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 Jul 15 2005, 10:45 PM
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 (′ ･ω･｀)  Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477  |
around two days ago was my dad's birthday. so i made him a card that's got a pop up cake and candles
 ..it also wrote how old he's turning. then today. he gave it back and said "i dont want this. who needs birthday cards? where am i going to keep them? you take it back"  we always had this bad relationship. on my birthday and the whole family was celebrating, wen hes by the window talking to his friends and watching the tv. making him eat the cake was like feeding someone cow dung. he always shouted me for the smallest things and she likes my sister way better than me. i dunno wat to do.. 
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Jul 16 2005, 03:07 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
I'm so sorry that happened to u..
 just ignore the fact that he did that...well u cant really do anything about it, its not ur fault he did that..its ur dads..in the mean time, try to better your relationship with ur dad..even if it seems like it isnt getting better..good luck! 
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| *anubis* |
Jul 16 2005, 03:32 AM
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dude. that's soooo cruel!
 jesus... i mean-- why the hell would a father do that towards something his own daughter spent time to make just to try and make his birthday happier. that's pretty fcuked up. and he wasn't celebrating with you on your birthday? i don't know what to say.. i mean--everyone should always love their parents, regardless of what ever happens because: they're your parents. like.. i was hit pretty badly when i was a kid, but i still love my parents very very much. i guess you really got your feelings hurt, eh? i'm just surprised you'd still care so much when he obviously shows no sign of it. sorry is all i can say 
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Jul 16 2005, 03:44 AM
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 GREEENROCKS Group: Member Posts: 1,393 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,624 |
ohh, that's so sad. ask your mom for advice (since she know the guy!)
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Jul 16 2005, 04:05 AM
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(′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
actually theres this problem between my mom and dad too..if it werent for me and my sister they would haf divorced..
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Jul 16 2005, 02:11 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
^ thats how my parents are. they constantly yell at eachother [ or me and my brother ] wait til the kids are both 16 [sometimes they say 18] im leaving you.
i watch their marriage crumble more and more. my mom is a sorry excuse for a woman cowering in my dads abusive shadow. theyre both pathetic. i hate them =] im sorry your dad did that to you, i know how that feels. when i was like 7 i gave my dad a painting i made and he said why would i need this and threw it in the garbage in front of my face. things like that have happened all my life. if you WANT a better relationship with your dad, talk to him tell him that he hurt you doing that. if your like me, and really couldnt give a flying rats butt, go on with your life. but i suggest you talk to him. |
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| *anubis* |
Jul 16 2005, 02:25 PM
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QUOTE(hiphop junkie @ Jul 16 2005, 1:11 PM) when i was like 7 i gave my dad a painting i made and he said why would i need this and threw it in the garbage in front of my face. things like that have happened all my life.  that's fcuked upp... what kinda dad is that? |
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Jul 16 2005, 02:52 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
that's a lot better then my dad. i gave him a birthday card i was working forever on and it was perfect. the next morning i find it ripped in a million pieces in the living room...he doesnt even bother to say anything about it...
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Jul 16 2005, 03:45 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
^Wow, your sig is a bit big...
QUOTE(Lo Mein @ Jul 16 2005, 1:52 PM) that's a lot better then my dad. i gave him a birthday card i was working forever on and it was perfect. the next morning i find it ripped in a million pieces in the living room...he doesnt even bother to say anything about it... Wow, that's crazy. Your dad is inconsiderate AND he litters! It's hard to give you any advice when I don't have such a good relationship with my dad either. Like as I'm typing he's crying and making himself look pitiful because the dog is nibbling him. He ALWAYS wants people to feel sorry for him and give him attention and etcetera, but he never gives it appropriately in return. And I mean, he's just a puppy and he nibbles at me all the time. Yeah, I guess I'm just ranting and blabbering now. If you feel comfortable enough to talk to him, I'd encourage you to have a 1 on 1 with him and sort things out. And if you're thinking why I "haven't" done this already, the answer is I have many times and he ends up yelling at me and verbally beating me into a bloody pulp. |
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Jul 16 2005, 03:52 PM
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 Proud to be an Anime Otaku Group: Member Posts: 667 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,004 |
My Dad, I have good realtionship with him, but he's f**ked up in the head. No one in my family wnats anything to do with him, I'm sorry he did that to you, sometime speople are incosiderate, even parents, tell me how much it hurt you. If he doesn't listren, well, I don't know....sorry I wasn't much help was I?
