what do you when u feel like, youre losing your best friend? Options

[shesindreamland_...]

i dont know what it is. its just that it feels like me and her arent best friends anymore. i mean we still talk and everything but it just feels so different.

like she used to call me up every single day and we could talk and laugh really hard for hours. now she doesnt call me at all and when i call her, our conversations seem all dull and theres tons of silences.

i remember before the second i signed on AIM, shed IM me. i mean..i dunno, i just want to see if shed still do that so i wait a while for her IM. but then she never does, so i just give up and IM her. and even THATS not the same. on AIM we used to have lots of fun convos where we would go like "AHAHAHHA" a lot cause it was so funny. now its just a bunch of "lol .. i see" and stuff like that.

and the way she acted with me before, she treated me like i was the best friend ever. we even said that we'd try to be friends as long as possible and that we'd be very careful so nothing bad would happen to our friendship.

and we've only been friends for not even up to a year yet. only like, nine months. and it already feels like we're barely friends.

i mean i dont want this to keep happening to me. this whole 'having a different best friend' every single year. i know that life changes and all that, but i dont want to keep changing my best friend. its just too weird

so what do i do? i know that if i talk to her it'll just make things weirder. ehhh

[CHemicalreaction]

I understand where your coming from..
Something similar is happening between me and my best friend. If you want to revive the friendship you should start making plans to hang out or think of stuff to say when your on the phone. because maybe if you guys hang out she'll realize just how much fun you guys had or just how close the the two of you were and she'll make time for you.. I dont know what else to tell you..But good luck and i hope everything works out for the best.

[shortiiex]

you two probably need space since you two use to talk to eachother everyday...wait for a few weeks then go party with her show her the good time you two had

[pinayprincess]

the times when i loose my friend is when im spending a bunch of time with my boyfriend, instead of her... i know that sounds mean, but yeah that happened... thats when our friendship always gets into a fight and stuff... at times im like w/e because i have a boyfriend... but then i realize [like later that day] that i must be selfish or mean to be like that... so in the end, we're friends again

[*mzkandi*]

I am going through this with a friend right now. She was best friend (almost like a sister to me) for almost 5-6 years and then we came to college and wasnt the same. I pretty much given up on any attempts at trying to rekindle the relationship even though I do really wish I could talk to her. I suggest you talk to your friend about it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

talk to her alone.
this has happened to me since 3rd grade. you'll find one best friend for life eventually.

[elaboratedream]

yay, I beat sprinkle the stars

COMUNICATION

tell her you feel like you guys aren't as close as you used to be. ask her why. she might not have realized what's going on.

[aera]

^thats what sprinkle the stars says... and you spelled it wrong.

i was going through that with one of my best guy friends... until i found out that he was trying to impress his crush -__- after it got out and stuff, we were back to normal again =]

[elaboratedream]

^thats what sprinkle the stars says... and you spelled it wrong.

yeah, I know... I wanted to beat her to it once... and I suck at spelling

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

yeah, I know... I wanted to beat her to it once... and I suck at spelling

yay im not the only one with that goal!
oh and that was the same with me n my friend...now we are worst enemies...but u should really try to find out whats wrong because when i tried i was too late =(

[Teesa]

you guys seriously need a heart-to-heart talk. just let everything out.
trust me, I thought I lost a really good friend of mine, but after a couple hours on the phone, it was all okay.

[technicolour]

WHY ON EARTH DOES EVERYONE WANT TO STEAL MY LINE?!

If you have to result into stealing other people's lines, then seriously, get a life.

AND YOU SPELT IT WRONG MY GOD

1. Learn to spell
2. Learn your own material
3. Post @ Cb with your new found knowledge! [/B]

But as some idiot already did, you really need to talk.

[shesindreamland_...]

yea i guess we need to talk.. but i dont want the convo to end up something like this-

me: i think we're growing apart
her: i see
me: ... (wont know what 2 say)

=\ i mean im not good at these heart to heart talks cuz ive never had it with anyone before. like, ever. and im scared that maybe shes mad at me for some reason or maybe even dislikes me .. cuz i kno that she really easily can dislike/get annoyed by a person.

and about the 'you two need space' thing that someone sed earlier, i mean i dunno if thats really it. cause theres this girl who she talks on the phone to nearly every day since like two years ago and they dont have any space and theyre fine. and anyway its not like we've been hanging out too much or anything. ive only seen her like, twice this whole summer. soo yeahh i need help with this >.<

[Death2Smilee]

yay, I beat sprinkle the stars

COMUNICATION

tell her you feel like you guys aren't as close as you used to be. ask her why. she might not have realized what's going on.

Take your own advice, girl.

[Chii]

just try to reconnect. that's what i'm doing, my best friend and i would talk all the time like you and your best friend...but ever since i've been going out with my boyfriend i don't have time...but i'm trying now.

just talk about the things that made you laugh until you pissed your pants, talk about the good old days, then just try to go from there. try to tell her something interesting that happened in your life or the news or something.

[squashie]

this happened to me recently. i told her that i need some time to think. the next day i IMed her and told her that i felt our friendship was drifting apart for some reason. i asked her if she felt that way and why. then we discussed it and now we're better then ever =)