shallow people, i hate it - do you? Options

[timeflies51]

Personally, I can't help but cringe whenever I hear that someone *likes another person only for their looks and not for their personality or who they truly are. Sure, it's okay to think somebody is good-looking, but I think it's ridiculous for that to be the only reason someone would like them. It also annoys me when someone says, "I like them sooooooo much" and they've never or barely even talked to the person. (*Note: When I say "like" I mean as in a crush, or like-like, or whatever, not just saying, "Oh, s/he's hot.")

I just recently went to a sleepaway summer camp where relationships were the big thing. (As they say, "Jew camp is for lovers.") I could never keep track of who was going out with who and who broke up with who and who was making out/hooking up with who. I even had a friend who hooked up with a different guy every night, four nights in a row. I was deathly pissed at her, because that is just...sickening! What can I say? It's shallow. And it annoys me.

Usually I find that I begin to like someone after I really get to know them and have talked with them a lot - a taste of their personality. Looks can help, I suppose, as it's human nature to be attracted, but I think in a partner looks are a but a bonus.

I know I can't control the fact that people are like this, but does anyone share the same opinion?

[visualfusion]

They'll grow up.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

Yes, but as you said, it is human nature to go for the people who you are attacted the most, so I don't entirely think its' all bad.

[*anubis*]

there's nothing wrong with that if you just met the person.

it's not like some people would be superly attracted to a fugly person. it's like, okay--people always hook up accordingly to looks first (if you weren't friends to begin with).. that's what draws a person in. looks.

but what keeps a person in later in the relationship might be the personality inside. if the person is dumb as a f**king skull or as dull as a rock and the person still stays with him/her for looks, then that might be shallow.

but when you say someone likes someone else just for their looks. i'd ask you, "how the f**k else?"

your body, in its natural form, doesn't just select a random person of the opposite (or same, depending on sexual orientation) sex to want. you have to usually like for looks to begin with.

unless you guys started out as friends. then that might be something. but if it's someone you just met/ or don't know yet. then how else?

[yellowgurl]

welll i can understand why your pissed but you cant change a person quoted from what someone said to me.

[xoxoxx]

i'm a bit shallow, but that's only in the beginning when i don't know the person. then i get to know them and decide if i like their personality.

[ItzOnlySydney]

i'm a bit shallow, but that's only in the beginning when i don't know the person. then i get to know them and decide if i like their personality.

yea i think everyones like that becaus e when you first see a guy walking down the street or something it's not possible for the first thing you see to be his personality your going to see his looks.

[iTS PATiLLA xP]

Yea I kind of agree with everyone else.. looks are what attract me first if i'm not friends with them first. I'm usually not that big of a judger on guys except for the ones that just don't try to at LEAST clean themselves up. i mean.. at least take the time to BRUSH THEIR HAIR or put on some chapstick so their lips all stick out like a fish..

Btw.. you said it bugs you when people are shallow because they only like people for the looks. The people at your camp probably aren't being shallow, they sound like they just want a lot of action. Er..

[shortiiex]

i think everyone is shallow..some are more than others
but i think that personality comes first than looks...

[*mipadi*]

I could never keep track of who was going out with who and who broke up with who and who was making out/hooking up with who. I even had a friend who hooked up with a different guy every night, four nights in a row. I was deathly pissed at her, because that is just...sickening! What can I say? It's shallow. And it annoys me.

I can't subscribe to the view that this is necessarily a "bad thing". If both parties are of the understanding that the "relationship" (fling?) is highly transient in nature, I honestly see nothing wrong with two people "hooking up", as long as it is done somewhat responsibly.

[breakingdawn]

I look for personality rather than looks. Because once you see who the person is on the inside, you have a better view on who they are on the outside.

[pinayprincess]

i dont think ANYBODY at this time will like somebody with out like how they look... [well i guess i speak for myself].. but your right though... like the dude might look cute, but his personality might suck... & then there are other times where the personality is good, but his appearence may suck... or there might be both.. either way, people have different reasons to like a person

[ishowernaked]

im pretty shallow... to tell you the truth I would NOT go out with anyone who doesn't have looks.

[technicolour]

^ Yea. He's a jerk. We've known that.

Seriously, there are those people and it sucks. Frankly, it's human nature to be assholes. It sucks, but, unfortunately there's too many in the world to do anything about them.

[ANG33ZY]

Yes I completely agree with you. They'll just have to learn the hard way.

[*mipadi*]

^ Yea. He's a jerk. We've known that.

Seriously, there are those people and it sucks. Frankly, it's human nature to be assholes. It sucks, but, unfortunately there's too many in the world to do anything about them.

Oh, come now, let's be honest--no one is going to date someone they find ugly.

Now, of course, people have widely varied views of what is attractive. Someone I might find positively ugly, another might find very nice looking. And I think personality does play a part; there have been some girls I have met that I thought, "Meh, she's okay, nothing spectacular," then got to know them, found out they were really, really cool, took a second look, and thought, "Hey, she actually is kind of cute." Sometimes you don't notice how nice a person looks until you know them well, and getting to know a person well is more dependent on personality than looks. But the notion that a person will completely disregard looks and date someone based purely on personality, even if they find that person ugly, is, to me, absurd.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

i agree with you, but thats just how some people are. i have to say so myself i get attracted by looks but i stay attracted by personality.

[REBELnDISGUISE]

I do. I don't really like shallow people. I've met many in the past and it's like...you just wanna tell them to get a life or something.