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Jul 16 2005, 06:42 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
oof thats kinda rough. well talk to your mom or sister about this. or just go straight up and talk to your dad.
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Jul 16 2005, 09:21 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
Well I'm not sure about you, but what I look forward to is that I only have 2 more years (I'm going to be a junior in september) with that filthy mother effer and then I can be my own person and don't have to see him. Hopefully you're in high school and you would be able to get out of the house for good =)
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Jul 16 2005, 10:20 PM
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Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
QUOTE And if you're thinking why I "haven't" done this already, the answer is I have many times and he ends up yelling at me and verbally beating me into a bloody pulp. sounds like my dad and mom.except sometimes i run and my dads not very...erm fit and he cant catch up. so i get away. well, just talk to you dad if you want to change the relationship. |
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Jul 16 2005, 11:48 PM
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If you are willing, I think you should confront him on why he treats you this bad. If he doesn't want to talk about it, you can ask your mother for help.
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Jul 17 2005, 01:18 AM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
QUOTE(anubis @ Jul 16 2005, 12:32 AM) dude. that's soooo cruel! jesus... i mean-- why the hell would a father do that towards something his own daughter spent time to make just to try and make his birthday happier. that's pretty fcuked up. and he wasn't celebrating with you on your birthday? i don't know what to say.. i mean--everyone should always love their parents, regardless of what ever happens because: they're your parents. like.. i was hit pretty badly when i was a kid, but i still love my parents very very much. i guess you really got your feelings hurt, eh? i'm just surprised you'd still care so much when he obviously shows no sign of it. sorry is all i can say I agree, that was really mean of your father, and I feel really bad for you maybe you should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.good luck and cheer up
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Jul 17 2005, 01:23 AM
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 Mr.Charismatic Group: Member Posts: 175 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,383 |
I think he needs counseling
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Jul 17 2005, 01:25 AM
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 i <3 peter Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,825 |
Yes, I have a bad relationship with my father, too.
 I've been through alot of things, and I don't like being with my Dad alone because he tends to yell at me in public or threaten to hit me in front of my friends. When he and my mother get divorced next year, it's gonna be hard for me to tell him I don't like being with him without my Mom or sister. I think your best choice is to just stay out of his way for awhile until you think you can handle it again, or move out, whichever comes first. I gave my Dad a birthday card once. And I was the only one, so he told me thank you and it made my month.  He still hates my art, though. 
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Jul 17 2005, 04:11 AM
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(′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
awww...thanks guys
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Jul 17 2005, 05:49 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
You could always hug him when he just woke up. |
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Jul 17 2005, 09:37 AM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(icy_wonderland @ Jul 16 2005, 5:05 AM) actually theres this problem between my mom and dad too..if it werent for me and my sister they would haf divorced.. your half sister is probably has half ofyour dad's blood and not your mom's right? i hate it when people play favorites...i hate it how my mom hates my half brothers and talks so much sh*t about them...  to all of you people...just don't take things like this to heart, just try to have a "whatever" attitude, you tried your best to give him a happy birthday. he should love whatever it is you made him whether it's something you just made in 2 seconds because you took time out of your life to do something for him. it's not your fault he's just being as ass about everything if he doesn't try to be a real father than it's his loss for missing out on getting to know some really great people. |
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Jul 17 2005, 12:33 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
QUOTE(anubis @ Jul 16 2005, 3:32 AM) dude. that's soooo cruel! jesus... i mean-- why the hell would a father do that towards something his own daughter spent time to make just to try and make his birthday happier. that's pretty fcuked up. and he wasn't celebrating with you on your birthday? i don't know what to say.. i mean--everyone should always love their parents, regardless of what ever happens because: they're your parents. like.. i was hit pretty badly when i was a kid, but i still love my parents very very much. i guess you really got your feelings hurt, eh? i'm just surprised you'd still care so much when he obviously shows no sign of it. sorry is all i can say Agreed. That's just cruel and WTF?!. I'm so sorry  .
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Jul 18 2005, 12:18 AM
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(′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
QUOTE(chii @ Jul 17 2005, 10:37 PM) your half sister is probably has half ofyour dad's blood and not your mom's right? oh no shes not a half sister, its just that..i have very different personalities from my mom,dad and sister, and my sister is better academically (sp?) so they like her a lot more.. |
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Jul 18 2005, 12:20 AM
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 URBZ rock Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 176,761 |
tell him how you feel and get it out... speak your mind and it might settle.
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