Am I the only person in the UNIVERSE??, Anybody not allowed to date? Options

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

My parents so freakin make me upset. My brother is allowed to date but I'm not allowed to go freakin McDonalds with a boy. I once discussed this with my rents and they threatened to move me to an all girls boarding school if I don't straighten out my priorities. Am I the only one in the world who isn't allowed, because even now and days I see freakin 11 and 10 year olds frenching like their is no tomorrow

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I doubt you're the only one whos not allowed to date, some parents are very protective of their daughters. I guess they're afraid you might get raped or something. And your brothers chances off getting raped...is very unlikley. Talk it over with your parents, or maybe just try going in a group some boys and some girl til you 'rents trust you.

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

I can take care of myself, I took kickboxing for a semester for crying out loud. And I can totally be trusted, its not like I'll get myself knocked up for have a sex video online if I go out with a boy. My brother is a friggin man whore and they trust him? Gosh, parents these days... I bet nuns have more freedom then I do.

[maia_dc]

No my parents like it if I date. They're like "ooh lala my baby's growing up."
Hahaa...

[ThePrincessofTKD]

you`re not the only one. don`t worry. just lie to them and be like "yeah. there are no boys....." hahaha! that`s what i`d do.

[shortiiex]

how old are you?
anyway ...my mom said i am allowed to date when i am 16...but like i am going to listen to her...she doesn't want me to get distracted with school...
did you ask your parents when you are allowed to date??
and are you allowed to hang out with boy....friends

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

I'm going to be a freshmen, I'm 14 turning 15 in a few months

I asked them all the time and they say that we will talk about it when the time comes. I have a feeling they have a plan to marry me off lol.

I'm only allowed to hang out with boys they know... but normally when I'm going out in a group, there are boys I don't know but my friends always have to bring up the fact that I'm not allowed to date

I tried lying but they get me before I can head out the door. They treat me like I'm in the interrogation room. Question after question, and they want proof sometimes. If they still don't believe me, they say I can't go and make up something for me to do, like "you need to clean your room" or "you need to help ur bro with his homework". Then I realized even if I get away with it, its just not worth all the effort of all that sneaking around.

[xSweet_SmiLe]

my dad says i'm allowed to date but i'm not allowed to have a boyfriend...

[elaboratedream]

I have a feeling they have a plan to marry me off  lol.

lol, I'm sure it's not that extreme... but for now, don't tell them there are gonna be guys there. tell them that you're going to be with a bunch of your best friends but remember to warn your friends in case they want proof...

I'm sure they'll let you date eventually.

[xx dancing HIPPO]

OMG, I have the same exact problem as you! My 11 year old cousin has got a g/f and my moms like totally approves. We were going to the movies and she dropped of him & his g/f. When my friends and I saw one of our guy friends, we went over to say hi and she like pulled me back and yelled at me in hindi (our language) "Don't talk to him!". Oh god. It's probably cuz I'm a girl and I could get pregnant. She thinks every time i leave our house, i go to some guys house and have sex or get raped on the streets. HONESTLY, what kind of idiot thinks like that?

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

Lol, I swear, if I hadn't had literally forced them to have "the talk" with me, they would be so happy that I have no clue what sex is (fat chance that would be true). But if they don't trust me, they don't trust me.

[i can break]

My parents wouldn't like the idea of me dating. I'm constantly getting lectures about girls messing up their lives because they messed with guys.

[lovescream]

No, you're not. I don't have a brother but I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until I'm like 0234892059825 years old. I'm not allowed to even be FRIENDS with a guy -- but I go behind my mother's back. I guess she's overprotective of you because you're a girl and if you get pregnant, that's a bigger deal. But if your brother has sex and gets another girl pregnant, it's not as big of a situation for him because he's not the one having a baby. PLUS, my cousin is allowed to have a boyfriend. Why am I not? Pssssh. Too overprotective, it's not good for you.

[Jane_eyre_rules]

don't worry, you aren't the only one! I'm not allowed to go out with guys because of my sister's fault! She got pregnant when she was 18! It's soooooo unfair!

[Purplefender86]

i'm here too

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

Nice to know I'm not alone at least. I just don't understand. I'm a good girl darnit, I don't miss my curfew (on weekdays) I get A's and B's (most of the time) I call my grandmother every sunday (but if no one answers after 3 rings I hang up, grandma's have social lives too). Not to be stuck up but good girls like me don't get knocked up! lol, and when we do, it is because we rushed into things because our parents held us back for so long. But now after reading everyones post, I'm going on a date gosh darnnit. This year, I promise I will get a boyfriend, have my first kiss (pathetic huh), and go all the way to second base... that is if I still feel defiant tomorrow.

