help me, he likes me, but I have a boyfriend Options

[elaboratedream]

I started highschool about a week ago and I became friends with this guy (lets call him Bill) in my wellness class (health, skills for living and P.E. all thrown into a double period) and I figured out within the first day that he takes a lot of drugs... but I still hung out with him 'cause he's funny and stuff... and it doesn't take me long to figure out that he likes me... but I have a boyfriend. Yesterday I told him that casually and he wasn't happy about it. ("that sucks... dude, that really sucks..." and stuff like that) but then today he acted like he had never heard that... and I was talking to one of his friends and he told me that he probly doesn't remember 'cause Bill was high that day...
Bill's usually high... which makes it hard to tell him things like that...

I've told my boyfriend about it... or at least mentioned it to him...

and it gets much worse and I feel bad admitting this next part 'cause I feel like a total bitch/slutty whore.
I haven't been going out with my bf long and I hardly ever get to see/ talk to him anymore... we go to different highschools and we always have a lot of homework... so I don't feel as close to him anymore, but I still really like him. but I also sorta like Bill... I don't wanna dump my boyfriend for him or anything 'cause I still really like him and I would never cheat on my bf either 'cause that would make me a horrible bitch, but I still can't deny that I like Bill too...

and right now I have no idea what do do... I told Bill once that I have a bf, but he still acts like he doesn't know... and I don't wanna hurt Bill 'cause he has enough problems already but I don't wanna break up with my bf 'cause I really like him... and besides that, what good would Bill be as a bf? He's always high and doesn't remember important things I try to tell him...

I need help...

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okay, so people don't seem to be reading my comments, so I'm posting the updates to the problem here.

okay, so far he's asked me to make out and given me a note...
the note goes as follows:
Hey, Rhonda,
I'm not exactly sure how to spell ur name, sorry, but Hope this doesn't seem weird but I like really like u. Ur someone who I can understand and get. Do u know what I mean? I know ur goin out with someone right now, and I'm not asking u 2 break up with him or anything. It's just I want u ter know I like u. I've always liked u better than Leah. Just because u and me have been in the same kind of situations, u know.

I feel really stupid right now because I'm not exactly the best person with words. I don't know if u like me or not but, Just thought I'd get that out on the table.

We started gym today, WoooHoo! yah, Oooooo boy. Wow, that was sure-as-hell enthusiastic wasn't it. [l.o.l.] <= thats laugh out loud, so I really want u to go Ha, Ha, Ha really loud in the hallway when ur done reading this, Ok?!
Again I want 2 apologize for being weird but, thats just who I am I guess.

Hope u like me 2,
appresheate the time,
Sincerely,
ur best, best, best, best,
best, best, best, best,
best, best, best,
best, best, best buddy in
the entirer world.
Bill Davis


P.S. Sorry but I such at spelling. Oh, yah, dont let Colt get his hands on this not PLEASE!
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and then today, (sept. 22) I responded to his note telling him that I like him, but don't wanna break up with my bf right now... I have a feeling things are gonna get worse now, so what should I do?

I've really screwed things up, I know, but right now, I need to know how to fix all of this.
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and did I mention he's suicidal? that makes it a lot harder to deal with this. I don't want to be the one who finally pushed him over the edge. He's tried to kill himself several times. (I think it's up to nine or ten attempts now... and he's learning, last time it almost worked)
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he gave me a response to my note...

I forgot how ter spell ---->Rohanda,

-My Buddy-good friend-
This is my buddy good friend
who makes it work
and'll help me live
This is my crystal friend
Have a bad day
She'll be there in the end
I'm like a disease
and ur the cure but theres a
*road-block between better and worse
-I'm a loser and I'm a liar-
-but I'm a fighter-
-I won't give up-
-for blood or worse-
-'till the end-
-I'll be here to heal-
-the battle wounds of a-
-f**ked up world-

So, what about it? want to go out now? l.o.l. <--u know what 2 do
It kinds of sucks a littles bits. I don't know if u know this or not but, [bad spelling and stuff but I think he means to say:] get this, I really like u. l.o.l. <----u know what to do... again. but u see, in that song. Or poem depends on who's reading it. The figurative language was trying to tell u something when it said "roadblock" I WANDER WHAT IT MIGHT BE!? hint, hint, l.o.l.

It comes down to whether or not u like me enough 2 break up with ur boyfriend. I might get taken here pretty soon so last chance. U KNOW! those ladies just cant stand my animal magnitizum. l.o.l.

P.S. I really f**king Oh here's another name 4 me it's
suck at spelling. Bill Davis Billy Barosky

lol, the last few sentences was so full of sarcasm it was hillarious. but anywho, I need to figure out what to do now... I sorta want to go out with him... but I still don't really wanna break up with my bf... dammit, this is so complicated... I'm guessing most people won't have any more of an idea of what to do than me... but I'm still asking because I don't know what else to do...
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wow this is getting long...

HELP ME PLEASE

[HoodieObsessed]

Well, that's a toughy.

...

