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| *Azarel* |
 Jul 18 2005, 04:15 PM
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I think this has already been made before, but I couldn't find the topic.
 Feel free to merge them, though, should the link be found.What do you consider cheating? I think cheating is saying or doing anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other. Crushing is inevitable, but it's whether or not you act on it that defines "cheating." |
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Jul 18 2005, 04:17 PM
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 GREEENROCKS  Group: Member Posts: 1,393 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,624 |
i'd say, dating someone else at the same time
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| *Azarel* |
Jul 18 2005, 04:28 PM
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QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 2:17 PM) i'd say, dating someone else at the same time So let's say your boyfriend kissed another girl, but they didn't go out or date or anything. Would that be cheating? ... I fail to see the logic in your definition. But that might just be me.
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Jul 18 2005, 04:31 PM
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wouldn't dating include kissing and hold hands and whatnot?
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Jul 18 2005, 04:32 PM
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Being disloyal in any way -- in your speech, actions, thoughts, etc. If you want to be in a relationship, you need to be committed.
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Jul 18 2005, 04:34 PM
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when you date, have sexual realtionship with someone else
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| *Azarel* |
Jul 18 2005, 04:34 PM
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QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 2:31 PM) wouldn't dating include kissing and hold hands and whatnot? I suppose it depends on your definition of dating, then. I interpret the term "dating" as a commitment - serious or not - going out on multiple dates is typically what is considered "dating." The theoretical situation I proposed was a one-time thing, but say he had feelings for her and continued to talk to her because he had those feelings. Cheating or not?
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Jul 18 2005, 04:35 PM
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 emaleth Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 169,513 |
cheating is something more than physical action. to me anyways. i think emotional cheating is worse than physical. physical being kissing, sex etc may not always have any emotion behind it rather than being sexually attracted to that person. emotional is when one person is attracted to another on a different level. they feel a connection and often would fantasize about how happy they would be with that person rather than their current beau...this of course can lead to physical cheating...
i ramble.. |
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Jul 18 2005, 04:54 PM
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"I think cheating is saying or doing anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other."--azarel
i have no idea how to quote her correctly like the others but yeah ima have to go with that.. -christina |
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Jul 18 2005, 04:57 PM
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QUOTE The theoretical situation I proposed was a one-time thing, but say he had feelings for her and continued to talk to her because he had those feelings. Cheating or not? talked to her about those feelings or just talking to her? |
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Jul 18 2005, 04:58 PM
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Cheating is from kissing and up with someone other than your significant other. Anything else is just flirting.
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| *Azarel* |
Jul 18 2005, 05:00 PM
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QUOTE(ShOrTy By NaTuR3 @ Jul 18 2005, 2:54 PM) "I think cheating is saying or doing anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other."--azarel Hit [ quote ] at the top right of the post you want to quote. i have no idea how to quote her correctly like the others but yeah ima have to go with that.. -christina  QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 2:57 PM) talked to her about those feelings or just talking to her? Either; his intentions for talking to her are because he wants more.
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Jul 18 2005, 05:00 PM
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QUOTE(allthatglitterss @ Jul 18 2005, 4:32 PM) Being disloyal in any way -- in your speech, actions, thoughts, etc. If you want to be in a relationship, you need to be committed.  couldn't agree with you more. you're chosing to be in the relationship with someone, you should atleast be loyal to them. if your not-- your just waisting their time. |
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Jul 18 2005, 05:03 PM
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QUOTE Either; his intentions for talking to her are because he wants more. in that case, yes. that's definately yes. |
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Jul 18 2005, 05:13 PM
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My definition of cheating is physically being or doing something with another without your partner not knowing about it before it happens. Sometimes, you just cant help thinking about someone else once and awhile. Natural flirting, being nice is ok, but the line is crossed when its more than just being nice.