[yummy_delight]

You are definitely not alone, sweetie.

I've been prohibited from dating until I'm 30. But, you think that's stopping me?

[stephenmatthewg9...]

I'm not allowed to but I kinda do anyways lol

[*mishyerr*]

How narrow-minded of you! I know people who aren't allowed to date til they're 18.

And you didn't mention how old you are.

:P but you're not the only one, so don't freak out ^_^

[*suddenly she*]

i'm not allowed to, and woman. this is the girl who spends ten hours minimum training at a kung fu school weekly.

we're the same age, by the way!

anyway, don't rush it. just because your parents don't let you near guys doesn't mean you have to go any faster, you know? don't get a boyfriend or lose your first kiss because you want to defy your parents.

what i'd do is to get a couple of friends and whoever the guy is and go somewhere, split up, but stay in the same general area in case your parents decide to check in on you.

[allboutme2987]

dont worry my parents dont want me to date until im in college....lik im gonna listen......

[mouse_3k]

just lie and go out. It aint tht hard. Lie until u are actually allowed to go out

[Chii]

I'm going to be a freshmen, I'm 14 turning 15 in a few months

oh dear god, it's the end of the world. a freshman not allowed to date!


good god, get over yourself, no one is ever the only person who has to go through something. besides, people out there have it a hell of a lot worse than you do.

originally, my parent's said that i wasn't allowed to date until i was done with college, but they eased up a little when they found out about my boyfriend, which is kind of recently and i'm 17.

parents tend to trust boys with dating because there are less complications, if their son gets someone pregnant, the girl comes off as an easy whore and the boy is the victim who was seduced by the tramp.

they just want to protect your reputation.

dating when you're that young is highly overrated because it seems that you just want to date because everyone else is.

[silver-rain]

Not everyone dates; I didn't when I was a freshman. And it's not like the most important thing in your life right now.
Eh, my parents didn't approve of me dating at first. They still don't, but I do it anyways.

[its_annah]

haha. Get this -
I'm not allowed to talk to guys
Be friends with them.
Walk near around them.
Hang out with them.
Can't date until I can fully support myself.

ha. I date anyways. I know they want the best, so I don't do anything extreme.

[seriouslynikki]

Wow. My parents are like that too. I can't date until im 18. I can't even go outside alone with a guy or even girl until im 18. All that is unfair for me, is that, for my parents, guys get more freedom than girls do.

[littleswallow]

Don't worry... you're not the only one.

I'm 16 and part of the NBSB Society (No Boyfriend Since Birth), but that's mainly because my parents are strict and I play the role (although not always) of the dutiful daughter. It's not bad, if you think about it.

[bbyunique]

No your not the only person not allowed to date. This world is HUGE. There are plenty of girls who aren't allowed to date. A knew quite a bit who couldn't date but still dated secretly. I dated secretly because I wasn't allowed to. I don't recommend it unless your old enough and still not allowed to date. My parents were ridiculous, they said I couldn't date till im 25 or after college.

[_sarcastic_]

you're only just turning 15, there's still time for you to find a bf.
don't rush into things, i'm sure you want your first kiss to be an unforgettable one or you don't want to get your heart broken too many times.
your parents are just looking out for you.

[jerseygal34]

mi mom never told me i couldnt date, but if i told her one day that i was going out with a guy and i really liked him she would let me..ne way mi mom like loves all mi guy friends so it works ..and im possitive your not the only one..like mi friend kate her dad is SOO pretective of her...its hilarious cause all of our guy friends are afraid of her dad cause her dad is their basketball and he has a really scary deep voice lol ..

[breakingdawn]

My mom's theory is that "you date to get find who you will marry, and you don't need to be worrying about that until you are at least 16" which is true, but my parents are over the top and wont even let me go to the movies alone until I turn 14. gahh.. And all my friends are already allowed to go.

[iiTsDAYNA]

Im not aloud to. Haha. O well.. Do it behind their backs

[Im So Vain]

Maybe your parents are afraid that your heart my get broken, or maybe they just want you to wait till you're more mature (maybe like 16, 17, or 18?) But yeah like others said you arent the only one.

[Mulder]

im allowed to, but i dont. nobodys asked me out but ah well. its not the end of the world.

[technicolour]

Haha..i have to go through a 2 hour sit down if i even mention the words 'boy' and 'date' in the same sentence.

[toodlepops.]

I'm not allowed to date, either. But my mum told me, I'm allowed to date this particular boy because she likes him. That was a freaky conversation.
Yes, I see 11 year olds dating here too.