I have been thinking a lot lately.... Options

[DEbmxer553]

Ok, so I have been thinking alot lately....about the whole relationship thing and all. See i have been single for about the past 8 or 9 months and I hate it. I liked it for probaly about the first 2 months but then it just got boring since I am not really one of those people who is lucky enough to have like random makeout sessions and such. But anyway so I was thinking, why are girls so stupid sometimes? There are plenty of guys that would go out with them, okay so maybe they arent Brad Pitt but they arent that bad, but they dont want them, they end up going out with the guy who is obviously going to cheat on them, hit them, throw them around, and just be a horrible boyfriend with no real connection. And they weirdest part is, in these kind of relationships these girls just do whatever the boyfriend wants, so usually they end up loosing their virginity. Why do girls put themselves out like that and be such whores sometimes? I know it isn't all girls, but it is a good percent. I am just really kind of confused with the whole thing. I do not understand women, and I never plan to. It is just odd, why would a girl stay with a guy that is obviously cheating on her and treats her like shit. Then when he says there is no reason for treating her like shit after they broke up and she makes it sound like it is her fault. What BS!! If I could actually find a girl that is right for me I would hold on, never let her go, and make her feel #1. But why do girls pick the opposite of this when there is this option out there. It makes no sense.....

[AngryBaby]

you've been thinkin about this alot havent you? lol well u sound like u'd make a good bf to a girl. sometimes its just for looks, strictly for that reason and that reason alone. but sometimes the guy isnt even attracttive, so i get really confused.
and i never understand the bad boy thing that some girls like. usually those guys are fake. and its just... so dumb lol its like they want a character from a movie.

but its not always like that,i've had alot of girlfriends and im just myself. not bad to them or anything. and usually the relationship last for a looong time.

[DEbmxer553]

Yeah, a lot of girls that I talk to online tell me that I would make a good bf, just no1 i talk to in person realizes that...

[demolished]

you've been thinkin about this alot havent you? lol well u sound like u'd make a good bf to a girl. sometimes its just for looks, strictly for that reason and that reason alone. but sometimes the guy isnt even attracttive, so i get really confused.
and i never understand the bad boy thing that some girls like. usually those guys are fake.

haha, thats true.

Anyways, i dont understand girl's relationship but you seem to be correct.

[Cwlplover]

The guys that cheat and stuff are usually the ones that have the ability to make the girl feel special too...It's weird...You'd just have to have been in the situation to know.

[_sarcastic_]

you've been thinkin about this alot havent you? lol well u sound like u'd make a good bf to a girl. sometimes its just for looks, strictly for that reason and that reason alone. but sometimes the guy isnt even attracttive, so i get really confused.
and i never understand the bad boy thing that some girls like. usually those guys are fake. and its just... so dumb lol its like they want a character from a movie.

but its not always like that,i've had alot of girlfriends and im just myself. not bad to them or anything. and usually the relationship last for a looong time.

agreed. sometimes they just want to have a bf just for the sake of having one

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well maybe the girls probably go out with those kinda guys because they don't know he's gonna cheat on her. I mean on the outside he looks like a sweet guy to them I guess. So, I couldn't really blame them for not seeing it coming.

[misoshiru]

because they guy who will eventually cheat on them can make them feel really special at first too...before they cheat on them.

[DEbmxer553]

hmmm....you all keep saying the guy makes them feel really special before they cheat on them...but ya know the guys that dont cheat on em make em feel special too. They both do they same thing essentially. But like why can they never see it coming and trust their friends? Like everyone else knows why cant they believe it?

[*mipadi*]

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but the guys who are genuinely nice to girls, who treat them well, who won't cheat on them, are, more often than not, annoying pathetic. They're so insecure that they feel that they have to bend over backwards to make people--especially girls--like them, so they end up playing the nice-guy routine: doing everything for the girl, talking to her a lot, etc.--except they never take the last crucial step to say, "Hey, how about a movie Friday night?" They sit and hope and pray that by being nice, the girl will suddenly say, "Hey, I'm madly in love with you!" but that never happens.

Jerks, on the other hand, are often jerks because they have a lot of self-confidence--often to the point of arrogance. However, having self-confidence means they can go up to anyone and ask them out, and be reasonably assured of receiving a "yes" reply.

[HoodieObsessed]

I don't know I've never incountered that situation.

But I soppose it must be because the girl doesn't know that the guy is bad, and thinks there IS a connection. They're jsut missled.

EDIT//

I also agree with the post above me --^

If you are overly nice to girl, it gets, really, really annoying. Plus you seem fake, cause no one is nice like that naturally right? so I donno, it jsut turns you off. Plus those kinda of guys usually seem like the ones who say they love you after a week of being your bf how. incredibly. fake.

It's almost like they're trying to pull of the romantic feel relationship but doing it WAY too fast, and jsut badly.

I donno, obviusly not everyone is like that, but some are.

[angelrevelation]

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but the guys who are genuinely nice to girls, who treat them well, who won't cheat on them, are, more often than not, annoying pathetic. They're so insecure that they feel that they have to bend over backwards to make people--especially girls--like them, so they end up playing the nice-guy routine: doing everything for the girl, talking to her a lot, etc.--except they never take the last crucial step to say, "Hey, how about a movie Friday night?" They sit and hope and pray that by being nice, the girl will suddenly say, "Hey, I'm madly in love with you!" but that never happens.

Jerks, on the other hand, are often jerks because they have a lot of self-confidence--often to the point of arrogance. However, having self-confidence means they can go up to anyone and ask them out, and be reasonably assured of receiving a "yes" reply.

i agree, i guess

but i guess lots of girls like the bad boy image... and maybe they aren't looking for anything serious?

it's the same with me. no guys seem to like me...