long-distance, can i get him to give in? |
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 Aug 26 2005, 10:10 AM
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okay. the deal is that my "friend" or.. we could call it a "friend with benefits" lives about an hour and a half away from me... he says that he would go out with me if we lived closer. its not that long of a ways from each others' towns and he still wont. we both said i love you to each other and we've basically told each other everything. we stay on the phone for over 4 hours at a time(but i have to call him, i get free long-distance calling), and he really really likes me. i told him that we could meet up again real soon, but he keeps doubting it, and saying that we'll never see each other again. it makes me feel like crap. help?!
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Aug 26 2005, 10:19 AM
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 M.a. x. Group: Member Posts: 1,913 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,641 |
Well guys are all differ, but if your friends with benefits....your not that much respected...like reg. friends...., but when he needs you he will call or sumthin...but thats average guys...well i think if you have faith and do what you say...and go see him then he will be amazed and believe more in you and him in a relationship...if i was you...make him eat his words and go see him...i like how you and him talk on the phone and are really into each other...just go for it
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Aug 26 2005, 10:21 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 4 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,690 |
thanks a lot. its good to hear someone believe in what i think. thanks!
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Aug 26 2005, 10:28 AM
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M.a. x. Group: Member Posts: 1,913 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,641 |
well i dont got a friend with benefits...but i dated alot of girls from cali or newyork while i was in fla...and well i know about far distance reltions...but yours is closer..lol..well go for it and he will be amazed and you and him will be with each other soon...i know
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Aug 26 2005, 05:22 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
long distance relationships never work. move on and find a guy in your own place. Also theres a greater chance of lying and cheating if yall live that far apart
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Aug 26 2005, 06:50 PM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
^ That's not necessarily true. I'm in one right now and it's going fine.
 Yes, its normally easier to cheat when you're far apart, but as long as you stay committed to each other, things should turn out fine.
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Aug 26 2005, 07:15 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
^ What she said. Make sure he is willing to commit from a distance and BAM you just got yourself a boyfriend.
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Aug 26 2005, 09:43 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
Long Distance relationship really sucks. They don't come out fine easily.
To be honest with you girl. He doesn't love you. He just acting like he loves you. I don't think you should call him a friend anymore. I mean he's faraway from you saying that he doesn't want to meet you. Why I know that? Because you just said that "We will never have a chance to meet each other" SEE?!?! What kind of answer is that. You should say "I hope someday we meet each other. Even if it's hard." I mean that's so a answer of "I like you. I really want to see you." But he said NEVER have a CHANCE to meet each other. So yeah. You should just go with the flow. Acting like you love him too. You should pay him back. Think of something since you know him better to revenge him, right? I mean he WAS your friend. "WAS" because he just hurt you real bad. |
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Aug 28 2005, 08:22 AM
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 sheryl Group: Member Posts: 120 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 142,179 |
long distance relationships are actually quite ok, i'm in one. we're both in completely different countries but we manage. you guys only live like an hour and a half away from each other, you can visit each other quite easily. take some time off your holidays or he take time off his to go visit each other. reassure him that it's fine to be in a long distance relationship.
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Aug 28 2005, 08:28 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
forget about it, if he isn't interested then move on
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Aug 28 2005, 11:02 AM
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 I love you more than sex appeal. Group: Member Posts: 3,045 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,932 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Aug 26 2005, 5:22 PM) long distance relationships never work. move on and find a guy in your own place. Also theres a greater chance of lying and cheating if yall live that far apart  Yeah, what she said. If you think there's a chance for you to see eachother then give it a try but if you went out with eachother while yall are far apart, how would you know if he's cheating on u or not. But if you ask him, of course he would say no because he dont want to get busted. So, yea, you gotta move on ok? 
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Aug 29 2005, 08:51 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 46 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 142,222 |
where theres a will, there's a way!
and shame on you people who say they don't work, coz they can work
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Aug 29 2005, 09:22 AM
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 WarPath Leader. Group: Member Posts: 668 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,721 |
Uhm,what can i say is,there were 32949293 couples evan from the other part of the globe who got married after just talking on irc/chat or any other kind of messengers over the years,and BAM after some years they got married,so all you have to do,is to findout more and more about "that guy",before just jumping like that,because like we all may know (i admit) most of the men's are lookin for 1 night of "sex" and then they just vanish/dissapear,so you betta think twice,before doing something that you can regret for the rest of your life,he dare's you to go lol.
PS:You can listen 394923944 ppl opinion,but you're the one who "feels" the facts of life,words are useless sometimes,you're the one who will decide where/when or what will happen backthere. PS:men's & woman's can cheat eachothers even they walk handbyhand over the street.(there are 239492394 types of cheating) A good thingy for both of you ,to keep the relationship,even you both are talking over the phone/net,go and see your partner 1-2 times (or more) per week,or viceversa.(knowing the distance its not so big,you both can visit eachothers) GoodLuck Thank You Enjoy. |
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