friendships with your exes, how long does it take?... Options

[lit0chinagirl]

is it possible to form a good solid friendship with your ex? if so, how long did it take?
i'm still working on it but then again it has been barely two weeks.

[_sarcastic_]

we stayed friends ever after we broke up. we're not that close anymore though

[Nicolatofu]

It depends on if your ex is willing to be friends with you. I think I might've only been friends with one of my exes because the rest didn't want to be friends. If you both agree upon it, then it just depends on how serious the relationship was.. AND the reason for breaking up.

[Ilaem]

Actually, me and my ex and best friends
It's kinda strange, though
We went out 3 times
We just started talking and stuff
I dunno
Weird//

Hhhmmm....

[inthemudhole]

Yeah, it's possible.
It usually depends upon how the break-up went.
If you endured a bitter break-up, then the chances of a good friendship aren't as high. It's very possible, but you have to work hard for it.
If you went through a nice and smooth break-up, then you may already be friends again. However, if you're not, you still have to work for it, but not for as long....usually.

As for how long it takes.. It varies. I can't really say.

Also, one thing I'd like to add: It is a two-way street. You have to try and your ex has to try in order for there to be a successful friendship between you two. You can't expect your ex to do all the work. I'm not saying you are, but I'm just making it clear that it's a two-way street. You both have to put out and try in order for it to work.

[*takingbacksandy*]

Yeah, it's possible.
It usually depends upon how the break-up went.
If you endured a bitter break-up, then the chances of a good friendship aren't as high. It's very possible, but you have to work hard for it.
If you went through a nice and smooth break-up, then you may already be friends again. However, if you're not, you still have to work for it, but not for as long....usually.

As for how long it takes.. It varies. I can't really say.

Also, one thing I'd like to add: It is a two-way street. You have to try and your ex has to try in order for there to be a successful friendship between you two. You can't expect your ex to do all the work. I'm not saying you are, but I'm just making it clear that it's a two-way street. You both have to put out and try in order for it to work.

exactly what i was going to say. it could take a while. i'm not good friends with any of me ex's but i talk to them once a while. theres no awkwardness or anything because none of us have feelings for each other like that anymore. i think its kind of iffy to be GOOD friends with your ex because you once shared those feelings for him.. yadee yadee. just let time do the work, i think.

[silver-rain]

It depends on how much your ex wants to be friends. It's been about one and a half years since we broke up, but my ex and I are far from being friends, and I've given up trying...

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

It can happen. But you guys won't be as close as you used to be.

[PrettyBrownEyez3]

It actally all depends on the kind of relationship you had, and why/how it ended. Also, it depends on the feelings that are left with both of y'all. Obviously theres something still in the way that you guys aren't friends yet. Talk to him and try to find out what that is.

[SSJ Kenshin]

It took two days for me and my ex-girlfriend. I had to adjust quickly because she lived across the street from me. (She moved last Summer)

[pinayprincess]

naa i doubt it [well in my case] .. ive been so close to my ex [right after we broke up] but i also hooked up with another guy... sooooo after that i kinda stopped talking to him b/c of my bf [whole other story.. its a good reason though]

bottom line... me and my ex arent really talking

[audory]

it depends on the personality of your ex and yourself. and the relationship you guys had before you went out. for me, i've always had a good solid friendship before i went out w/ the guy, so my after-relationship friendships pick up pretty fast. but i did have one relationship that didn't turn out so happily-ever-after: the friendship for that one took.. i'd like to say.. 3-5 months? but it was so worth it. :)

[ClaudelGFX]

friends4life. (if it deserves)

[redpeony]

My last one... took me about a year. Even now, though, there are times when I feel weird around him. But it's starting to be okay and I'm getting more comfortable around him.

[aznangel4eva]

it took us(most recent) a good three months. but each situation is diffrent...so it might nvr happen...
hope things work out for you guys! ---

[misz_ica]

sigh* i`m not friends with any of my ex`s. i would like to be friends with one of them cause he was a really great guy but we just drifted apart..

