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 Jul 12 2005, 05:08 AM
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Newbie  Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 171,710  |
Ok right now ive been with this guy for 3 n a bit months and i thought it was all going ok until me n him got in a fight with my bestie and when you fight with my besties just for them fun of it, it hurts me.
But my bestie is a guy and he hates my bf because he is jealous and my bf hates my bestie cause he still likes me so now i feel like i have to chose between them and im lost because i dont want to be in that situation. Ispoke to my bestie bout it them my bf n they both have diff stories as to whats goin on, but my bf is the one pressurin me into believin him. i was thinkin of dumpin my bf because he adds all this pressure on to me where as my bestie is like believe whoever ill still be your mate so im not really sure what to do, my bf says he loves me and woulnt lie but me n my bestie have been bestie for 15yrs so i trust him more. plz help shuld i dump my bf or not? |
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Jul 12 2005, 06:21 AM
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 Like i care. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
are you still in love with your bf?
if yes, just tell him that he just have to bug off when it comes to your friends.. ok, he can be jealous.. but fighting? tell him you dont want anything with your best friend and he just have to trust you. tell your best friend too that you just want to be friends and nothing more.. if your bf doesnt, dump him.. dump him too if you dont love him anymore |
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Jul 12 2005, 07:48 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Don't dump your bf for your bestie without a good reason. Try to see this as two different issues even if the two of them are trying to get at each other. If the issue has nothing to do with you, then stay out.
You gotta have a serious conversation with your bf. Tell him he has to trust you because after all, what kind of a relationship would it be without trust, right? If he's not cool with that, then consider dumping him. |
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Jul 12 2005, 07:55 AM
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 Queen of Random Information Group: Member Posts: 825 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 157,057 |
Well.. you'd have to figure out what exactly is going on first. Otherwise.. I'd say go with your best friend, because boyfriends come and go, best friends don't.
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Jul 12 2005, 01:08 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Please learn how to spell.
Well, how long is your relationship with your boyfriend? If it's long & you really love him & you want to work things out, you definietly gna' have to talk with him. Tell him to fck' off from your friends 'bcuhs I think you don't nag about him on his friends & yeah. Don't lose your bestfriend. You known & dealt drama, issues, & a lotta' more stuff with him for 15 years & that's really long. Like half of your life time. Think things through clearly. |
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Jul 12 2005, 06:23 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
QUOTE(SillyCourtney @ Jul 12 2005, 7:55 AM) Well.. you'd have to figure out what exactly is going on first. Otherwise.. I'd say go with your best friend, because boyfriends come and go, best friends don't.  ^agreed. best friends are always there for you. but in this situation it really depends.. |
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Jul 12 2005, 06:45 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(*LITTLE PRINCESS* @ Jul 12 2005, 6:08 AM) when you fight with my besties just for them fun of it, it hurts me. you need to consider two things: does he know that ^^? and, is this the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with, some guy who fights with people to cover his own insecurities? |
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Jul 12 2005, 10:31 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
u shouldnt be askin us...we cant tell you to dump ur bf. Just do what u want but look into the future. if he continues to add stress and all then...</3
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Jul 13 2005, 05:39 PM
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 Mr.Charismatic Group: Member Posts: 175 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,383 |
bestie? like bestfriend?
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Jul 15 2005, 05:24 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
i think your bf is only pressuring you because of the rivalry between him and your best friend. have you talked it over with your 'bestie'? tell him he's being selfish. but be gentle about it, if possible
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Jul 15 2005, 09:39 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
"best friends are forever... boyfriends are what ever"
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Jul 15 2005, 09:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
hm. you need to talk to your bf to stop the pressure. You're bf is still a good guy? right? if not, dump him.
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Jul 15 2005, 11:05 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
tell them to stop bickering at eachother. and if your boyfriends pressuring you to believe him i'd think that he was the one lying. but its up to you, you dont know the real story. but if it HAD to come down to choosing, your best friend will stay by your side. unless thats the boy you plan to stay with your whole life, your best friend is the way to go.
* a bit off topic * i dont agree with that things friends are forever boys are whatever or your girls stay by your side but boys come & go. girls can come & go in a snap of a finger or the blink of an eye. its the same w/ boys too. you just have to have a unconditional love with the one you choose. so you know they ARE by your side. |
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