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I don't know how to deal with my friend
funky_munky
post Jul 9 2005, 09:29 AM
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Since I've known my friend since grade 5, I trust her with a lot of stuff (including some of my family problems).
Once, I told her something that has to do with my brother and I told her specifically not to tell anyone and she promised she wont. Then, when we were sitting in a group just having a chat and a similar topic is brought up, my friend laughs about the problem I told her like it was some funny joke.
I pulled her aside and told her to stop it and she goes "What? Its true."
What I want her to know is that, yeah its true but have you ever consider my feelings? I try to tell her that but she doesn't get it.
Then when I mention the times she's said it, she turns hostile.
Everytime I tell her something about her that bothers me, she immediatly denies it without letting me finish and turns really unfriendly.
Like, she would started questioning me "When did I do that?"

Help me out here, I can't think of a way to get her to understand that what she's doing is annoying and rude.
I've told her to her face but that just led to an argument and my other friend told me not to be so blunt stubborn.gif but... I dunno... I need some advice. cry.gif

**sorry if this is confusing sad.gif
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 10:22 AM
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mm thats kinda hard. i know what you mean though. and i give you props for talking to her, most people wouldnt even say anything before asking. im really not to sure on what you should do, because my friends done stuff like that before.. as in when i tryed to talk to her about something she gets all pissed off at me. so now i dont always say something but try to hint at it. maybe you could try that. im sorry thats she acting like that.. hope everything works out though.
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 11:53 AM
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you did the right thing. and shes still acting like a little bitch. ignore her and see what she does. and tell some of her secrets to she how SHE likes it.
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 12:29 PM
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^^ I don't agree...you did the right thing but why go down to her level? You're going to be just as bad as her if you are going to start telling secrets about her and then this is just going to end up being a really hot cat fight. You should just try talking to her again and if that doesn't work then just don't be friends with her cause she sounds like she is being a b***h.
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 12:31 PM
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QUOTE(Lo Mein @ Jul 9 2005, 12:29 PM)
^^ I don't agree...you did the right thing but why go down to her level? You're going to be just as bad as her if you are going to start telling secrets about her and then this is just going to end up being a really hot cat fight. You should just try talking to her again and if that doesn't work then just don't be friends with her cause she sounds like she is being a b***h.
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^^agree...yould be following what your friend did...i know its a hard situation...maybe your friend is just someone who can not be trusted to keep secrets that are very private...
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 12:52 PM
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Now that I think about it...maybe she has her own problems and telling other people your secrets to make herself feel better is just her thing...woah that's a big stretch...
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 02:56 PM
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QUOTE(kill me please @ Jul 9 2005, 10:22 AM)
hope everything works out though.
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Thnx! I hope so too!
 
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post Jul 9 2005, 08:54 PM
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i have a friend like that.
record yourself together, thats what im going to do. because she treats me really wrong, and doesnt even think she does. she'll tell me to die, tell me to "shut the f**k up" and say "what the hell is WRONG with you" on my choices and opinions.

just record yourselves, sit her down when your alone and tell her to just shutup and listen. if she doesnt like it.. then seriously you shouldnt be telling her things if shes going to be laughing and bringing it up when you told her not to.
 
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post Jul 11 2005, 09:35 PM
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I pulled her aside and told her to stop it and she goes "What? Its true."
What I want her to know is that, yeah its true but have you ever consider my feelings? I try to tell her that but she doesn't get it.
Then when I mention the times she's said it, she turns hostile.


dont let her interrupt when ur talking to her about it
and if she is still like that
i say ignore her
and see how she likes it
but dont say stuff about her
cuz thats wrong
i mean im jus saying
if talking to her obviously didnt work
then ignore her
and see wat happens
if she starts feeling sorry and tries to talk to you
it's ur choice whether to still be friends with her or not
 
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post Jul 12 2005, 12:37 AM
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Consider broadening your circle and make new friends. Why would you consider someone like that a friend? Quit confiding in her. It's clear she doesn't care how you feel.
 
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post Jul 12 2005, 05:44 PM
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Dishonest. If she was really your friend, she would have gone along with you even if it was true. I guess juhs don't tell her your deepest darkest secrets 'bcuhs she's juhs gna' spread the word.
 
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post Jul 28 2005, 01:10 AM
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what do you think it says....if so obvious.
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i say get a new friend .....friends like that are not way to hold ...and are worthless... _dry.gif
 

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