I think...hmmm....I think you should keep your bf you have now, because I don't think bill sounds very fit to be a bf. Cause of being high all the time. I think you should make an effort to see your bf more, so you don't lose touch, and you should only break up with him if something has changed in your relationship with your bf...not just because you met another guy. If you know what I mean.

My advice stinks

[mzislandpinay]

hmm.. maybe you just need to stay away from 'bill' or you can actually help him to quit.. (if he wants to) but man tough situation.. if that happened to me.. i'd be with my b-f and ttry to work things with him.. lyk see him, spend time with him.. and i'd jsut try to lyk bill as a friend..

[parallel]

what good would Bill be as a bf? He's always high and doesn't remember important things I try to tell him...

That right there my dear is your answer. Stick with your boyfriend.
Bill could get you into trouble. And you don't want to get a bad rep. just when you started highschool.

[elaboratedream]

I don't wanna break up with my bf and I know Bill wouldn't be a good bf, but I still like him... I just felt like including that to blow off steam basically... I know what to do about that part.

my main problem is that I don't know what to do to make Bill stop hitting on me and crap. I tried telling him I have a bf, but he's always high and doesn't seem to get it. what should I do about that?

[*suddenly she*]

are you okay with him being high all the time?
if not, tell him that you don't like the fact that he abuses his own body.

he might abuse yours if you're not careful.

[angelrevelation]

bill doesn't really seem like a reliable boyfriend, from his being high and all things might be rocky with your bf... and you may end up breaking up eventually, but it doesnt mean you have to go for bill

my main problem is that I don't know what to do to make Bill stop hitting on me and crap. I tried telling him I have a bf, but he's always high and doesn't seem to get it. what should I do about that?

does he hit you at school? wouldn't the teacher see? if it's when you two hang out.... stop hanging out with him. tell him you won't hang out with him anymore unless he stops taking drugs. or... go to his house and trash all his drugs? where are his parents? but i guess you should just get bill help

[shereyol]

i don't think you should break it off with your bf, i mean Bill sounds like he's a bad influence. how to make Bill stop hitting on you? tell him not to or just not flirt back.

[KissMe2408]

I would forget about this guy "bill". He does all these drugs, and let's say you DID dump your boyfriend for him and went out with bill...what kind of boyfriend would bill be?
Plus, you said yourself you still care for your boyfriend. So don't dump him, and make some more time for him. And don't worry about hurting bills feelings or whatever. Just stick with him as a friend. And if you find urself really attracted to him, then maybe you shouldnt' hang out with him too much. Especially if you want to be faithful to your boyfriend. I probably wouldn't chill with Bill at all if i were you. But its up to you and it matters how close you and your boyfriend are, and how much you care about him. But between us girls, I don't want you getting hurt at all...so from experience, stay away from bill, and the most, just be casual friends. :)

[LittleLulu]

ok how about slap bill in the face and say "LEAVE ME ALONE" that always works lol

or you can just completely ignore him, and occupy your mind with your boyfriend?? think of schoolwork, read a really long book, SOMETHING. or you can always bitch at him =)

[elaboratedream]

does he hit you at school?  wouldn't the teacher see?  if it's when you two hang out.... stop hanging out with him.  tell him you won't hang out with him anymore unless he stops taking drugs.  or... go to his house and trash all his drugs?  where are his parents?  but i guess you should just get bill help

no, he doesn't hit me... he hits on me... meaning that he says and does stuff that suggest that he likes me.

okay, but anyways, things are better 'cause I now know he knows that I have a boyfriend and he's respecting that. even when he's high...

I don't have a problem with him being high really... it's his problem, not mine. Who am I to judge? anywho, I don't know how all of this will turn out but I DO NOT PLAN TO DUMP MY BOYFRIEND FOR HIM. that would make me a horrible bitch and besides that, I care about my boyfriend. I don't wanna dump him.

[technicolour]

^ Fantastic.

And it is his problem. Not yours. He's just a friend. Who likes drugs.

[_sarcastic_]

no, he doesn't hit me... he hits on me... meaning that he says and does stuff that suggest that he likes me.

okay, but anyways, things are better 'cause I now know he knows that I have a boyfriend and he's respecting that. even when he's high...

I don't have a problem with him being high really... it's his problem, not mine. Who am I to judge? anywho, I don't know how all of this will turn out but I DO NOT PLAN TO DUMP MY BOYFRIEND FOR HIM. that would make me a horrible bitch and besides that, I care about my boyfriend. I don't wanna dump him.

yeah just stay friends with him.

[elaboratedream]

well, my last post was sorta off... he hasn't been acting any differently. he knows I have a boyfriend, yet he's still hitting on me (for instance "sit down, I wanna sit on your lap" and shit like that... and he gives me stuff... he was gonna give me his jean jacket thing, he gave me a bracelet and a few picks... just randomly.) but I still like hanging out with him... he's hillarious (probly 'cause he's high... lol)

I want him to stop hitting on me though... I feel like I'm some sort of slut whenever that happens... I feel like I'm cheating on my boyfriend just by hanging out with him when he says and does stuff like that...
once again the question... how can I get him to stop?

