would you marry your first date?, meaning you frist gf/bf... Options

[Biblesterr743]

i dont know if there is already a thread on this but here it goes!

i think its cool to get married to your frist gf/ bf... if its really meant to be.

what do you think?

[*disco infiltrator*]

Hrm, if I truly loved them. I would probably date other people first though, to be sure.

[*takingbacksandy*]

hell no i wouldn't. it's not meant to be.

[xFaith]

nope i wouldnt.. i dont believe in that meant to be shit :P if i REALLY REALLY love him, i maybe would.. but why marry? bf & gf is fine too right xD

[*danielle_x3*]

My first boyfriend? no. I don't even talk to him anymore lol

[lilJdawg]

No, your first boyfriend or girlfriend isn't likely the one your going to get married with.

[*mipadi*]

You really should date other people first.

[*Azarel*]

As idealistic as that seems, no. My first date was a jerk; he wanted to screw after less than two weeks of getting to know each other. .... I was in eighth grade, he was in ninth. What a loser.

[*anubis*]

i don't see anything wrong with doing that. i mean--yeah some people will be like "you have to date around to see who you really are ment to be with--who you match more with" but sometimes, your first one is the best one you've ever had. maybe the rest are just going to be bitches.

so, if it really felt right to me, yeah, i would

[avalon*]

If he's "courting" me..and if I like him..and I hope I don't have to date too many people to find the person I'm going to marry..

[*mipadi*]

If he's "courting" me..and if I like him..and I hope I don't have to date too many people to find the person I'm going to marry..

Yeah, cause you don't want to have to put a whole lot of effort into the marriage thing--why not just get it over and done with?

[avalon*]

Okayyyy...that's not what I meant. But whatever.

I meant that I don't want to date too many other people and give my heart away to them and have nothing left to give the person I'm gonna marry..

[*anubis*]

Okayyyy...that's not what I meant. But whatever.

I meant that I don't want to date too many other people and give my heart away to them and have nothing left to give the person I'm gonna marry..

ooh she's got a point there

[technicolour]

Hell no. He was a jerk. Still IS a jerk. I'd die.

[SimplicityGirl]

My first boyfriend? He played with my heart and broke it into a million pieces. And we don't even talk anymore, so no, I wouldn't marry him. I think i'd die if I did.

But if your first date was perfect for you, then why not? It's romantic ^^ However, I believed in the dating more than one person to find your match thing; variety is always good.

[*stephinika*]

ehh...no. he's a nice guy and all but...no. he's still a friend of mine though. but yeah, that was back in freshman year and i just don't see that happening...for some, it may be possible if they are that lucky with their first pick. *shrug*

[Smilessss]

nah..i dont really think so...cuz... mi first bf...i dont really wanna talk about it...but no i dont believe it..

[silver-rain]

Hmm, probably not. We never talk anymore and he ignores me. And, I would rather marry my current boyfriend, whom I love very much.

[Paradox of Life]

Is this in general or are you specifically asking about "our first date"? I'd marry whoever I thought was right, regardless of it was the first or last person I dated. Specifically, HELL NO, I would not marry my first boyfriend if he were the last human on earth.

[enyceXaddiction]

of course. but only if you're meant to be.

[*Azarel*]

Also, a cliche line from Affirmation that definitely plays into this:
"I believe you can't appreciate real love 'til you've been burned."

Part of the reason why I said no.

[SillyCourtney]

No, I would not. But, in general terms, if I *truly* loved them, then yes I would. But as for my first boyfriend, I love him and all, but as a friend. I could never marry him.

[cleec]

The whole Highschool Sweetheart thing is very sketchy to me. I think that in some point during the relationship, the two should take a break for a while to date around and see what they are missing, or what they aren't missing. I think this secures the relationship and doesn't leave you wondering mid-marrige "what could have been"

[Chii]

no..if i wanted to marry him, i'd still be dating him.

i agree

my first boyfriend was nice but we're just too different...most people don't end up with their first boyfriend/girlfriend because they're usually young and only dated each other for the wrong reasons...or as the mature they grow apart.

[angelrevelation]

my parents were their first bf/gf. but i think it's really rare nowadays. it's be sort of cool and romantic though

[mouse_3k]

no..hell no...if your first gf/bf broke up then its ment to be that you two just stay seperated unless its some The Notebook story, its just best to move on...if it was your first LOVE, then thts a different story

[WhiteLotus*]

Hm. I might marry my first boyfriend, but it depends if I reallllllly love him and if I realy want to spend the rest of my life with him. I'm not sure at this point. I think I love him, but I don't know if he's Mr. Right.

[MeanBastard]

As idealistic as that seems, no. My first date was a jerk; he wanted to screw after less than two weeks of getting to know each other. .... I was in eighth grade, he was in ninth. What a loser.

You mean Eddy?

[*Azarel*]

You mean Eddy?

.... Eddy wasn't my first.

[xldubaliciousx]

I guess that's pretty cool. But I think it'd be even better if the two people had a time where they dated other people. That way, they can realize how much they care about eachother..

[kill me please]

uh no. because for the most part, your first is never your last.

[nosuntoday]

i dont know if there is already a thread on this but here it goes!

i think its cool to get married to your frist gf/ bf...  if its really meant to be.

what do you think?

if its love its love. and it takes you from there.

