dad's new g/f, grrrr Options

[R i O T *]

okay, my dad has this new girlfriend and I don't really like her...actually no, I just don't like her . Not only has she made my dad just...totally different, she thinks she knows everything about my life! She's over EVERYDAY...like right now for instance . And I found lubricant jelly in his room, so i looked in his drawers and stuff and found condoms in the one *gags*. He was never like that before and I want to tell him that I don't like her, but he's really happy now and before when his ex dumped him, he was so depressed. I don't know what to do ! Any ideas?

[maia_dc]

It's natural to be jealous or angry, but just be happy for him. I think it's sweet that he's in love. At least try to get to know her, not the effect she's having on your dad (even though it seems to be positive?).

Don't be immature. Try to imagine what it's like to be in her situtation. She has it tough, because you're bound to dislike her.

Be nice.

[technicolour]

COMMUNICATION

Alright. IMO, I think you should talk to your dad. Say how much you dislike her, but i would leave out the condom details. Tell him, and maybe he'll get her to lighten up.

IMO, also, your dad needs to worry about you more than her. You should be his first priority in his life, and really, he needs to know that.

Just let him know how you feel. It can make the world of difference.

[maia_dc]

IMO, also, your dad needs to worry about you more than her. You should be his first priority in his life, and really, he needs to know that.

Just let him know how you feel. It can make the world of difference.

So once you have kids, you're not allowed to think about your own happiness?

Communication is important, but so is maturity. And in this situation, I think it's the mature decision to suck it up and think about other peoples' happiness. I can understand why one would be upset, but this is something that requires a little selflessness.

[mouse_3k]

Tell her that u dont like her. That or make her life a living hell. haha thats what im doin to my mom's bf when he comes ova...give him some attitude

[technicolour]

Oh good god.

When you have kids, they become your number one too. If his girlfriend really is a pain, then she should talk to her dad.

Sure maturity is important, but really, if your dad was going out with a woman that you hate what would you do? You'd get mad...and try to act like an angel..but come on..if you're not that happy you still should tell your dad.

[R i O T *]

Tell her that u dont like her. That or make her life a living hell. haha thats what im doin to my mom's bf when he comes ova...give him some attitude

haha...good idea . I mean, I know what everyone is saying. I'm nice to her (even though i don't wanna be) but she just pisses me off. Shez changing my dad so much

[technicolour]

Does your dad recognize that he's been changed by her?

[maia_dc]

Does your dad recognize that he's been changed by her?

But apparently he was changed in a good way. He's happy.

It's true that if you're unhappy with his new relationship, you should talk to him, but more importantly, why don't you give her a chance before you decide you don't like her? Think maturely.
^ Is what I'm saying.

[shortiiex]

*cough*kill her
which would you rather have you be happy and your dad be miserable or vice versa?
if he is happy let him be happy
But, if you really hate her, let your dad know...would he choose a woman over his kid?

[Chii]

sweets...do you not like her because you're jealous that she's taking up all his time and you don't get to be with him as often anymore? that happens a lot...

she's making him happy and it's not really a drastic change if he has sex...he's had sex before after all that's why you're here.

try to make nice with his new girlfriend...that would make your father really happy that his two favorite girls are having fun together.

but if that doesn't work out...then talk to your dad.

[yellowgurl]

sweets...do you not like her because you're jealous that she's taking up all his time and you don't get to be with him as often anymore? that happens a lot...

she's making him happy and it's not really a drastic change if he has sex...he's had sex before after all that's why you're here.

try to make nice with his new girlfriend...that would make your father really happy that his two favorite girls are having fun together.

but if that doesn't work out...then talk to your dad.

i have to agree with her.. thats what you should do since you can make the best out of a bad situation and give some happiness. but keep in mind that your dad will always love you no matter what. soo cheer up =) you dont have to like her, just try to be nice. and who knows, maybe you will.

[illumineering]

You haven't given any reasons for hating her based on anything she has done. Expecting your father to stay the same to satisfy you is selfish. Based on what you wrote it sounds like you might be jealous of his happiness. Like many others have said...talk to him and tell him how you feel. You'll feel a lot better. My guess is your dad and his g/f already sense your emotions and feelings.

[loljuliana]

=\ well you could look at it from her point of view. imagine your boyfriend had a child. you&your boyfriend love each other&wanna be with each other as much as possible but his child dislikes you. kinda hurts doesnt it?

[lassipiktunn]

no seriously why would you go through his drawers? espically after seeing the lubricant...
is he not allowed to have sex or wat? :p
think about your own behaviour too sweets!

[_sarcastic_]

your dad's happy, why not give her another chance, you might just end up finding out that she is a good person afterall, instead of wasting your time disliking her.

[illumineering]

=\ well you could look at it from her point of view. imagine your boyfriend had a child. you&your boyfriend love each other&wanna be with each other as much as possible but his child dislikes you. kinda hurts doesnt it?

That scenario was not part of the original post. If it were the case, without any compelling motivation for her disliking the g/f, it is a selfish perspective. It is not fair to dislike her for spending time with her father. He has the right to maintain adult relationships.

[Paradox of Life]

Telling your dad will only upset him and make it more difficult for him to have a regular relationship. No, a regular life.


Talk to HIS GIRLFRIEND. Spend more time with her and get to know her better. Then no relationship can get spoiled and you'll be better friends with someone that might just be your mom

[iiTsDAYNA]

Hide the condoms and jelly.
Then tell your dad that you dont like her
MayB try telling her how you feel

All else fails. Try to get along with her.. Like ask her if she wanted to do bonding time..

^ She might buy you stuff...

[illumineering]

Telling your dad will only upset him and make it more difficult for him to have a regular relationship. No, a regular life.

Every healthy parent/child relationship is defined by open and honest communication. Continuing to maintain a relationship with her father w/o talking about her feelings won't create an opportunity for the issue to be resolved. By talking to her father, he will be able to share his feelings about his new relationship. She will also have the opportunity to talk about the change in their relationship.

The g/f is only illuminating the issue. Although she is the focal point of hatred, she is not doing anything to create ill-will other than existing in a relationship w/ this girl's father. Again, the father/daughter relationship is the core of the issue.

[toodlepops.]

Well, put up with her for a while. I mean, your dad is happy.
Tell him you don't like her after she starts doing something you really don't like.

[Shahin]

Tell him you don't like her? Maybe he'll tell her, and she'll f*uck off?

[Xprezsion]

Yea, that happened to me, only he married her and became business partners with her in their clothing business. IF she is a really cold hearted person, time will tell and hopefully he will figure it out (like my dad did, cause they got divorced). I found it really hard to approach him and say I didn't like her, because I felt like if he was happy, it shouldn't be my place to try and end it.

[ApocalypseAelis]

Try talking to both of them seperately. Maybe the gf really wants you to like her, but doesn't realize she's doing the wrong thing. Talk to your dad about how you feel. Don't let any jealousy come in your talk to make your opinions biased. Don't worry, it'll be fine in the end. My dad had a girlfriend too before. She was pretty nice to me...

[shereyol]

if you don't give her a chance, you'll never know the good side of her.