[DEbmxer553]

With my last one, it took us like 3 months and we went out for a year....for me at least it is usually a 1/4 of the time u were together with the person, if you are ever going to be friends again

[misz tery us]

well my boyfriend now is a bit overprotective over me + doesn't allow me to talk to any of my exes but, if i had the ability to befriend my exes, i wouldn't unless your ex seemed to be more of a friend than an actual boyfriend. i say this because i feel that once you two have been together + then break up, the relationship tension will remain between the two of you. like, you've kissed, held hands, cuddled, took romantic pictures, and spent quality time together. i think it'll hurt if you became friends with an ex cuz in your head, it'll just be like "oh...now we just talk..."

do i make any sense? ionos...i have boy troubles of my own =P hahas

[literemix24]

Yep, its possible.

[technicolour]

..it's possible.

It just depends on how bad the break up went.

Like mine, oh my god, it was horrible. He was threatening to kill himself..and I was breaking up with him cause he called me fat..bitch..yadda yadda yadda...


....and i havent talked to him sense.


but my friend for example, she and her ex...they're like brother and sister..who are possibly getting back to gether..but they're like as close as siblings..

oh my god. i'm confusing myself.

[misz tery us]

^you know what's actually funny? me + my man break up every day + get back together everyday that it seems like a daily routine we go through =P

[Levy2k6]

^^ i see that happen all the time.. i saw that happen and they broke apart for forever...

anyways..

being friends with ur ex's should be good.. i dont talk to my ex tho.. i talk to my ex ex tho.

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

I'm not sure how long but probably a couple of days. I just go up to them and ask if we're friends now and then just talk to him and it feels wierd at first but then I got used to it.

[blucheri]

Note to those that know they have a lil bit of unfaithful in them. "DON'T BE FRIENDS WITH UR EX"

[mzislandpinay]

yes you can form a great friendship with ur ex! cuz i have! He broke up with me. but for some reson he had this big grudge against me.. so then a few months l8er we talked it out (i made the first move.. cuz i wanted to settle it!) but it took us a few months.. but hey me and him are still the best of friends!

[3ssx]

a year

.__.

[anniepiee]

my boyfriend and his ex were close.
apparently what he told me is that she was the tacky one. when she's the one that dumped him.
but back to the real topic.
i've observed a few of my friends break ups. bad ones dont talk again. good ones try to ignore each other for a while. then start talking.

[c4rL4]

WELL..
MY OTHER EX.
i DiDNT TALK TO HiM FOR .. ABOUT 6 MONTHS??

THAN NOW..
WE'RE REALLY GOOD FRiENDS
i DONT HAVE FEELiNGS FOR HiM AT ALL
CUZ iM WiTH SOMEONE
BUT WERE JUST GOOD FRiENDS

PROBABLY.. JUST.. TRY AND TALK
DONT JUST BE TOO CLiNGY..
CUZ THEY WiLL FEEL iRRiTATED
THAT THEY MiGHT NOT WANT TO BE FRiENDS AT ALL.. =]

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

It won't be solid, but you can still be really good friends. But it won't really be the same after he becomes your ex.

[mouse_3k]

well we arnt that close anymore but we are still friends. it takes a few months for us to be friends again

[Azn_Angel13]

it depends sometimes wheter or not ur relationship was ohkay or not. me and my ex broke up and we were hating each other for awhile probably because the break up didnt go so well. and now me and him are friends although we werent as close as we used to be. and i miss that. *tear*

[jsmooth4ever]

I think it depends on a persons maturity and how well they understand things I don't think there is a time limit on being friends with your ex sometimes its instant like when you have that understanding that you can still be cool majority of the time it doesn't work that way cause the other person wants to still hold on and it may take time to heal *sigh* I hope you will end up friends again might not be as close as you were before but as long as ya'll are cool.