this break up was hard, *tear Options

[sweetest-emotion]

so me and my bf broke up, but here's the "excuse" he gave me...: he's not ready for a girlfriend.....umm alright ....he's 17 for god's sake. and i dunno what went wrong. we were like perfect in the beginning. he was perfect. i liked him for the fact that he wasn't afraid to be with me...guess i was wrong. i know i should let go, and i'm trying, but i honestly think he was my first love. my friends say that we didn't really have ne thing in common, but when it ws just us two, it was magical. emotions filled up in me that i never felt b4. THIS SUX ASS!
soo...was his explination logical? how can i get over him?? and how can i meet new guys??

[aera]

if he wasnt ready for a girlfriend, then why did he get with you in the first place? his reason doesnt make sense. since you said he was 17, i'll assume you are too. youre in high school. im sure there are other guys in your school other then him.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Maybe he was afraid of commintment or something because you two sounded like you were really good together. Not like...total commitment but maybe he started thinking about it and needed to end it? Don't worry though, you always have people here to comfort you so don't get too down about it. If he doesn't want to be with you, then you are much better off with someone else because he's just not worth it .

Here...a flower =)

[kill me please]

maybe he wanted to end it and only could come up with a lame excuse. just try and forget about him.. you can do better. im sure theres lots of other guys at your school .

[mouse_3k]

maybe he just wanted to get away. give yourself time and u will get ova it.

[lilJdawg]

That's stupid. If he wasn't ready for a GF, then why did he ask you out. Boys' these days. Yeah, juhs hang out with your friends or do something fun to get your mind off of him. Yes, you will be able to move on & find a better guy. There are more guys out there.

[teeners4]

yea that sucks. yea i think he was just thinking too much. maybe he got paranoid and was thinking "why would she go out with me if there are so many other guys out there? like ____ and _____" ya know? so it's kinda like a commitment problem and self-esteem problem. it just sucks that he couldnt talk to you about it =|

[ikn0w ur m0m]

Hey dont really worry about him. Me and my g/f jus broke up for that reason..as she says..Its for a diff reason tho so i wouldnt really listen to him. And jus dont think about him beacuse that is the worst thing. It makes you over focesed. Does he stay taht he still lykes you tho?

[ishowernaked]

did you ask him why?

[silver-rain]

That was almost the same reason my ex gave me when we broke up... But I say you'll get over it. There are plenty of other guys out there that are better. Don't think about him, concentrate on other things.

[daintyme]

i'm sorry.

his explanation doesn't seem plausible. you'll get over it like linke3 says but judging from the way you talked about it, it'll take a while.

[pinayprincess]

he was just giving a lame excuse to break up with you "like that"... you should talk to him and ask him the real reason why... every girl knows that THAT wasnt the real reason

[SimplicityGirl]

Heh. That was the reason my ex broke up with me, because he wasn't "ready" for a bf/gf relationship with a girl and yet he managed to ask me out... makes you wonder about boys doesn't it?

Anyway, just get over him. Find a new guy to obsess over. Distract yourself. And ifyou really want to, go ask him for a reason, but if I were you I wouldn't.

[JulianPassone]

sigh... us guys are such jerks... let me tell you. But see, some aren't. And your guy is just around the corner... (not on the corner, but, you know what i mean, right?) and i know you will find this perfect guy for you. I can promise you that. But, to find him,... you mustn't look down, cause your true love will pass by. So look up, with joy, and face the world, and dont be scared of it. We all go through rough times,... and its ok to remember them, just dont let them get to your head.

Bottom Line; This guy didn't love you unconditionaly, cause if he did, he would've gone till the end with you, even if he was too young. I know it hurts to hear this. To hear that this guy didn't really love you. But, you've got plenty of people here loving you as a friend. Keep your head up and strong, and keep your ground.

Much Love,
Julian Passone

Ill be around if you need anything. You'll get through this. I know you can.

[technicolour]

I think he has commitment issues.

[*mipadi*]

Bottom Line; This guy didn't love you unconditionaly, cause if he did, he would've gone till the end with you, even if he was too young. I know it hurts to hear this. To hear that this guy didn't really love you. But, you've got plenty of people here loving you as a friend. Keep your head up and strong, and keep your ground.

I think that's exactly the problem here.

Before you condemn the guy as a total a-hole, keep it mind that high school students view relationships differently--and there are big differences in how girls view relationships. Girls seem to take them way more seriously than guys. Guys are just out to have some fun, more often than not, but geez--a lot of girls seem to have planned out their weddings and future life by the time they are 16! I'm not saying you are that type of girl, but you were probably more into it than him. Doesn't make him a bad person, just means you had different views on relationships.

Look on the bright side: he could've gone out and messed around with other people while still professing to be your boyfriend. Then he would've been an ass. At least he had the courtesy to tell you straight up that the commitment was too much, and if you wanted a committed relationship, it would be best to look elsewhere.

Keep you head up. You won't find anyone else moping around (not that you are). Just go out with friends, keep your eyes open for someone, and you'll undoubtedly find him. Good luck.

[enyceXaddiction]

hes 17, that doesnt mean hes 100% ready. someone can be over 20 years old and they still might not be ready for a relationship. every person is different. but i suggest you talk to him.

[xldubaliciousx]

Well it depends how long you guys were going out. Saying "I'm not ready for a relationship" when it's been like 3 months is freaking mg094ng. But if it's been only a few weeks then maybe he meant it as "I'm still not recovered from my last relationship.."

But who really knows with guys anyways?

[*suddenly she*]

hey, it's possible that he wasn't ready.

i have a friend who's about 19 (i've known him ever since i was born) who had a girlfriend for a couple months and he told me he wasn't really ready either. he's an amazing and honest person, so i doubt he's lying.

and how do you meet guys? well, you talk to them.

[angelrevelation]

maybe he honestly wasn't ready. but there can be a whole lot of reasons why he broke it off... he doesnt like you anymore and likes someone else, he just got bored of the relationship, the usual stuff. if you really want to know, talk to him sometime and ask him. hopefully it isn't awkward.

[crazi_in_love_08]

hi .. this happened to me too .. i say just forget about him ... hes not worth it if hes gonna do this to u ..

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

go on a night out with the girls and flirt with a guy. dont think about this dude cos it will prevent you from making a new relationship and you wont feel right tryna get with other guys. just let him go. if he wasnt ready, then you shouldnt be standing around to wait until he is.

go have fun

[sailorsky9]

maybe he thought he was ready for a gf when he asked you out...but then realized he wasnt. people change. they even change in the middle of relationships. *surprise*

it'll be tough but you'll get over him. yeahh...go have fun!