[betrayedbytheduc...]

sure, it's cool
but i think people need more experience with others so they know what kind of situations/problems to handle

it's also more exciting to date more people so yeaaah..

[toodlepops.]

Eurgh, I don't think so. Who knows, after the wedding, he would turn in to some hulk-ish dude.

[demolished]

nope. it could be deadly wrongful.

[sailorsky9]

nope. it could be deadly wrongful.

marrying anyone COULD be deadly wrongful

[pinklove_stains]

well, everyone has different points here,
it wouldn't be wrong to give each other time
and date someonelse to see how much you care about each other

but if you really love that person and
know that you really wanna be with him/her,
then why challenge your feelings?

[[x]Mari[x]]

Oh, lord. No way. My first "boyfriend" turned out to be gay.

[pinklove_stains]

hahaha u mean as in gay attitude or real gay?

[[x]Mari[x]]

Gay as in homosexual.

[HoodieObsessed]

god no. kill me now.


...ofcourse he was jsut across the internet so maybe it doesn't count.

[biglamchops]

ha! some think its meant to be..till they break up... Would I marry my first gf..meaning my ex... NO! Truthfully...wouldn't be that bad of a choice but we would never work.

[its_annah]

I'm currently with my first boyfriend now, and I'm in deep. lol. Like people say though, you don't know true love until it breaks you? something to that effect. You never know. The thing the sparked between you and him/her can spark again at reunions and such.
=]

[cookienmilkforna...]

yo unless its some boy meets world shit... then i dont think so

i think people should expereince different relationships and learn from each... not saying to be a pimp and f**k everything that walks on your path...

... or am i??? lol

[Kounouri]

me? i'd marry my first bf. we dated in gr 6 haha .. a very childish "fake" relationship trying to be like the big kids. but nowadays, we're best friends (it's been 3-4 years since then). i don't like him *that* way, but we've been through hell and back together, so i know we could spend our lives together .. if not as lovers, then as companions and friends.

but as far as really falling in love with him, i don't think i could, because i know him too well and he's just .. i don't know. he's the best friend guy, you know?

edit: oh sh*t yes i forgot, on a universal note, i think anyone should be able to choose whomever they want to marry. if you are really in love with your first bf, and ready for the commitment of marriage, then go for it. follow your heart, i suppose.

[one_lub_4_eva]

if i truely loved them. maybe

[SMiLEEFORMEE]

yeahh.. if you feel that they're the right one then why not

[[Mediocre]Artist]

Ugh my first boyfriend was the world's biggest geek. He was still into Pokemon years after kids my age (I was a year younger) thought it was stupid. Though he'll probably be our generation's Bill Gates because karma hates me. You'd be lucky to find someone on the first date that was worth marrying. Most people really have to dig for it.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

...I wish I could but I moved away & he lives in cleveland...well maybe I moved away when I was in the 2nd grade!!...

[sheepy]

i would if he wasnt an a-hole.

[pinayprincess]

i thought i did, but just looking back at my first bf... it was so riduculous, i mean the way we would talk about "our future"... he wasnt that kind of boyfriend you would want to be with... [as a first] so no way, i wouldnt "marry" my first..

[illumineering]

Okayyyy...that's not what I meant. But whatever.

I meant that I don't want to date too many other people and give my heart away to them and have nothing left to give the person I'm gonna marry..

dating is about sharing. if dating is about giving your heart away, stay single for a while. at least until you quit throwing yourself on people for validation. i'll bet you're a fantastic person and don't even see it. discover your own gifts before you end up suffering b/c you think you need someone to be complete.

[demolished]

are you guys sure ?

my sister and sister's bf has never broke up. it's their first boyfriend and girlfriend relationship for about 6-7 years since high school.

[pyrochick19770]

HELL NO. (:

[Rogue_Ewok]

I married mine!

[demolished]

Wow. really? congrats and good luck with him.

[topsyturvy]

I married mine!

^ Congrats!


I've noticed a lot of people are saying things like, "No, he/she's my ex now, if i wanted to marry him/her then i would've before we broke up".. But somehow i feel that this question applies better to the people that are currently in their first relationship...

So i guess the question would turn out to be something like If you're still in your first relationship now and you feel that things are stable, would you consider marriage or remain in a relationship (which you can break up, whereas in marriage you need a divorce)?

I dunno, IMO.

[xxlilsw33taznxx]

That is kind of how me and my boyfriend of one and a half year is... we love each other a lot and we do plan to marry each other... but i am only his first love... so how does he know wat love is??? I talked to him about it once but he got mad and said that I was doubting our love... so never again I ask that question... all i know is we lkove each other and we shall leave it with that.

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[funky_munky]

I dunno!
Maybe... I guess the first step for me is to actually GET a boyfriend

[AnnahhbeL]

if the date keeps on, maybe

[l_baybeexgrl_l]

hell yeah
i think that would be cool

[sheddingtears]

if i knew i really loved him for sure... past the infatuation phase and everything.

but then again, if my first was gon be high school... probably not because to me, i dont think true love is forever in high school.

[*danielle_x3*]

I wouldn't want to marry my first boyfriend whoever it is, because I'd want to go out with more guys and see what dating other people would be like . . I wouldn't want to just settle with having one boyfriend my entire life.

[yukichan]

no my first bf was nice....but he started liking someone else.......

[osidepinay33]

yea wouldn't that be niice.. if the person of ur dreamz was the first person you dated.. hey you never knoe tho