks a lot. Maybe if my friends didn't travel in herds this wouldn't suck so much, but I really don't appreciate being blatanly discluded even if the person whose paty it was doesn't like me very much. He actually subscribed to and has been commenting on my xanga, so I thought he was starting to tolerate me, but apparently not so much. Bah.

Well, so yes, I just had to ponder the way I still am not nearly as much a part of the social order of things as I thought.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

I personally think it is just luck almost and coincidence. Sooner or later, one of your friends will be single and you will date.

[jsmooth4ever]

Tweeak I knew that someday I was going to meet you sooner or later what you are going through is a little bit of envy and wanting to be accepted I been in situations where I was the third wheel but I was happy as long as they were happy I know everyone around you is all lovey dovy and it can make you a little bitter cause your not lovey dove thats messed up that they didnt tag you along.

But you didn't like the host anyway so I guess its a lose-win situation I know what it is like to watch everyone around me fall in love and being the only one without people doing double dates and going to the movies I don't think they mean to exclude you from anything I think they just thinking oh im a couple so lets take another couple.

Trust me you don't need to be around 2x the I love you more trash cause it makes you wish you had someone lonely if you will just continue doing you it will get better until the next few holidays humble yourself I am not saying don't chill with your friends but I am saying find something that makes you happy like something that takes your mind off of the situation.

[*tweeak*]

I personally think it is just luck almost and coincidence. Sooner or later, one of your friends will be single and you will date.

not really. it's not really like that. I don't know how to explain it better

Tweeak I knew that someday I was going to meet you sooner or later

huh?

But you didn't like the host anyway so I guess its a lose-win situation I know what it is like to watch everyone around me fall in love and being the only one without people doing double dates and going to the movies I don't think they mean to exclude you from anything I think they just thinking oh im a couple so lets take another couple.

It's not that I didn't like the host, he just doesn't like me much. It's a long, complicated story.

they don't double date. it's not like that. i meant more of being their 3rd wheel in school, anyway. I was friends with the girl, and then became better friends with the guy because I was around them both so much

And as much as a couple of my friends going out disgusted me, it's worse now that they're not. now she feels the need to flirt with everyone incessenly and ignore me for them

hm, but thanks for trying to decipher my mess of a post

[jsmooth4ever]

not really. it's not really like that. I don't know how to explain it better
huh?
It's not that I didn't like the host, he just doesn't like me much. It's a long, complicated story.

they don't double date. it's not like that. i meant more of being their 3rd wheel in school, anyway. I was friends with the girl, and then became better friends with the guy because I was around them both so much

And as much as a couple of my friends going out disgusted me, it's worse now that they're not. now she feels the need to flirt with everyone incessenly and ignore me for them

hm, but thanks for trying to decipher my mess of a post

10,000 post is impressive right now im still kind of a blip on the map which is why I said I would meet you soon or later and no problem have you tried talking to that friend or friends about 1 on 1 time to chill and have fun and such?

[*tweeak*]

Oh.

We never really did that to begin with, and it's not like they're neglecting me (well, not that person, anyway), I just feel akwards sometimes, since we'll be in the middle of a conversations and they'll put their arms around and each other and stuff. It's fine, I'm just jealous (though I don't let them know that)

[*RiC3xBoy*]

My fault, I didn't fully ready your 2nd paragraph. So im guessing that you aren't gettin enough attnetion from others? If so, mayb you can try just doing stuff that would get you noticeded even if other don't exactly agree.

[jsmooth4ever]

Oh.

We never really did that to begin with, and it's not like they're neglecting me (well, not that person, anyway), I just feel akwards sometimes, since we'll be in the middle of a conversations and they'll put their arms around and each other and stuff. It's fine, I'm just jealous (though I don't let them know that)

Don't be jealous sounds more like envy but no need for either there is someone for everybody but don't go looking let it find you love that is unless your down with the rainbow then I guess its fair game I don't know how the rainbow works blah lol.

[*salcha*]

I know how you feel, even my most recent friend (who wrote me a three page email a couple months ago explaining to me how all guys are stupid and how she is never getting a boyfriend in this time span of high school), has finally had the guts to ask a guy out just two days ago. Of course, I'm bewildered, and all the rest of my friends have boyfriends as well.
I hate being a "third wheel" as well, but you know what I realized? There are so many more things to do. It's high school, they're bound to break up anyway (not trying to be bitter). I went out with other friends, and it was just a girl's night out. No boyfriends. No boys.
Just have fun, it'll take your mind off of things eventually.

[ClaudelGFX]

Uhm, dunno but from what i read here, its much more then you needing their attention or beeing the 3rd wheel, but i guess you're a big girl and somewhere in time you'll find the peace you need, and yes sometimes beeing a "3rd wheel" puts you in the sittuation to think and reflect more about your life style and others, but that doesnt mean you have to copy others life style to gain more attention from them, and this is only my point of view, eventually they will "see" you as you are and they will appreaciate you for what you are, not for what they wanna "see" at or from you. And if they really are your Friends, not because you consider them as beeing your friends, and they really do care about you or your feelings... they will accept you ... if Not, i guess you should find some other friends who will appreciate you for what you are, for who you are as a Human, nor even thinking like "oh yeah she's a geek" or anything related to or about those things...

PS: Your such called Friends can be more MEAN then your enemies.

IMO.only

[*tweeak*]

My social situations aren't exactly normal. And I'm not jealous of their boyfriends so much as I am the general happiness and luck in everything. I don't know. I don't know what the point of making topics in here is. I was just mad that I didn't get an invite to this party things that was "so amazing" even though I found out they were having it and the host knew that. Ehhhh.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

In that case, it just might be that your moody or so. Mayb go out with some friends and watch a movie and let it blow over.

[KissMe2408]

I feel ya on that one. Watching everyone be so happy around you, and you see a million smilies on their xanga, or they say somethan like, "omg i was so sad today! so and so gave me a weird look!". and you kinda are just like, "right." It's not easy being the third wheel, it sux actually. And i'm sure you have done a fine job on acting like everything is okay. But yah i understand that lonely feeling and that "everyone else is so happy but me" feeling. But it does get better then this. Your friends will not always have those boyfriends, and you won't always be single. So please keep your chin up, and have hope that it does get better, and that one day you won't have to fake a smile.

[jennyjenny]

That sounds like what I went through last year. Well not really.

Well this girl was having a sleepover for her birthday and my "friends" never include me in anything, like they would make plans to go to the movies or something and they would just plainly exclude me. So my "friend" has this sleepover and she tells like everyone and I found out and she's all "oh uh wanna come" like as a pity question or whatever so I declined the offer.

But sometimes I don't feel as happy as I should be for my friends when they're happy. Cause it seems like I just get excluded. But if your friends are worth it, don't hold a grudge on that cause I've learned that it ruins things and then stupid arguments will emerge.

[Anonymous82]

I've felt the same way