[Death2Smilee]

OK, I've weird freaks hit on me since I started. I usually give the impressionlik eI don't liek what he sez when they hit on me (-"I wanna sit on your lap...."-"Well, I don't want you there!")Just kinda watch what you say as well. Make sure you arent like "flirting" or something with him. He mighta gotten the worng impression or something.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Stick with your bf. Bill wouldn't be good as your bf anyway. And if he hits on you I guess you can give him a warning like Bill stop I mean it! And one more warning like I'm serious Bill I have a Boyfriend. An if he doesn't stop after that walk away.

[malimars]

give him *bleep* him in the ass a couple times and he will leave him alone he just wants to BE *bleep*SATISFIED IS THAT TOO *bleep* MUCH TO ASK TELL HIM I WILL DO IT

This post has been edited by mzkandi: Sep 5 2005, 11:26 PM

[*mzkandi*]

Moved to Relationships

[misz_ica]

that happened to me just recently. i have a boyfriend and a crush i had for a while a long time ago, hung out with me at a party a couple of weeks ago. he`s really sweet and everything but then i felt uncomfortable cause he was trying to kiss me at certain points and when he finally came out with his true feelings. i got confused but then when you think about it, who is the person that has been there and shared all those memories with .. your boyfriend. could you imagine it with the other person? if you want the guy to stop just stay away from him. if he looks for you ignore him or just state it up front that you don`t have any emotion for him. once isn`t enough keep telling him. he`ll eventually get the picture. oh and does your boyfriend know about this?

[misoshiru]

just tell bill again, and make it absolutely clear.

[misz tery us]

one questiong...do you actually like "bill" or you just feel bad for him?
you gotta really think about it =T

+it's actually normal to like someone else...the thing is that, you've been with one person for so long that you want something different. i feel the same way. i've been with my man for almost 2 years yet i check out other guys =T i would never ever cheat on my bf but it'll be nice to experience someone else's lips/hugs/warmth/laughter besides the man your with. =T

i think you should just plainly stick with your bf now because, well, you truly like him. but i think you should watch out from "bill" since he IS a druggy...he might go phyco one day and you'll never know it.

just my thought =) hope i helped =)

[elaboratedream]

okay, so I thought that he had stopped and things had gotten better... but I was an idiot to think that.

he gave me a note today... it said the following:

Hey, Rhonda,
I'm not exactly sure how to spell ur name, sorry, but Hope this doesn't seem weird but I like really like u. Ur someone who I can understand and get. Do u know what I mean? I know ur goin out with someone right now, and I'm not asking u 2 break up with him or anything. It's just I want u ter know I like u. I've always liked u better than Leah. Just because u and me have been in the same kind of situations, u know.

I feel really stupid right now because I'm not exactly the best person with words. I don't know if u like me or not but, Just thought I'd get that out on the table.

We started gym today, WoooHoo! yah, Oooooo boy. Wow, that was sure-as-hell enthusiastic wasn't it. [l.o.l.] <= thats laugh out loud, so I really want u to go Ha, Ha, Ha really loud in the hallway when ur done reading this, Ok?!
Again I want 2 apologize for being weird but, thats just who I am I guess.

Hope u like me 2,
appresheate the time,
Sincerely,
ur best, best, best, best,
best, best, best, best,
best, best, best,
best, best, best buddy in
the entirer world.
Bill Davis

P.S. Sorry but I such at spelling. Oh, yah, dont let Colt get his hands on this not PLEASE!




I don't know what to do... I don't wanna just say "I don't like you like that" because
1. It's not completely true
and
2. he's majorly suicidal... he's tried to kill himself 6 or 7 times... and I don't wanna be the one to push him over the edge... when leah said she didn't like him like that or whatever she told him... he almost killed himself... I really don't want him to do that...

what should I do?!?

[*mishyerr*]

um, how interesting. well, i wouldn't choose 'bill' because of his drug-abuse. druggies are no-nos. and it must be hard to keep a ..er.. short-long distance relationship... so, really, i think you should think about the pros&cons of each guy and compare. or you can just dump both and get a better boy. :)

[mai_z]

I would say, stick with your boyfriend, and try to spend more time with him (i'm kinda in the same situation). Treat "bill" as no more than a friend. Hopefully he'll get the picture eventually.

[shortiiex]

if yuo're not sure if bill rembers you have a boyfriend...just randomly bring it up in a topic like...my boyfriend likes to smoke too...or something like that









never dump your bf with a guy who gets high

[elaboratedream]

I responded to his note... I don't know what's gonna happen now.

more updates on the original post

[ahoytheremate!]

don't do it it won't be worth it

[ahoytheremate!]

don't go for it!!!!!!!

[ghetto_j21]

drugs are for losers, always remember that

[elaboratedream]

so he wrote a reply to my response... see the original post... dammit, this is so f**ked up... PLEASE HELP. I have no idea what to do anymore