I Like Someone, Should I tell him? Options

[Raiu]

It's like this, I'm bisexual and recently I've developed a crush on my best friend. Sure I only know him three years but he's always there for me. He knows I act differently around him now but I won't tell him why. Please help cause I don't want to lose him as a friend if I tell him.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

oh dang.
i think if you told him it would be awkward for him. and it actually would change your relationship. he would be uneasy around you , i think. this happened to me. im still really good friends with the girl, and after a while i felt like things were back to normal, altho she liked girls and me.

if you feel you should tell him, you should. if hes your best friend he might feel a bit weird but eventually he should get over it and see you as nothing else but the friend hes had for years.

but as him returning your feelings, that might be hard. hes not gay or bi either is he ? cos if he is then it wouldnt be that much awkward if ou told him. if hes striaght then .. ^ what i explained up there.

but maybe he wont be weird or awkward.
good luck xD

[*anubis*]

unless he's gay or bisexual or something---most likely, he will kinda flip out.

i'd say not to tell him. unless you knew for sure he liked you back or, wasn't so straight either.

otherwise, he'll never be able to see you as the same.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Well I recently came out too and my friends were really shocked (the close ones) and were like OMG WTF and started freaking out and haven't talked to me. Unless you absolutley trust him you shouldn't tell him and if he's that good of a friend then you should tell him the truth. Who wants to be next to this guy that you want for like...every and them not knowing it. It's better if they know and are willing to accept it then if they know and they become your worst enemy and you enver want to talk to them again.

[Raiu]

Well, I told him! (If you're wondering why that was fast it's because he lives 5 doors down) He kind of freaked out then, get this, he shook my hand and said "I'm glad you told me and I'm still gonna be your friend." I might see if I can turn him. If anyone thinks that's wrong let me know!

[Paradox of Life]

Unless he's gay/bi keep it on the DL.

True that. If my best friend (female) told me she was in love with me, I would be scared out of my wits. I'm not a homophobe or anything, but I'd feel kind of bad that she expected so much from me when I could give nothing in return. Keep it to yourself if he won't like you back. This is a really bad situation, but do whatever you think is right. I think you two should remain best friends and nothing more. Wait until you find someone who's really willing to go out with you and you don't have to hesitate like you're doing now.

[enyceXaddiction]

well the sooner you tell him the better. but try not to show it alot cause then its just going to freak him out

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

omgosh, CONGRATS FOR TELLIN HiM !!!

i dont think you should try to turn him. eventually there will be another boy who will come along who can return the feelings. but if you really feel you were meant to be.. do what you can. but think about what he wants and needs and such.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

Hmm..the fact that he accepts it makes him a pretty good friend. I dont think you should purposely "turn" him, but thats just me.

[HoodieObsessed]

Unless he's gay/bi keep it on the DL.

agreed.

If one of my girlfriends told me they were lesbien and they had a crush on me I'd TOTTALLY flip out. I'd seriusly start freaking out.

EDIT

Oh okay, you already told him.

He sounds like he's a really nice guy by the way he reacted but I don't think it's a great idea to try to turn him. It's like trying to convert someone from one religion to the other, I don't think it'll really do wonders for your relationship

[*mipadi*]

I might see if I can turn him. If anyone thinks that's wrong let me know!

It is. People can't change their sexuality on a snap, and if you're a friend, you won't try to "turn him." He already reacted pretty well, given the circumstances, and said he still wants to be your friend; but if you try to turn him, I highly doubt that that will end up going nearly as well.

[*disco infiltrator*]

That would definitely be wrong. You're bisexual yourself; you should know you can't help your sexuality. It just is. If he's straight, he's straight, and that's that.

[technicolour]

It is. People can't change their sexuality on a snap, and if you're a friend, you won't try to "turn him." He already reacted pretty well, given the circumstances, and said he still wants to be your friend; but if you try to turn him, I highly doubt that that will end up going nearly as well.

Yup yup. Can't turn straight ppl to gay. It's just...hard.

[one_lub_4_eva]

don't tell him, cuz he'll ignore u and stop chillin with u

[dahding]

don't just explode with all of a sudden, "i'm bi and i want to date u." break it to him slowlllly. if u all of a sudden like, dry-hump him or start being really flirty, u'll make him shit his pants. don't try to turn him on. u'll just scare him.

[*disco infiltrator*]

Guys, he already told him.....

[urbz]

i would say tell him.. he might convert (if he isnt already???) he will still be your friend most likely

[lost_destiny]

uhh no

[elmogurly]

just let him absorb it and try not to pressure him.

[Bobblehead425]

hm....try asking him out and if he rejects, just forget it and go on with your friendship so nothing gets akward

[broken inside]

My friend did that to her best friend. Everything was akward...

[PrincessAda]

If he`s gay go for it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

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