[elaboratedream]

I know what you mean. I hate shallow people. I mean, you can't help but think "ooo he's hot" or something like that, but to want to go out with somebody just because of that is stupid.

personally, I only like someone after I've talked to them for awhile. (usually... sometimes I see someone without talking to them much and I'm obsessed with that person for about a week or something like that... or sometimes I sorta know them, but don't talk to them much and I like them... but that never lasts long)

I think it's so stupid when girls go out with guys before they even get to know each other... when a girl does that, she doesn't really like him she like how he looks. (or the other way around 'cause guys do the same thing)

I hate shallow people

[technicolour]

Oh, come now, let's be honest--no one is going to date someone they find ugly.

Now, of course, people have widely varied views of what is attractive. Someone I might find positively ugly, another might find very nice looking. And I think personality does play a part; there have been some girls I have met that I thought, "Meh, she's okay, nothing spectacular," then got to know them, found out they were really, really cool, took a second look, and thought, "Hey, she actually is kind of cute." Sometimes you don't notice how nice a person looks until you know them well, and getting to know a person well is more dependent on personality than looks. But the notion that a person will completely disregard looks and date someone based purely on personality, even if they find that person ugly, is, to me, absurd.

You seriously like bashing me.

I dont go out with guys purely based on looks. No i get to know them first, but there are guys that'll just say, oh she's hot I want that. And that really, well, it's not nice.

The shallowness in people will eventually come around and bite them back in the butt.

[*mipadi*]

You seriously like bashing me.

Bashing you? Look, honey, I'm disagreeing with you, not bashing you. You only choose to take it personally. Bashing you would be attacking you personally, not your argument.

I just find it very hard to believe that anyone, including me or you, will go out with someone they find ugly. Now, that does not mean that a person goes out with the most attractive person they can, irregardless of personality; personality plays a big factor in relationships (or should, anyway). Note that I am not saying you or I, or anyone else, dates people based solely on physical beauty; but I also doubt that you or I or anyone else would describe our partners, past present and future, as "ugly". And as noted, personality can help make a person more attractive; but I seriously do not think that that a person will go out with someone they find unattractive. Again, physical attractiveness is not black and white; something one person finds attractive, another may find completely repulsive; but I think anyone in a relationship generally finds their partner attractive. If you can find someone who thinks their boyfriend or girlfriend is ugly, I'd be very surprised.

Now, someone going out with someone solely based on appearance, no matter how foul their personality, is shallow; but that's a different point entirely.

[Paradox of Life]

Okay. Everyone is shallow to some extent. Looks will matter more to some people. Think of it this way. There are a bunch of people you don't know. 1 of them is spectacular looking, 1 is decent looking, 1 is ugly, and 1 is hideous. Which would you choose first? Obviously the most physically attractive because they have the most potential as someone you'd want to hang out with.

You're shallow too and if you say "No, I judge ONLY by personality", you are lying.

[technicolour]

Did I ever say that I judge purely on personality? No. I didnt....

[Paradox of Life]

Did I ever say that I judge purely on personality? No. I didnt....

That wasn't directed at you.

[technicolour]

Oh. Well. Oops.


Alright. I'll try to sum up what we've been arguing about.

Ok. having a good personality can make the person seem 'hotter..cuter whatever'.

people who judge/go out with a person for only their looks, that's shallow.


Did I get it right, honey?

[*mipadi*]

Oh. Well. Oops.
Alright. I'll try to sum up what we've been arguing about.

Ok. having a good personality can make the person seem 'hotter..cuter whatever'.

people who judge/go out with a person for only their looks, that's shallow.
Did I get it right, honey?

I'm glad you understand my point now, dear.

[technicolour]

your point? That's Katt's [i believe that's her name], mine, and yours, sweetie.

[*mipadi*]

your point? That's Katt's [i believe that's her name], mine, and yours, sweetie.

Why the bitterness, cupcake? Is it because I ate crackers in the bed again?

[technicolour]

Well,darling, to be honest yes. That sodium just isn't doing much for you anymore.

[maia_dc]

Shallow people don't really bug me. I know that I'm shallow, but not enough to act like a ho about it. Sooo I don't know. I just kinda let them be...

[*salcha*]

Why, YES THANK YOU. It pisses me off. The fact that relationships aren't as serious as they were in the older days pisses me off. The fact there are a ton of nice guys out there, ignored. I love a person's personality, but looks aren't bad...

[jue]

totally. looks shouldnt beeverything in a relationship. It should matter but not more then the personality

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

some people can't help it -_-

[CrazayChristian]

BIG TIME


I can't efing stand it, it's farkin re a tarted how people can just ugh.

*Can't type in anger*

[*Tainted Euphoria*]

To be honest, I don't care anymore. People are going to behave the way they want to. That's the way the world works. It's their own fault if they miss out on something great.

[*suddenly she*]

i've found that people become less repulsive when you like their personality. including people of my own gender.

so all in all, try and get to know everybody before you decide how beautiful they are.

[loljuliana]

i admit that i'm pretty shallow myself. but like someone else said; i get attracted by their looks; and stay attracted by their personality.

[*danielle_x3*]

i know many shallow people . . but if they go out with someone just because of their looks, sooner or later they'll realize the mistake they did . . unless that person has a great personality as well. and i do share your opinion. =)

[lilnatcat]

Face it! We're all shallow at one stage in our lives!

[megan_x3]

Look, many people can go out with differen't people at different way they want. Like you, you like to know people and then you will say you like them. But your friend, 4 people in 4 differen't nights, you can't help it. Yes its annoying and it seems like shes a player, but differen't people do it differen't ways. You can't change the way that they'll learn . And Yes, I agree with you that they're annoying that the way they act. But I'm sorta shallow, I'm attracted to their look + their personality. Both ??