Asking guy/girl out, What have you been thinking Options

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

I'm not sure if there's a topic on this but feel free to merge, close, whatever.

Anyways, everybody always been thinking what their crush would say if they asked them out right? So what have you been thinkin (or feeling) before you asked them out? And what did you do?

Well, I asked a couple guys out before. I've been feelin shy and thinkin that they might say no and that if they say no, they would know that I like them. So sometimes, when I'm too shy, I get my friends to ask for me.

[technicolour]

Me = dork. Read below.

[*mipadi*]

Don't be subtle. People don't pick up on subtlety, especially guys.

[inthemudhole]

I don't think it's a good idea to have a friend ask FOR you. I guess it's okay if you have a friend talk to them about you and all, but if you have them ask the person out for you, then that shows shyness and weakness, which aren't good qualities to have when in a relationship such as a boyfriend/girlfriend one. If you can't get up enough nerve to ask them yourself, then how are other things going to work throughout the rest of the relationship?

[misoshiru]

i applaud brie.

that's completely right. if you're going to ask him, then ask him.

[latinprep12]

Drop subtle hints.
Get your friends to talk to him [ask if he likes you etc etc etc, yes that dirty work]
Find out what they found out.
If good: go in for the kill
If not: Eh, back off.

You can't be shy honey!! You gotta have guts. Its hard. If you really like the guy but honestly dont want to risk the whole friendship thing, then do the subtle things.
I bet that made no sense.

no one couldve said it better...if you dont like to be shot down like me...tell a friend you can trust to go and spy on the guy...b.t.w. tell your friend not to be so obivous as well..if he does like you flirt a little and then use a catchy line..dont got any in mind but yeah...its a 110% your way plan if you follow this and that ^ then it will work [I Hope ]

[Mr. Slowjamz]

no one couldve said it better...if you dont like to be shot down like me...tell a friend you can trust to go and spy on the guy...b.t.w. tell your friend not to be so obivous as well..if he does like you flirt a little and then use a catchy line..dont got any in mind but yeah...its a 110% your way plan if you follow this

does this 110% plan really work ....i hardly doubt it works for everyone

[latinprep12]

i lefted out some stuff ^ re-read it

[Mr. Slowjamz]

i lefted out some stuff ^ re-read it

well i meant about the "catchy line" phrase ....it never worked for me , maybe i wasnt smooth with the talkin .

[latinprep12]

well you dont have to be...if you feel confident about yourself and when your with that s.o.s. [special someone] and feel secure and got a gut feeling that you can say anything you wanted without studdering or making a bad move...then it comes natural..or is it just me?

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

haha Yall got the wrong idea what I was talking about. Re-read this part...

Anyways, everybody always been thinking what their crush would say if they asked them out right? So what have you been thinkin (or feeling) before you asked them out? And what did you do?

[technicolour]

Oh. Wow. I'm a dork. Scratch what I said.

But I would be thinking...

I'll just go for it. Never know till you try.

Seriously. I do think that. It's scary.

[HoodieObsessed]

I'm afraid I've never asked anyone out so I can't really answer that

[*Tainted Euphoria*]

My first two boyfriends I didn't ask out. Things just got to the point where we were just...together.

The last two guys I liked I told them I liked them and left the ball in their court, but I was waaaaaay nervous about it both times.

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

I made the biggest mistake of my life...

.. my crush asked me out last year.. and i said no v.v And i only said no cause i didn't know what my parents would say if i'd ask them. I was in 6th grade then.. so it would have been my first date.. but i was afriad my parents would say something like "you are too young" or something.. so i told him no.. and now i'm going into 8th grade.. and i'm starting to like him again.. i feel really bad. ='[

[silver-rain]

Hmm, I've never really asked anyone out... But I was planning on asking my first boyfriend out, but he asked me first. Well, what I was thinking was that the term was almost over, and if he said no, we might not see each other, so an awkward situation could be diverted. But I was really nervous too.

[latinprep12]

Well idk any girl that asked a guy out...i always thought guys asked girls out...

if i was you say...

hey i got a crush on you...and well your cool...am cool...your single...am..single...lets go out and be cooler

try that...

[Chii]

^are you serious with that pick up line thing...?

I don't think it's a good idea to have a friend ask FOR you. I guess it's okay if you have a friend talk to them about you and all, but if you have them ask the person out for you, then that shows shyness and weakness, which aren't good qualities to have when in a relationship such as a boyfriend/girlfriend one. If you can't get up enough nerve to ask them yourself, then how are other things going to work throughout the rest of the relationship?

this is true, but sometimes guys think it's cute when a girl is shy.


i've never asked anyone out before but in the past few months i received a lot of confidence so if i did ask someone out, i'd think about what i'd say and keep telling myself that the worse that can happen is if he turns me down.

[HelloSunshine]

I've never asked a guy out.
Haha nontheless tell a guy I like them
Anyhoo, from experience, it's not too good to have your friends ask him for you.
I was the friend, and even though I wasn't "asking him out" for her, things got pretty messed up. Lol.
My advice to you is to ask the guy out yourself, and if you're feeling too shy, write a note

[yukichan]

I made the biggest mistake of my life...

.. my crush asked me out last year.. and i said no v.v And i only said no cause i didn't know what my parents would say if i'd ask them. I was in 6th grade then.. so it would have been my first date.. but i was afriad my parents would say something like "you are too young" or something.. so i told him no.. and now i'm going into 8th grade.. and i'm starting to like him again.. i feel really bad. ='[

I'm going through the same thing as you..
Except I was in 8th grade when my crush asked me out..I liked him at the time, but my parents said I couldn't date till high school...

Anyways, I never asked my crush out, but if I did, I would probably be very nervous and tense..

I would never ask my friends to ask them out for me..I don't really involve my friends with my relationships..

[oneandonlytammie]

I'm thinking, I hope he's not gay...

Turns out he was.

[latinprep12]

^are you serious with that pick up line thing...?
this is true, but sometimes guys think it's cute when a girl is shy.
i've never asked anyone out before but in the past few months i received a lot of confidence so if i did ask someone out, i'd think about what i'd say and keep telling myself that the worse that can happen is if he turns me down.

^ lol..no i was just playing..if i had to ask a girl out i will say

Hey!..well i just wanted to tell you..your really beautiful and i really like you alot..and i was wodering if you will like to go out with me...,but you dont got to answer now...take your time and let me know

or something close to that

[shortiiex]

i'm shy too
so i wait for them to ask me out
but people have trouble saying no...i have trouble for saying yes

[lilliannnn]

The first guy I asked out I was scared shitless. And then he said no..

I really don't ask guys out, they ask me. But once, I forced the guy I liked to ask me out.. I mean he liked me, too but he wouldn't say it. It was actually really funny.