dance, jazz, hip hop / modern dance Options

[bogalgirl]

i totally don't get why my dad unlike all other parents is so strong against modern dancing. he keeps thinking that if i start learning it and i like it, i'll end up going to discos. he said once u learn something u want to be gud at it and do ur best so same for this, and if u're gud and u enjoy it u wudn't dance at home, u will hang out and go to discos and later have more problems. im so fricken pissed, wtf is wrong with dancing. i don't get him. what shud i do. i can't fricken persuade him.

[WhiteLotus*]

I think maybe he's just talking about the "grinding" kids do these days on the dance floor. I'm not sure. It says in the topic title," modern, jazz.." if he's talking about that kind of dancing, I don't know why he is a problem with it. Dancing is a form of self expression and no one should let you get in the way of expressing himself. It also could be that he wants you more focused on school work then going to dance classes, dance parties, etc.

Talk to him about it and why he doesn't like it ( in a mature manner). Maybe you guys can agree on something. Good luck.

[bogalgirl]

i had like 2 talks with him. and like he said he knows its a form of expressing yourself and even an activity you enjoy doing but he keeps saying why modern dance he keeps thinking that after i learn it, and if i like it i would end up putting myself in discos cuz that is where most teenagers tend to hang around in if they like dancing and he said if you learn it you will want to be good at it and he starts saying normally ppl who learn that dance aren't people who really studies not saying everyone but sigh* hez just too worried about me.

[starlette]

lol. Number one, no one goes to discos. They go to clubs. And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air. Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want. SO! I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper. Promise him you wont go clubbing. Especially since you probably cant. Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos. You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks. Does he let you go to school dances? Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things) Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things. If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it. Make a deal with him. tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about. tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever. Sign a contract. I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious. do what I used to do. I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on. Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway. If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...



Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol. Good luck sweetie. And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way. tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do. but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off. yeah. I'm done now.

[raenbow*]

ive been taking dance since i was 5, and ive been taking modern since i was about 10 [im gonna be 16 next month]. i dont understand because the modern that i take is nothing like you're all talking about... if anything, it would be hip-hop that would get you into a club. see if you can take classes and usually the dance school will put on a show/recital... try it for a year and show him that its not slutty/wild/whatever u wanna call it.

[enyceXaddiction]

I think maybe he's just talking about the "grinding" kids do these days on the dance floor. I'm not sure.  It says in the topic title," modern, jazz.." if he's talking about that kind of dancing, I don't know why he is a problem with it.  Dancing is a form of self expression and no one should let you get in the way of expressing himself. It also could be that he wants you more focused on school work then going to dance classes, dance parties, etc.

Talk to him about it and why he doesn't like it ( in a mature manner). Maybe you guys can agree on something. Good luck. 

^agreed

[yOUCANtSEEmE]

lol.  Number one, no one goes to discos.  They go to clubs.  And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air.  Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want.  SO!  I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper.  Promise him you wont go clubbing.  Especially since you probably cant.  Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos.  You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks.  Does he let you go to school dances?  Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things)  Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things.  If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it.  Make a deal with him.  tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about.  tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever.  Sign a contract.  I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious.  do what I used to do.  I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on.  Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway.  If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...
Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol.  Good luck sweetie.  And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way.  tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do.  but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off.  yeah.  I'm done now. 

i agree.
that is like everything i wanted to say. although i wouldnt have thought up the contract thing. maybe i should start using that...

[3ssx]

lol.  Number one, no one goes to discos.  They go to clubs.  And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air.  Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want.  SO!  I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper.  Promise him you wont go clubbing.  Especially since you probably cant.  Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos.  You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks.  Does he let you go to school dances?  Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things)  Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things.  If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it.  Make a deal with him.  tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about.  tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever.  Sign a contract.  I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious.  do what I used to do.  I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on.  Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway.  If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...
Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol.  Good luck sweetie.  And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way.  tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do.  but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off.  yeah.  I'm done now. 

I agree. I took hip hop before. i wouldnt go to clubs/ discos. =| (then again im not old enough). it doesnt make you want to go to those places.

[sheddingtears]

show him the type of dancing it is, and how its completely appropriate and harmless... if it is.

and maybe he thinks that you wont be home much with him, and yeah he could be missing you... so make a deal with him that you will be home and such.

[Bridget_rules_4e...]

i love dancing! lol im gonna try out for dance and spirit, my parents are happy for me. But i think ur dad doesnt want you to be grinding and break dancing and turning ghetto lol which is maybe how he sees it or dirty dancing sometimes dancing can be dirty but its fun and exercise and he really shouldnt have a problem with it.... o and going to discos.... um assure him that you wont lol... and i agree with the not being allowed to go to clubs when your younger then 18 thing that person pointed oiut but i dont know how to quote!

[KissMe2408]

lol.  Number one, no one goes to discos.  They go to clubs.  And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air.  Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most now. 

lol yah ^ kinda what i was going to say.
And by the way modern dance is very different then the dancing they do at clubs. But i think i'm going to move this to relationships.
It's asking advice about talking to your dad, so yah :)

MOVED TO RELATIONSHIPS

[michelina0kudelk...]

lol.  Number one, no one goes to discos.  They go to clubs.  And number 2, people dont dance in clubs, they have sex with the air.  Number three, you have to be 18 to get in some clubs, 21 to get in most, and by then, you will be old enough to do whatever the hell you want.  SO!  I say you present the logical points to your father, and explain to him that you want to do it to feel good and have fun, not to hump the air and act like a stripper.  Promise him you wont go clubbing.  Especially since you probably cant.  Tell him you arent doing what he sees in music videos.  You arent going to start taking extacy and run around in neon colored clothing whirling around glowsticks.  Does he let you go to school dances?  Tell him you just want to have fun, not have sex, get pregnant, do drugs, become a stripper, or pornstar, and wind up homeless. (so many parents seem to think everything leads to these things)  Explain to him that if he forbids it, it will just push you to rebel and do worse things.  If he gives you a little freedom of expression, then you wont abuse it.  Make a deal with him.  tell him if he will let you dance or whatever, that you wont do any of the things hes all paranoid about.  tell him if you do step out of the line, that you have to stop and you will pay him back for all the lessons or whatever.  Sign a contract.  I know it sounds silly, but make him realise you are serious.  do what I used to do.  I would type up a cntrct, save the file, but print one (save it so you can chang eit later if needed) then bring it to him during a time he is calm and not busy, preferrably after a meal and not when a game or tv show he likes is on.  Sit down with him like an adult and tell him exactly what you are willing to do, if he will meet you halfway.  If he STILL says no, tell him hes a jerk and you dont love him anymore and run to your room and slam the door...
Well, you dont have to do the last part, it just sounded good lol.  Good luck sweetie.  And if all else fails, get a job, earn the money yourself, and do it that way.  tell him you want to be taken more seriously and make more of your own decisions, so u got a job and you will do with that money what you want to do.  but dont say it defiantly, cuz that will just piss him off.  yeah.  I'm done now. 

I don't know about her, but where I live every Friday night is all ages night at Club 151 and the Cheeky Monkey.....aka, they don't sell alcohol on those nights and let anyone 14+ in...... that could be why shes even having discussions about going to these plaes with her dad.

[EmmalieV]

Um , did he live in the movie Foot Loose ?

Tell him that dancing is a form of expression , not something demonic.

[miss-_-guitar]

k i didnt know that there were still discos around!? anyways. just tell him that u want to dance and that u wont go to any discos unless he says u can. show him that modern dance and jazz are different from dancing at clubs. i took jazz for 5 years and its completly different that the grinding that happens at most dances