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Jul 18 2005, 05:15 PM
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QUOTE Natural flirting, being nice is ok, but the line is crossed when its more than just being nice. what would you say is natural flirting? |
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Jul 18 2005, 05:37 PM
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QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 3:15 PM) what would you say is natural flirting? Hard to explain but....I guess it's like being real nice in a way without knowing that you might be too nice. I apoligize if my definition isn't very thorough. |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:38 PM
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-kissing
-going out -having sex... doing more than 1st base behind your boy friend |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:41 PM
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QUOTE(maia_dc @ Jul 18 2005, 4:58 PM) Cheating is from kissing and up with someone other than your significant other. Anything else is just flirting. I concur. |
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Jul 18 2005, 07:47 PM
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QUOTE(maia_dc @ Jul 18 2005, 4:58 PM) Cheating is from kissing and up with someone other than your significant other. Anything else is just flirting. Psh yes. That's it. Completely. |
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Jul 18 2005, 08:46 PM
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QUOTE(Azarel @ Jul 18 2005, 4:15 PM) I think cheating is saying or doing anything you wouldn't do in front of your significant other. Agreed. |
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Jul 18 2005, 08:49 PM
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but your b/f wouldnt flirt with other ppl infront ov you and if he did when you wernt there its not cheating and girls cant act like they never flirt with other guys..i say when he kisses another girl or when he starts seeing a girl that will soon lead to kissing another girl
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Jul 18 2005, 09:09 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 5:31 PM) wouldn't dating include kissing and hold hands and whatnot? it has to be more thorough than that, i hug and kiss my mom, i hope that doesn't count as cheating. i think it's when you do something with the gender you're attracted to that you know you're significant other wouldn't approve of, regardless of telling them or not. especially if you undermine the situation. for example, you tell him you were just hanging out your ex because you're old friends, but you were actually flirting with your ex, giggling about stuff you did with him before you broke up, holding hands, talking about how great it would be if you were still together, etc. |
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Jul 19 2005, 01:19 PM
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i think cheating if that you would feel guilty or do not want your boyfriend/girlfriend to see you doing with another person.
really depends on the relationship. at first my boyfriend found it uncomfortable to see me hugging other guys. but then again i hug everyone, so he's fine with it now =) |
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Jul 19 2005, 01:23 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(elmogurly @ Jul 18 2005, 3:31 PM) wouldn't dating include kissing and hold hands and whatnot? Dating is different from showing affection. You might not be attracted to a person, but you'd still kiss them. Understand? Cheating isn't something that is proclaimed. If you are not loyal to your significant other and you are doing something that would break their trust, your actions could be considered cheating. |
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Jul 19 2005, 09:17 PM
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i agree with you. being disloyal pretty sums it all up.
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| *disco infiltrator* |
Jul 20 2005, 01:50 AM
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Well, someone else had said even flirting is cheating, but I definitely don't think that constitutes as cheating..
Something like saying, "If I wasn't with Mr. A, I would date you, Mr. B." I think is close to cheating, but not necessarily cheating. It is being disloyal, but I consider cheating dating two people at the same time and/or kissing, holding hands, etc..doing things that couples are who are dating normally do. I don't consider liking someone else cheating, either. Even telling them is OK, since it's always better for people to know those kinds of things, as long as you don't do anything about it. If they know you have someone else, and they continue to pursue you, that happens, but as long as you don't act on that, it's not cheating. They can say whatever they want, sure, but if you don't provoke them to do so in the first place, then that's OK. |
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| *mipadi* |
Jul 20 2005, 07:59 AM
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QUOTE(allthatglitterss @ Jul 18 2005, 5:32 PM) Being disloyal in any way -- in your speech, actions, thoughts, etc. If you want to be in a relationship, you need to be committed. So say I'm in a relationship. One day, I'm walking downtown, and see a pretty girl, and think, "Hey, she's kind of pretty." Does that constitute cheating because I thought someone else was attractive? |
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| *incoherent* |
Jul 20 2005, 11:51 PM
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QUOTE wouldn't dating include kissing and hold hands and whatnot? no, theres people that just date and have a good time. |
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Jul 20 2005, 11:55 PM
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I'd say cheating is when your talking to someone initimatly when you're in a relationship..& you know everything past talking itimately to another person is cheating...but if your jusst hanging out with one of your friends of the opposite sex of you than I think thats cool...but sometimes boyfriends/girlfriends compare to rough play & name calling & flirting...
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Jul 22 2005, 12:53 PM
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one of my exs and i actually broke up over this. my def. of cheating is like flirting excessivly, holding hands or kissing someone else and his was more like, dating someone else at the same time...
it just depends on the person, how they think, and what they think they should be able to get away with! |
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Jul 22 2005, 12:54 PM
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one of my exs and i actually broke up over this. my def. of cheating is like flirting excessivly, holding hands or kissing someone else and his was more like, dating someone else at the same time...
it just depends on the person, how they think, and what they think they should be able to get away with! |
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